Good arguments arguments for having another baby

[gingerbaby4us]

Greetings ladies, I am currently having a bit of "baby fever." We have two girls, the youngest is 7 months. My husband has been talking vasectomy since before we left the hospital this time! I said no way, no vasectomy yet and got an iud. I have always wanted a big family and I think 3 kids is a good compromise. He feels like two is enough. I am trying to convince him a third child would further enrich our lives and our children's. Does anyone have any good arguments for having more kids?

 

[callmedan]

just tell him how you feel! your opinion and desires should be enough to change his mind

 

[Lizzybee]

Because its fun trying to make one!

 

[stellaluna431]

As one of three that are very close in age, I can tell you from a child's standpoint that your kids will always have a friend (if I was mad at one brother, I always had the other to play with). They'll have twice the back-up when kids are bullies, or when life gets hard. I know our family wouldn't be complete with just two of us- it's always been "us three" as we've always referred to ourselves, or all three of our names slurred together as one.

I can't tell you the pros from our parents' POV, especially since they were teen parents, my dad had a drinking problem, and they had some serious financial problems (read: teen parents with three kids under three). My H and I are only planning on two- he also comes from a family with three kids. But I used to always say I wanted three, because that's what feels complete to me.

Sorry if this doesn't help, but maybe seeing someone's experiences as one of three will help

 

[LuvallmyH]

I can tell you that Every Single older couple I have met that have grown children tell me that they wish they had more. Especially the ones with 2! We have 7 and we always say that you will never regret the children you have, but you will regret the one you wanted but didn't have. Hope that helps

 

[cherrylips100]

It might just seem a little daunting to him at the moment as your youngest is still little. Me and dh would both like another but he would rather wait a bit longer than me. I don't think there is much you can say, other than maybe pointing out the positives of families you know with three children.

 

[gingerbaby4us]

I love that....you will never regret the children that you have but you will always regret the ones you don't have. I'll use that line for sure!

 

[Noodlebear]

I also think that line is fab! I'll remember that as I'm already pretty sure I'll want more kids than my OH will I think you should give it time before trying to make a decision. When LO was 7 months there was no way I'd have been open to the idea of having another, he might feel differently when she's a bit bigger. The main thing is to remember to listen. You may have a slightly different idea right now but neither one of you is wrong. You'll both have legitimate reasons for your decisions and you should be able to talk it through

 

[tverb84]

I would ask him if he's sure that he doesn't want anymore children if you haven't already.