Well sometimes its just the way things go..and why shouldnt you want a baby at 40 plus? Its so strange because years ago, noone batted an eyelid as many many women gave birth at that age..just follow your family history! Well, i had twins at 19 [ unplanned] and a son at 21 [planned]. I loved my kids but always felt i was missing out. I trained as my kids grew up as a teacher, qualified and got a job and then had a strong yearning for a baby again at 38. Most people thought i was mad but some looked upon in envy at how lucky i was to 'do it all again' Well i fell pregnant within a month of trying and then decided after having my baby daughter, i fell pregnant with my ds and had him at 40. I am now expecting my last baby at 42! It took a little longer..with a chemical inbetween but 5 months in totals not bad for my age!!! Dont give up hope and dont listen to the negativity..do whats in your heart. x
mum your so right about what you said,"do whats in your heart"my heart tells me not to give up but my head is saying give up,its not going to happen,not now.
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that is why i have given up,i feel im 43 and to old,i will be 44 in march,i dont look it or feel it but i guess my inside does
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but the thing thats killing me is my oh,he is 33 and never had a child and i feel so bad that i cant give him one,he says if it happens great but if not it doesnt matter as he has me and my boys
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but surly deep down he must want to know what its like to be a dad,to hold your baby for the 1st time,ect,even if he says he doesnt mind if it never happens,i feel very guilty for taking that away from him
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ok i know 43 is not old to be trying as there are many who have them at my age and older,i just feel its to old for me,why cant i be one of the ones who get a bfp at 43,i just wish it was me and although i have said i have given up,its still there in the back of my mind,what if it would have been this month for my bfp and i didnt try
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im so confused with it all
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sorry for my rant
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but as mum says,do whats in your heart hun and never mind others,its your body,your life and fx your baby,if it feels right for you,go for it.
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