getting frustrated, feeling depressed..

[youngmommy26]

hey ladies, so I am just having a down day today. me and dh have been TTC#2 for almost 2 years now. I was feeling hopeful this cycle, had a triphasic chart and was feeling so many symptoms, but then AF showed up really heavy and painful this cycle. she finally stopped last night. Dh wants to wait until I see the Dr on the 5th of Febuary before we try again to make sure everything is ok down there. as I had to have my Mirena surgically removed 2 years ago. I think maybe the surgery has made me infertile. I'm just about to give up on the forums. this last cycle I had been talking with some other women on here we were both in the TWW and being "cycle buddies" well they were pretty supportive, but mostly just wanted to talk about themselves. Then a lot of them got their bfp's this month and then totally threw me aside, like they didn't want to hear my sob story anymore, and "it will happen for you when it's suppose to happen" I hate when ladies say that to me who just got their bfp. just a few days ago, you wanted help because you were feeling symptoms and what not, but now that you got yours you don't want to talk about it anymore. I feel totally lost. I don't know, I just wanted to vent. I feel defeated.

 

[tulip1975]

It's difficult when everyone is moving on.

I don't really know what to say except that you are not alone.

Getting some answers from your doctor may help you feel more in control of things than you have recently.

Good luck to you!

 

[steph_466]

hey ladies, so I am just having a down day today. me and dh have been TTC#2 for almost 2 years now. I was feeling hopeful this cycle, had a triphasic chart and was feeling so many symptoms, but then AF showed up really heavy and painful this cycle. she finally stopped last night. Dh wants to wait until I see the Dr on the 5th of Febuary before we try again to make sure everything is ok down there. as I had to have my Mirena surgically removed 2 years ago. I think maybe the surgery has made me infertile. I'm just about to give up on the forums. this last cycle I had been talking with some other women on here we were both in the TWW and being "cycle buddies" well they were pretty supportive, but mostly just wanted to talk about themselves. Then a lot of them got their bfp's this month and then totally threw me aside, like they didn't want to hear my sob story anymore, and "it will happen for you when it's suppose to happen" I hate when ladies say that to me who just got their bfp. just a few days ago, you wanted help because you were feeling symptoms and what not, but now that you got yours you don't want to talk about it anymore. I feel totally lost. I don't know, I just wanted to vent. I feel defeated.

Hey hun, im 24 and have been ttc for 2.5 years. I hear your pain.. If you need a buddy add me.. send me private messages, I will listen and try to help ya through anything I can. I hate this ttc and wish there was a simple fix for all of us, sadly its just not that easy. The emotional side of it is a real killer.

 

[pennymarie]

Sorry it's been like that for you youngmommy.

What's your story been like for the past year? Please feel free to talk about yourself! I've heard of mirena causing severe inflammation which causes infertility, but it's easily fixed once confirmed (though tricky to confirm). But after a month a so of getting back to normal I've had two friends recover from PID, one with a Laparoscopy and one not.

 

[Miaw]

Awww hun *hug* I am so sorry for you, I know that kind of pain all too well, when you really think this is your month only to be disappointed once again.

We are in similar situations, me and my fiancé have been TTC for just over 2 years as well. The two year mark is a hard one. We also started seeing a fertility specialist in December, and before that in november was that same horrible cycle so we took a break until seeing the doctor and OMG it felt SO GOOD, just to stop a little bit.

You should try doing the same, it really did help with us, and besides when you try for so long you just know something is wrong (could be something not too bad, it does not have to be awful) but waiting until you know just what your situation is feels much better.

I apologize if I am sounding confusing here, I don't mean to scare you.

About the other things you said, I am sorry you didn't get very nice buddies. You should not give up on the forums because of a few people, there is so many great people on here, amazing ladies who will listen to you. I am so sorry you got fed the bullshit line of "it will happen for you when it's suppose to happen" That is so wrong on so many levels.

I find that if you stick around here, even during the TWW, you will find people who understand. In the TWW forums there is mostly ladies who have not been TTC for a very long time, so it's hard for them to understand.

If you still need a buddy, feel free to add me. I would love to be your friend.

 

[JJKCB]

we are relatively similar... im trying to conceive no 2 and nearly 2 years of trying properly... I think ive always had hormone issues (high prolactin test in the past) but since lap surgery in November my cycles are impossible to map anymore, I was supposed to have an appointment with FS on the 10th of feb but they for no reason have bumped it back to the 4th of march (im sure its just a month to them but its a lifetime to me)

I dont know what else to say other than your not alone, their is many like us so you can always post here when AF rears her ugly head

 

[youngmommy26]

thanks for all the friendly support ladies, sorry I was gone, I just needed to get away from all of this for awhile. but I got my positive OPK a few minutes ago, so that's always a good thing. I have one more softcup left, so going to use it tonight. We also BD last night as well. and will tomarrow just to be on the safe side. I refuse to give up, But I will be posting in this section from now on, I can't relate to anyone in the TTC section, and everyone just wants to tell me it will happen when it's my time, and it's making me angry, I don't want to flip out on anyone, so I will just stay away.

 

[mod19]

Sorry you're going through this. Defeat is exactly how I've described it to people as well. I'm sure nothing I say at this point is going to make you feel better, but I just want to say that whatever it is that you're feeling; its OK. I've finally realized to embrace my emotions instead of hide them and it feels like so much stress has been lifted off of my shoulders. Whatever you feel you need to say you can say it here: anger, happiness, sadness, frustration...anything. Say it, get it out, and do what you need to do.

 

[pennymarie]

I think a certain amount of anger is needed in life. We are human.

But yay to the opk! I've never understood how soft cups works? I just know it's another aide?

 

[youngmommy26]

the way I understand it, is it hold the sperm up to the cervix, keeps it from leaking out. seems to work for me, I don't get any leaking with it. Sometimes I even have DH do his business inside the cup and just slide it on it..

 

[pennymarie]

Hahaha. Oh the things we do! If I were to explain this to anyone else, they would think I was insane!