Getting over your EX.

[ZombieQueen]

I've been struggling to get over my husband, it feels like I fall more and more into this dark pit of sadness everyday, like the more I'm away from him, the more I forget the bad and remember the good times.. Then I just get more heartbroken.. I feel like I'm spiraling downward.. So I've decided to make him as unattractive to myself as possible, I'm going to make a list of all the things I don't like about him and focus on those until eventually (hopefully) I'll find him repulsive! Anyone is welcome to join me!

He's a compulsive liar, a repetitive cheater, he can't grow a beard , terrible kisser, the sex was lousy, he's a narcissist, he's selfish, he's ignorant, he's lazy, he's a QUITER, he's slow, he has terrible morals, he has a hairy ass, he has hairy feet, he has scary looking toes, he has weird eyebrows, he's cheap, he's a coward, he's spends too much time playing video games, he can never keep a promise, he can't pass any shiny surface without stopping to look at himself, he's delusional, he always cooks the same things, he's a complainer, he doesn't appreciate anything, he constantly has stomach aches, he never took me out, he has prostate problems, he's negative, he's always thinking he's sick, he wears ugly shoes, he's forgetful, he's too skinny, he has a farmer's tan, he's arrogant, he has squinty eyes, he thinks he can do no wrong, he's sneaky, he's creepy, he was mean to the dog, he's two-faced, he has ugly hair, he's a procrastinator, he's going no where in life, he's flaky, he can't dance, he has duck feet.

I'll add more when I think of it, but I already feel better

 

[emeraldbaby]

hugs
I understand what you mean. I left my husband. He was abusive, and I am pregnant with his baby. I go through many emotions everyday... wishing he was different so we could've worked, wishing I could trust him, wishing he knew how to love, wishing I wasn't alone in this pregnancy, wishing I had a partner for the birth and every milestone of the baby's life, wishing he would acknowledge his behaviour and get help... SO MANY THINGS!
It hurts to be alone, but we can't forget how miserable we were with them before and let sentimentality cloud out the reality .
The truth is our babies welfare is the most important thing and it is better they grow up in a peaceful, safe, happy environment with 1 parent, than going through and witnessing things innocent children shouldn't have to in order to make sure they have contact with 2 parents.
You will be ok. We will both be ok. x

 

[whatwillbe]

He sounds just like my fob! Sure they wernt seperated at birth!? Lol, thwt is a good way of thinking to help get over them x

 

[KayBea]

im desperate to get over my ex...
he changed his facebook pic yesterday to him & some girl & also the big pic u put at the top & i havnt stopped throwing up since..
since we split up he always had a pic of LO on both!

he was meant to come & see LO at 9.30 today & spend the day with her & guess what? HES NOT BLOODY TURNED UP!!!!!
ive rung & text him once but no reply
just gutted for LO, if she was old my god she would be gutted!
hes always late when coming to see her buy like 30/40 mins which annoys me but this is a whole other bloody level!! x

 

[AnnabelsMummy]

Ahh, i'd join ya, but i think i'm mostly over my EX now.. Wasn't an easy ride though!

Maybe try writing about 20 really good points about yourself too - putting it somewhere you can see it (might seem vein, but cummon, we all have good points). That should cheer you up, or get honest people around you to tell you 20 good points about you.

As for the not turning up etc, maybe just lay our cards on the table and say if he doesn't keep turning up, it's not fair on her to get her hopes up, maybe it's worth thinking about whether he should even see her - i was on the recieving end of this, and as children are so wraped up in them (of course!) they blame themselves, so she'll think if i run faster and am prettier and am louder daddy will turn up on time, or come and see me.. that's not fair.

 

[teal]

Agree with annabelsmummy about writing up your good points

 

[ZombieQueen]

Lol, I'm totally not ready to try to find 20 good points about me. but possibly in the future!

Maybe I'll also make a list of requirements for my future man even if they're outrageous, I won't settle for the scum that is my ex husband.

Kaybea - I'm sorry he didn't turn up! that's awful, how can they so easily put other things above their child? I just don't understand... My FOB is currently out drinking with a group of friends (probably meeting women), blowing money on alcohol instead of saving to come and MEET his daughter for the first time...

It's funny though, as soon as I wrote this list out and looked at it like "damn, what was I doing with this jerk?" he suddenly has been texting and calling more, even spoke of transferring military units to be here and trying to make things work

And ladies, don't be afraid to add your FOB "things you don't like" list! it feels great to write it.

 

[Rhio92]

Oooo good idea I've done this a few times, but fuck it...

- He lies all the time. I can't believe a word that comes out of his mouth
- he is unable to take responsibility for anything
- he thinks calling someone names and putting them down is acceptable behaviour
- he blames me for his shitty little life (see 2nd point)
- he thinks he's amazing. He's not.
- He's weird looking
- He smells
- He doesn't brush his teeth
- He's crap at sex
- His willy is abnormally big, which means that no woman can have sex without feeling extreme pain, thus not being pleasurable
- he's thick as 2 short planks
- his voice does my head in
- all he talks about is work
- he spends all his money on cars, which then get seized by the police. Money wasted.
- he doesn't understand that car insurance etc is his responsibility (again, see point 2)
- he thinks he's good looking. He's not.
- He thinks he's really hard. He's a wimp.
- He always goes on about how he's going to 'bang' someone
- He swears in every sentence
- He's a twat
- He thinks he's exempt from having to pay maintenance
- He's a useless dad
- I get texts saying 'I miss you' etc, even though he apparently has a girlfriend
- He cheats, but for some reason, in his head, what he does isn't cheating
- he bullies people (me, my little brother, his younger sister, his mum. Not his brother though, because his brother is bigger than him, and would put him in his place easily)
- He's illiterate
- He thinks he God's gift to women (if that's true, I'm asking God for the receipt to take him back)

This list is extensive, and is subject to points being added at any time. It's unlikely that any points will need to be deleted, but hey, you can dream.

 

[ZombieQueen]

- He cheats, but for some reason, in his head, what he does isn't cheating

My FOB too.... I seriously just spoke to him on the phone and he was accusing me of cheating because I was friends with a guy from work (we hung out literally 2-3 times) and this guy had feelings for me (which I had already made clear to said guy that they were ONE sided) and when I told him THAT was not cheating he said "well then what is?" and I told him buying condoms, making out with, having sex with.. like he did with his girl.. and he told me he's not a cheater because he was already over our relationship, even though he failed to report this to me.. he then tries to justify that fucked up statement by telling me he had been over our relationship for a long time and had been talking to his friend about it.... He claims he just wasn't "ready" to tell me... I called him a coward.

 

[KayBea]

ive written a list of all his bad points.. feel better (well a bit) so thanks for that idea!!
i tried writting his good points & all there was is the fact i love him

im still fuming he didnt turn up & hes still not said anything about it.. too busy i suppose!! ahh well f*** him!!
xx

 

[ZombieQueen]

Lol I don't want to write his good points because as bad as he is, he does have a few good points too.

But yeah, I'm sorry he didn't show, its his loss though, he's the one missing out on his child.

 

[KayBea]

feel like launching myself at him in court tomorrow.. thats if he turns up!
x

 

[mommyoftwo84]

He thinks he God's gift to women (if that's true, I'm asking God for the receipt to take him back)

Lmfao! That is one of the best things i have ever heard/read!!!

 

[Ersurgeongirl]

- He cheats, but for some reason, in his head, what he does isn't cheating

My FOB too.... I seriously just spoke to him on the phone and he was accusing me of cheating because I was friends with a guy from work (we hung out literally 2-3 times) and this guy had feelings for me (which I had already made clear to said guy that they were ONE sided) and when I told him THAT was not cheating he said "well then what is?" and I told him buying condoms, making out with, having sex with.. like he did with his girl.. and he told me he's not a cheater because he was already over our relationship, even though he failed to report this to me.. he then tries to justify that fucked up statement by telling me he had been over our relationship for a long time and had been talking to his friend about it.... He claims he just wasn't "ready" to tell me... I called him a coward.

hahaha mine did the same thing... he said he was over it for a long time but was afraid to tell me... ended up cheating/finding a new gf when i was 8 weeks pregnant... oh hello? why did we plan this baby and you helped me conceive him?

his answer: it would be cool to have a kid to play board games with.

 

[ZombieQueen]

wow! men are idiots!