Hey! This if my first post on this forum. I've actually never done one of these before, but I need some advice from other people who are going through the same thing. So here is a little background on my situation.
I have a 5 year old child from a previous relationship and became a single parent shortly after he was born. My mom was always there for me to help me with him as I used to live with her. 3 years ago I met my current partner and decided to move in together so I moved to a different state with my son. During the past 3 years my mom has done certain things that make my partner feel as if she isn't seen as part of the family. I have tried my best to "keep the peace" so to speak, but haven't been able to. Recently, just yesterday actually, my mom brought my son back from spending the weekend with her and she informed me that my son asked about his father and that she took it upon herself to show him a picture of him. I was angry I couldn't believe she would do such a thing without consulting me or my partner. My partner was also really upset because she didn't sit down with the both of us to tell us she only spoke to me away from her to tell me the situation.
This relationship between my mom and my partner has been rocky for way too long and I don't think anything is going to change about it. My partner continues to feel like she is an outsider and has expressed to me that she doesn't know how much longer she can take before she breaks and doesn't want to continue to feel that way. I have tried speaking to my mom about her overstepping her boundaries before with no resolution. She baby's my son and yells at me in front of him when I am disciplining him. She undermines me and my partner's authority constantly. I am constantly stuck in the middle because I want my mom to be happy, but I don't want her to think she can continue to act the way she does. I also want my partner to be happy and myself and my son.
HELP!! Any advice would be appreciated. I could post more information if that helps. I just don't know what to do at this point. My relationship with my partner hasn't been the best lately and a part of it is because of my mom and my family.
I have a 5 year old child from a previous relationship and became a single parent shortly after he was born. My mom was always there for me to help me with him as I used to live with her. 3 years ago I met my current partner and decided to move in together so I moved to a different state with my son. During the past 3 years my mom has done certain things that make my partner feel as if she isn't seen as part of the family. I have tried my best to "keep the peace" so to speak, but haven't been able to. Recently, just yesterday actually, my mom brought my son back from spending the weekend with her and she informed me that my son asked about his father and that she took it upon herself to show him a picture of him. I was angry I couldn't believe she would do such a thing without consulting me or my partner. My partner was also really upset because she didn't sit down with the both of us to tell us she only spoke to me away from her to tell me the situation.
This relationship between my mom and my partner has been rocky for way too long and I don't think anything is going to change about it. My partner continues to feel like she is an outsider and has expressed to me that she doesn't know how much longer she can take before she breaks and doesn't want to continue to feel that way. I have tried speaking to my mom about her overstepping her boundaries before with no resolution. She baby's my son and yells at me in front of him when I am disciplining him. She undermines me and my partner's authority constantly. I am constantly stuck in the middle because I want my mom to be happy, but I don't want her to think she can continue to act the way she does. I also want my partner to be happy and myself and my son.
HELP!! Any advice would be appreciated. I could post more information if that helps. I just don't know what to do at this point. My relationship with my partner hasn't been the best lately and a part of it is because of my mom and my family.