Going through miscarriage without partner's support

[friendbee]

Hi all, I am really struggling with the lack of support from my now ex partner. After telling him I needed more support as he showed me very little, he decided to deny that I was ever pregnant and had a miscarriage at all. I was so hurt and shocked by this and that it would be used as an excuse to not be supportive of me. He is no longer in my life and I am so upset as this is not the first time I have experienced this miscarriage by myself. There is something so much more painful about missing support from that particular person. I am considering looking for a grief counselor. I don't know how to do this alone, again.

I would never be grateful to lose a child but I am grateful my child will never have known they were not wanted. It feels so unfair to have to even consider being grateful for that and it just breaks my heart.

 

[mamatoangel]

OMG please feel free to contact me I went through mine in March and am going through it completely alone feel as if there no one who understands it but me and im still trying so hard to cope but it feels like im getting no where...

 

[KittenLifter]

Oh my goodness, how horrible of him!! Good riddance. Ugh. I'm just so mad on your behalf.

Do you have any friends or family who could support you?

I'm also ALL for getting some counseling; having a third party who's trained and ready to help you process everything in a supportive environment can make a world of difference. You should not have to do this all alone; that's just so much.

 

[BabyG2016]

I am a little over a year out from my miscarriage. Like you, my boyfriend couldn't handle what was going on and removed himself from my life. We had contact throughout the year, with him telling me he wanted to be with me but that he had to get some other things taken care of first. I finally realized last week that nothing was going to change and he would always shut me out instead of letting me in.

Going through a miscarriage, alone, was never anything I thought I would do. And never something I would have thought Matt would let me go through alone. It has been the worst experience of my life, and I am so sorry you are going through this. While your baby's dad may not be there, you aren't alone, I promise.

Love and prayers.

 

[MamaBearEl]

You are not alone. And there are so many mixed up thoughts during this time. Don't feel guilty for a single one.