Fu**in cant win with anyone!!

[Jayden'sMummy]

arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!! really want to screammmm!!

my mates r never happy for me, when adam didnt want to know they bad mouthed him for fu**in of an leavin me, now there avin a go because e wants to be there for the baby, makin a effort talkin to me an cummin to see me etc. even though am bein a complete bitch to him!!
they keep sayin es takin advatage of me bu i cnt take away his right to seein his own kid !

 

[Serene123]

Tuff situation. Although, untill the babies here the baby isn't his.. If that makes sense. It's your body. You don't have to have him around while you're pregnant.

 

[leeanne]

I agree with Toria. You don't need to see him if you don't choose too! Yes, he is the father, and once the baby is born, let him have his day to be a dad. But, right now, it's you carrying the baby and it's your choice to see the dad or not.

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

so my mates are right then..

 

[Serene123]

Well, not necessarily.. If you want him involved with your pregnancy, again that's up to you. I'm just saying, if you don't, he doesn't have to be.

The balls in your court right now. It's up to you to do what you think is right for you. If you want him to experience everything then let him. F*ck what anyone else thinks.

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Well, not necessarily.. If you want him involved with your pregnancy, again that's up to you. I'm just saying, if you don't, he doesn't have to be.

The balls in your court right now. It's up to you to do what you think is right for you. If you want him to experience everything then let him. F*ck what anyone else thinks.

i want him to because i still love him, no matter how much he's hurt me! sounds mad when i actually say that to other people.
i care what my mates think thats why i am gettin so stressed about it, i no i shouldn't be bothered about what other people think but oh i don't know, i dont want to make a mistake and fu** everything up, do you know what i mean? xx

 

[Serene123]

Yeah, I know what you mean all too well. Me and Rich have broken up a few times while I've been pregnant and I could never stop him from being involved just because I have feelings for him and if he's not around then I'd just feel bad, I'm not sure whether feeling bad is because he's not involved and that might hurt him or because I just need him around. My friends don't think too highly of him after how he reacted to this pregnancy but they deal with it because they have to. I'm sure your friends will do the same, they're just trying to help (even if they're really not).

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Makes sense!

they've been really OVER-protective since i got pregnant and it drives me nuts!!

 

[Serene123]

Better for them to be over-protective than not care atall though? I hope you sort things, about time you had something good happen to be honest!!

 

[Wobbles]

Like the others I agree that right now you are pregnant & he doesn't need to be about right now unless your happy for that.

they keep sayin es takin advatage of me bu i cnt take away his right to seein his own kid !

Situations like this are never easy if he is taking advantage of you in any way then you have to look out for you as well as baby but just to twist your words a little with the best intentions ....what about taking your babies rights away to see and bond with his Daddy?

I often think unless theres violence, abuse, hard drugs involved then sometimes Mum & Dad have to be adult about it and do whats best for baby but lay it down that hey your not going to be trampled on.

You mates shouldn't really get involved but people always butt in huh. You'll come to whats right for you in the end.

Good luck sweetie x

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Better for them to be over-protective than not care atall though? I hope you sort things, about time you had something good happen to be honest!!

was thinkin the same thing me self, i had adam wantin to b a dad i found out i dont av to move out few anufa few months n i av started tlkin to this lad hu i really like n now they start stressin me owtt frigs sake haha

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Like the others I agree that right now you are pregnant & he doesn't need to be about right now unless your happy for that.


Situations like this are never easy if he is taking advantage of you in any way then you have to look out for you as well as baby but just to twist your words a little with the best intentions ....what about taking your babies rights away to see and bond with his Daddy?

I often think unless theres violence, abuse, hard drugs involved then sometimes Mum & Dad have to be adult about it and do whats best for baby but lay it down that hey your not going to be trampled on.

You mates shouldn't really get involved but people always butt in huh. You'll come to whats right for you in the end.

Good luck sweetie x

why cant i see things these ways?
maybe im not as mature an grown up as i thought i was ... maybe am just bein stupit ? whos knows hey.
i want him to be there + i dnt wanna take away their rights of bein able to bond with eachother bu i dont want to be messed about either!
i guess il av to leave things n just let them pan out as they are ment to be. xx

 

[Wobbles]

Don't put yourself down I think you just have feelinsg and emotions like every other person & I'm guessing although not sure on situation a little let down by this lad. And on top your pregnant .... its all TEN TIMES WORSE!

Let it pan out as you say hun you will kn ow what you feel when your little bundle is in your arms. You'll know whats right.

Most definately don't be messed about and when baby is here you certainly don't need it. always plan things around YOU and if he doesn't show then you've not gone out of your way, cancel other plans for him to let you down - do you see what I am saying/suggesting?

 

[mBLACK]

Just be careful, even if it hurts you if you know that he may very well be taking advantage of you or just causing more drama I suggest you lay off speaking with him until the baby comes, to reduce the stress sent to the baby if he is just being a dick. It may be hard but you and only you know what's best for yourself and your LO. Good luck. xx

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Don't put yourself down I think you just have feelinsg and emotions like every other person & I'm guessing although not sure on situation a little let down by this lad. And on top your pregnant .... its all TEN TIMES WORSE!

Let it pan out as you say hun you will kn ow what you feel when your little bundle is in your arms. You'll know whats right.

Most definately don't be messed about and when baby is here you certainly don't need it. always plan things around YOU and if he doesn't show then you've not gone out of your way, cancel other plans for him to let you down - do you see what I am saying/suggesting?

Yeh thanks.
i know i wont let im mess me around or my baby for that matter.
last night he made a comment about when he is comin the hospital when am in labour ( because he smokes weed) e sed es goin to b smashed for wen e comes in the hospital so e is calmer n e doesnt wana hear me in pain so i said if e even thinks about turnin up smashed il smash is face in n thatl b the end of it. this is his last chance so e best not fu** it up. xx

 

[lfc_sarah]

Aww your mates are just trying to be good friends...
Im guessing they've seen you hurt over your ex before..
And noone likes to see their mates upset or whatever.

Its up to you weather you want him around now or not.
If you give him a chance and he messes it up, then you dont have to see him during your pregnancy if you dont want to..

Dont just not see him because of what your friends think either though.
Im sure they'll still be there supporting you whatever he does...

xxx