gossip

[JASMAK]

I am never good with dealing with this sort of thing, so sort of looking for advice, sympathy and having a good rant too.

There is this woman at my son's school who was gossiping about me today. I know she was talking about me, as I could hear her. She did it nice and loud, which makes me think that she WANTS me to know that she is talking about me.

Little background: Her son was bullying my son last year. I went to her about it a couple times, and she did nothing, so I went to the school about it. She confronted me, and was really pissed that I went to the school about it. She says that I should have spoken to her first, which I reminded her that I did, but, she just went on and on about how hurt she is...never mind all that my son went through. Then she deleted me and my hubby on facebook. That was back in June, and since then I have forgotten about her really. I mean, I had a baby, and a life, since then.

This morning after I took my two oldest children to school, I was walking back to the car with Kelana (the baby) and she was standing there talking to this other mom (who is now snubbing me even though our daughters AND our sons are in the same clasees). I could hear them talking about me, and my baby, and the decision I made to have another child. That was all I heard as I got to the car at that time, and chose not to listen to anything else, and I just drove away.

Why is this woman such a hateful hag?? Also, she has CLEARLY got this other mom in on it too, as she has snubbed me as well, and last year our kid's were friends, even having playdates together. Whatever, right? I am upset, but not going to do anything. But, just wondering if anyone would do/say something. I want to be the one taking the more mature high road. I think that they are both being really immature and silly - am I right?

 

[Vickie]

Definitely being immature. I tink I'd just leave it. If it really takes just a bit of gossip from that one woman to make the other snub you she's not really worth knowing

 

[PeanutBean]

I agree with Vickie, I'd not say anything and grown women acting like stupid school girls? Definitely not worth knowing.

 

[emilyjade]

wow i didnt notice you had your baby congratulations! i personally would be the bigger person by just ignoring them! at the end of the day they dont seem nice people to associate with! x

 

[v2007]

Wow how childish they are.

Sounds like their kids are more mature.

Ignore them.



V xxx

 

[sequeena]

Ignore them, they are petty and childish. If you give them no reaction they will become bored.

 

[Didz]

gah! I hate women like this. If I hear gossip I tend to ask where they'd heard it from and always try to get both sides of a story, if not telling them to sod off because I don't want to hear it. So long as someone hasn't done anything nasty to me, I have no problem with them.

 

[HGLyman]

Kill her with kindness!!

 

[redi]

just ignore them. childish people you find everywhere.

 

[JASMAK]

Thanks everyone. Going to ignore it but hoping she can get over it so I don't have see her gossiping. I just pretend she doesn't exist really, but I was never once rude to her. She was only ever rude to me. Even when she got mad that I went to the school regarding her son's behaviour, I apologized to her (sort of) just because I knew that is what she wanted to hear.

 

[sun]

Grrr - that makes me so mad!! Sounds like she never left grade 9!

When boys bully, it tends to be physical - but with girls it is more emotional - alienation, gossip, insults, etc.. Sounds like she is the bullying type also! So lame that you have to deal with that, especially since you will be running into these people somewhat regularly. I probably would just ignore her as well - but I'm not much for confrontation.

I am amazed at how catty other mums can be - we should be sticking together!!

ps: Congrats on your newest addition!! Your kids are gorgeous!!

 

[midori1999]

Gosh, how childish and pathetic!

I think I would either ignore it or just go up to her whilst she is doing it and tell her you feel very sorry for her that her life is so boring she has to talk about other people. Then tell her you didn't decide to get pregnant, but you and your husband got carried away during a frantic session on your kitchen table when there was no contraception handy... That will probably shut her up...

 

[Naya69]

wow it seems she should be the one going back to primary school i personaly would ignore it but if it was me and i heard her say anything else i would make a nice little scene so all the other mums knows what a cow she is x