wildworld
Pregnant - 1st trimester
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I am 26, and my DF is 28.
My DF had ulcerative colitis, and for years, he was on medication, including steroids, which affected sperm count, sex drive etc. For around four of those years, we had been 'not trying, but not preventing'. I wasn't tracking ovulation or temping. The whole illness thing was a stressful time for us both; mainly DF obviously. I was on and off birth control a few times over the years. He had surgery over a year ago now and is rid of his illness. We have been ttc since then.
We are currently on cycle 14 (AF is almost gone), and since starting ttc in June 2013, I've been using period tracker to track ovulation, and strips from ebay. I didn't use the the strips for cycle 12 or 13 as I'm running low on strips, and I know when I'm ovulating.
However, I'm thinking of giving up ttc. I still want a baby, more than ever now if anything. But DF just isn't into it.
Lately, the most sex we've been having is only three or four times a MONTH, sometimes two. I'm lucky if it falls in my fertile WEEK, never mind when I'm actually ovulating. I work, but he doesn't as there is barely any work going where we live. I know he stresses about money but I do hope he gets work soon. He hasn't given me a proper 'reason' for not wanting to have sex (though he has mentioned money in the past.) When I initiate it in bed, he's always 'too tired' or my favourite, 'I came to bed to sleep'. Like really?!
As it's cycle 14 now, tonight I suggested we go to the doctors together soon to talk and get tested, and he just said 'we don't have money for all those tests they'll do'. I'm at my wits' end... like if he physically couldn't give me a baby, fine, but if he WON'T, that's something else.
What do you all think?
Dust to all who need it x
ETA: the reason I'm thinking of giving up ttc is because the months we BD'd when I was ovulating, I was upset to have still gotten BFNs. Now it's harder KNOWING I won't get a BFP. I've mentioned giving up to DF and he said 'whatever you like'.
My DF had ulcerative colitis, and for years, he was on medication, including steroids, which affected sperm count, sex drive etc. For around four of those years, we had been 'not trying, but not preventing'. I wasn't tracking ovulation or temping. The whole illness thing was a stressful time for us both; mainly DF obviously. I was on and off birth control a few times over the years. He had surgery over a year ago now and is rid of his illness. We have been ttc since then.
We are currently on cycle 14 (AF is almost gone), and since starting ttc in June 2013, I've been using period tracker to track ovulation, and strips from ebay. I didn't use the the strips for cycle 12 or 13 as I'm running low on strips, and I know when I'm ovulating.
However, I'm thinking of giving up ttc. I still want a baby, more than ever now if anything. But DF just isn't into it.
Lately, the most sex we've been having is only three or four times a MONTH, sometimes two. I'm lucky if it falls in my fertile WEEK, never mind when I'm actually ovulating. I work, but he doesn't as there is barely any work going where we live. I know he stresses about money but I do hope he gets work soon. He hasn't given me a proper 'reason' for not wanting to have sex (though he has mentioned money in the past.) When I initiate it in bed, he's always 'too tired' or my favourite, 'I came to bed to sleep'. Like really?!
As it's cycle 14 now, tonight I suggested we go to the doctors together soon to talk and get tested, and he just said 'we don't have money for all those tests they'll do'. I'm at my wits' end... like if he physically couldn't give me a baby, fine, but if he WON'T, that's something else.
What do you all think?
Dust to all who need it x
ETA: the reason I'm thinking of giving up ttc is because the months we BD'd when I was ovulating, I was upset to have still gotten BFNs. Now it's harder KNOWING I won't get a BFP. I've mentioned giving up to DF and he said 'whatever you like'.