getting slightly concerned about xgf

[stevon111]

Hey All!!

Just came and thought i would make a post in regards to my Xgf as i dont know if shes really struggling at the moment and what i can do to help.

ive had faye over the past 2 days fri evening till sunday morning (2 nights) and i handed faye over to my Xgf yesterday at 11am and i went off to town to have a look around the shops.
30 mins later i get a text from My Xgf saying she was now starting to see someone else and it was getting quite serious and that she didnt want to tell me face to face becouse she didnt know how i would react about it and that this person has not met my daughter just yet and that she still loved me as the father to faye and that she wouldnt change the way she was around faye or anything like that...my text back basically said...i have no problem in you seeing someone else now becouse we are both adults and we both have to move on in our life and as long as you are looking after faye in the best way possible and putting her first and also sticking with the times i have agreed to see faye then i have no problems whatsoever.
her reply was basically thanks for understanding and i have spoken to the lad im now seeing and he fully accepts that i have to put faye first etc.

anyways it gets to 10pm and i get a text from my xgf saying ffs im sick of this...i cant look after faye on my own ..i dont understand how shes a little princess 4 u but 4 me shes nothing but a pain! i need more help steven and i cant physically do this anymore

alarm bells started ringing and i offered to go and see her for 30 mins so we could talk properly about things and this was 10:15 at night. i just get a reply saying that faye has now went to bed and that my xgf was exhausted.

now... this is where i need the advice i guess.

faye is in such an unstable life to be honest shes passed between my house and my xgfs and its not fayes fault that shes just so so unsettled its just something i have to put up with i guess when me and xgf have split up together due to her cheating on me.

i have faye in a very good set routine at my house but things again could be very very different when shes at my xgfs so i think i need to speak to her about getting faye into a good routine to help her in life.

and lastly i really want to help my xgf with faye even though shes totally ruined me i still will support her when faye is involved but i cannot help the times i have faye becouse i work 12 hour shifts at work.
lastly i find things yesterday very strange with the timing of the messages i got from her 1 saying she has met someone else then late at night that she just cannot handle faye


any advice out there peeps? x

 

[Laura2919]

Yeah I have some

Tell your ex that you can help her but if she doesnt put LO into a routine you cant be expected to go round there every time to help her. She needs to be able to do it herself. Tell her the routine you have for LO and see if she can work with that.

Unfortunately its not ideal having LO spend time at another house and then back again but it has to be done.
My girls go to FOB every other weekend Friday afternoon to Sunday evening and when they come back I have them straight back into the routine I would normally have. Your LO will soon understand how it is. Its probably because there isnt a set routine for her that she plays up.
She has to stick with it or she will have her playing up all the time.