Frustrating....Need to Vent

[Wishing1010]

So, quick background on me is that DH & I have been TTC #1 for over 3 years. DR Is finally prescribing Clomid next month after believing I am not ovulating most of the time.

Let me preface this with the fact that we do not have much contact with this person. My brother-in-law just got out of prison in October (drug-dealer and drug habit issues ) and just announced last night that he got his new (also just recently got out of prison for similar charges) girlfriend pregnant. They starting trying this month and BAM...BFP. He already has a 15-year old that he never sees, and she is just so confused. Neither one has a job, car, license, etc.

Another girl I know just have a baby after losing her first 18 years ago due to negligence. She never tried to get the first one back, and hasn't changed her lifestyle. But BAM, BFP and new baby for her.

And, yet another friend, has a one night stand and conceives as well.

I'm all for being happy for others but man, why can't I catch a break? We make great money, we own our own home, I can easily stay home with a child, we are both healthy and giving...Why can't this be us. Does anyone else feel like this is all unfair sometimes? I am usually so optimistic but I am just so defeated right now.

I apologize if I upset anyone with this post, I just wanted to see if I am alone in all of this.

 

[Petzy]

You're not alone... unfortunately we cant control or predict what will happen with or to others... I know it makes it sting extra badly when you want something so bad, and someone in that position has what you want. I don't believe in fate or what is meant to be or anything like that, so its easy for me to say that when it happens for you, on top of the good qualities you clearly have already, it will make it all the more sweeter and precious for you and DH.... hopefully those people you know clean up their act for their children, but it is out of your control. Your time will come, and when it does, it will have been worth it the agonizing wait

 

[Wishing1010]

Thank you, you are absolutely right. I think I'm more emotional since I am awaiting AF. Lol! I truly do hope they can get themselves in the right position to care for and nuture their children. That is what truly matters in this situation. Oh, congrats on your recent BFP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[welshgem]

I hear ya OP. We've been trying for about 5 years and in that time I must have seen pretty much every female colleague get pregnant (some are on their 2nd even!) whilst I just sit here frustrated at the hand we've been dealt.

 

[Emmi]

You really are not alone......It's all so unfair and unjust and my God does it hurt. It's good to share and talk on here - we have to believe that our turn will finally come.

xxx

 

[Wishing1010]

Thank you, I knew there had to be more ladies feeling like I do. I wish there were no issues for us all, but I guess we will have our families when it is the right time. FX for you and GL!!!!

 

[Pinkie3]

Totally with you ladies... This has got to be one of the most frustrating and upsetting things to deal with when we are all so desperately trying for a baby. Each pregnancy announcement is like a kick in the gut (even the ones you are happy for). Its like a maternity ward in my workplace with the amount of pregnancies. My brothers girlfriend (who he was with for 5 minutes and who already has a 3 year that she cant be bothered to look after) is 5 months pregnant. She is on benefits, they have nowhere to live and up to their eyeballs in debt.

My mother in law was speaking to her gynaecologist about our situation the other day and she asked for his opinion on infertility. He said that most infertile couples come from a good hard working home, he thinks it has to do with lifestyle and stresses of everyday life. You never hear of people on benefits that cant be bothered to do a days work or don't have anything better to do than have sex struggle with infertility. I am not sure what use this information is but I found it interesting.

Here's to 2014 pregnancies and babies

 

[madtowngirl]

Girl do I hear you! I know of so many irresponsible people who get pregnant without really trying, so many who don't care about the children they are blessed with, and even more who make incredibly questionable parenting decisions that infuriate me. A coworker regularly leaves her children at home, alone, when they are sick, because it is too inconvenient for her or her husband to take the day off.

Meanwhile, there are tons of deserving ladies on this forum who would make wonderful mothers, and for various reasons, have not been blessed with them.

It's infuriating.