good or bad picking baby up all the time?

[mylittlebubs]

i don't think so. I like to pick up my baby before he gets distressed, BUT mil says it's not good. He will be spoilt
He's a good baby and very happy and all our friends say so and i don't think it's a problem giving him cuddles and hold him a lot
don't you think?

 

[MoonMuffin]

No it's not a problem, they can't get spoiled from cuddles! That generation is very stuck on the idea of picking up babies when they cry means they will be spoiled. I think that it actually helps build their trust in you. Sure if you pick him up at every tiniest whine then maybe they can be spoiled, but I think they get spoiled from giving them everything they want when they are a bit older (like sweets and toys whenever they ask for them, etc.). If he's a good baby an he's happy, then your doing everything right. Your baby's happiness it the most important thing, and it sounds like he is so I wouldn't worry.

 

[coccyx]

I always pick them up, not at every whimper though. Agree with moonmuffin, its when they are older and get everything they want that makes them spoilt. A kiss and a cuddle costs nothing

 

[princess_bump]

i agree, i always picks maddi up and give her a big old cuddle! i could never let her cio! she's such a good baby that i couldn't not x

 

[Sarah88]

If Savannah is just having a little whinge and I know nothing is wrong then i'll leave her for a little bit otherwise I pick her up as soon as I can.

 

[Blah11]

You can'tspoil a 7 month old. And even so, spoiling them with love isn't a bad thing IMO.

 

[Blob]

You cant spoil a baby they dont know what it is... anyhow your baby you do what you think is right

 

[baby D]

ditto everything that has already been said.....besides, there will come a time when baby doesn't want cuddles, but wants to be put down to play - so make the most of it, i say!

xxx

 

[sabby52]

It is your baby and hun you do what you feel comfortable with but I am afraid I have to disagree with the rest of the girls, I feel babies can be spoilt, if you pick up a baby eveytime it cries it will learn that when it cries it will get lifted, I am proof. Dan got lifted at every little whimper and was severely spoilt by the age of 9-10 months he knew when he cried he would get lifted and he came to expect it, but Dec a whole other story, if he whimpered he didnt get lifted, he learned to settle himself and is way more independent than Dan every was. Dont get me wrong they both got the same amount of cuddles and love. A baby learns by what we teach it. But again hun it is you baby and do what is best for you and bubs xx

 

[Vickie]

You are his mother and you know what's best. I pick Hannah up if I think she's getting distressed but with her she has a whine that I ignore (can tell the difference between truly upset and just whining for attention )

 

[emma_27]

Mils are insane arent they! How can you pick up and cuddle your baby to much??? I think that generation had totally different parenting techniques! My mil always comes out with crappy comments like you shouldnt hold her all the time you should always leave them crying to sleep and you should wean solids from 6 weeks! Its no wonder my dp is insecure with hisself and he also does really like food. I wonder why lol
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[AC81]

He's your baby so you pick him up if you want. My MIL is exactly the same "she's always in your arms... bla bla bla". I don't think babies can get spoilt by cuddles and being picked up. I do agree though that there's a difference between a cry and a whinge. I don't pick Erin up when she whinges (not usually anyway) and as a result she's very independent and great at settling herself.

 

[1st_baby]

The way I see it we carried them for 9 months right ?? there used to us being there so why ion gods name should we leave them be once there born ?? I pick up my son as much as I can and thats because 1 I love him to bits 2 he will one day be too big for cuddles

 

[isil]

I pick up my son as much as I can and thats because 1 I love him to bits 2 he will one day be too big for cuddles

aww

Alasdair is going through a very whiney stage at the moment. If I picked him up everytime he whinged he'd be constantly attached to me. He's a big boy and things like cooking and handling a boiling kettle are best done without a child attached to your hip! Generally though, I pick him up when I feel his whining is turning into crying or when it drives me mad! He just tends to crawl after me now anyway. I guess they just want to be with us.

 

[xXDonnaXx]

My mum said the same to me, that I pick her up too much. She will get clingy. And cry when she's put down. I don't think you can give too many cuddles, but I do think they can get clingy if their being picked up all the time. Lexie is noticing if she's put down and cries, mummy will pick her up. Oops. She's alright sometimes, but then other times she cries as soon as I put her down and I dont have time do anything.

 

[mylittlebubs]

My mum said the same to me, that I pick her up too much. She will get clingy. And cry when she's put down. I don't think you can give too many cuddles, but I do think they can get clingy if their being picked up all the time. Lexie is noticing if she's put down and cries, mummy will pick her up. Oops. She's alright sometimes, but then other times she cries as soon as I put her down and I dont have time do anything.

I know Lincoln is good at playing and i can leave him for a while, but he gets bored or tired or hungry and that;s when he whinge and cries so i would pick him up. i usually pick him up before he cries, because he will get upset and it will be difficult to calm him down afterwards
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[Mrs_Nesbit]

The way I see it we carried them for 9 months right ?? there used to us being there so why ion gods name should we leave them be once there born ?? I pick up my son as much as I can and thats because 1 I love him to bits 2 he will one day be too big for cuddles

Feel exactly the same way