motherofboys
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So as most of you know I've been getting A LOT of boy guesses on my 12 week scan. I feel like I've had my 20 week scan and been told 100% boy. I've actually been in tears today which I know is stupid, but even researching nubs that have looked like one and turned out to be another I still feel like I'm just kidding myself and its a boy.
The problem is I don't feel I'm bonding yet with this baby, all I could do at my scan yesterday was look for gender clues, I didn't enjoy the scan like I should have done. I'm worried that when I do know the gender if it is indeed a boy I still wont bond! I keep saying I will love it whatever, but I'm scared I wont, at least not at first.
I had post natal depression after my 2nd son, not because he was a boy because I really wasn't bothered with him, or even with my 3rd son (who I didn't get depressed after)
I know post natal depression comes in many forms but for me I didn't bond with my son, I didn't love him or want him, in fact I hated him! Now I love him just as much as I do the others, but it took until he was 2 years old for me to feel truely bonded to him and that he was my son rather than a child I was looking after.
I'm really scared that I wont bond again just because the baby is a boy and I'll end up back where I was 5 years ago. I really can't go through that again.
And its shown me that I can't not find and have a surprise at the end or I'd be even worse.
The problem is I don't feel I'm bonding yet with this baby, all I could do at my scan yesterday was look for gender clues, I didn't enjoy the scan like I should have done. I'm worried that when I do know the gender if it is indeed a boy I still wont bond! I keep saying I will love it whatever, but I'm scared I wont, at least not at first.
I had post natal depression after my 2nd son, not because he was a boy because I really wasn't bothered with him, or even with my 3rd son (who I didn't get depressed after)
I know post natal depression comes in many forms but for me I didn't bond with my son, I didn't love him or want him, in fact I hated him! Now I love him just as much as I do the others, but it took until he was 2 years old for me to feel truely bonded to him and that he was my son rather than a child I was looking after.
I'm really scared that I wont bond again just because the baby is a boy and I'll end up back where I was 5 years ago. I really can't go through that again.
And its shown me that I can't not find and have a surprise at the end or I'd be even worse.