Grrrrrrr its not that abnormal!!!

[suzanne108]

Sorry, I don't post much anymore but I need a rant and decided it belonged here!!!

Lola is 8 months now and today was the first time I've been away from her for longer than an hour and a half. I don't think that is weird? I'm single so not got an OH to leave her with and I can't just dump her on my mum. Plus Lola is extremely clingy so its not been fair really to leave her with someone because she wouldn't even let anyone else hold her! Thankfully she's getting better now but anyway...

My child-less friend is CONSTANTLY having digs about how I haven't been on a night out etc and suchabody had twins 2 weeks ago and has already been out partying blah blah blah......I don't care what other people do. I haven't wanted to be away from her so really WHAT IS THE PROBLEM?

Anyway, my mum and dad took her for a day out today because I had loads I needed to do. So on FB I put "Suzanne is having her first Lola free day!" and this "friend" commented on it but must have deleted it because it isn't showing on FB but I can see her comment on the email notification and she's put "About time! Who had her? x"

Why does she feel the need to constantly go on about it? I would say something but she has deleted her comment.

Its my birthday in a few weeks and I know that she is gonna be asking if I am going out and the truth is that I don't want to, not with her anyway. So there is gonna be more digs there. It really annoys me!!!!

 

[Eala]

What a cow! If she says anything about your birthday, I'd say "Yes, I'm meeting some FRIENDS", and let her wonder why she's not been invited. Or say "I'll be spending the day with people who respect me and my choices."

It really bugs me when people judge you for going out / not going out, especially when they don't have kids themselves!

 

[bump_wanted]

why do people think its abnormal to want to look after your own children?? bloody annoys me! xx

 

[Sam9kids]

Awww

No-one has my lot either! xx

 

[NuKe]

bitch! the longest we have been away from poppy is the length of time it takes to go to the cinema and back! tbh we wud much rather spend our nights in cuddling on the sofa listening to our lo snore on the monitor!

 

[suzanne108]

bitch! the longest we have been away from poppy is the length of time it takes to go to the cinema and back! tbh we wud much rather spend our nights in cuddling on the sofa listening to our lo snore on the monitor!

I'd much rather spend my birthday with LO even though thats what I do everynight!

 

[Jchihuahua]

I don't blame you for being peed off . If she ever has a baby she'll understand! I have had this a bit too. I feel like saying to some of my friends 'I am not hard done by because I can't go out so stop feeling sorry for me, I don't actually WANT to go out'!!

 

[teal]

So annoying!

The longest I've been away from LO is for 45 minutes to have my hair cut!

One of my friends (who has a child) is going on at me to go out but I don't want to leave LO and I'd expect her to understand that. Very frustrating. I love spending all my time with my son xx

 

[AP]

Comment back on your status- it'll scare your friend into thinking you seen it after all/still can see it

 

[suzanne108]

Comment back on your status- it'll scare your friend into thinking you seen it after all/still can see it

I was thinking that....would she get a notification though?

Other people commented (nice bnb people ) so was thinking of doing a reply to them with a slight dig in there for her! Something along the lines of "some people think its odd but those people annoy me"

 

[RJsMum]

I can totally appreciate where you're coming from. Aside from my DH, my son hasn't been with anyone else. Even with my husband it was just long enough for me to go see Eclipse with my SIL. But DH and I were even talking about it tonight how we just don't have the desire to WANT to be away from DS yet. We actually enjoy all the time we have with him.

So I see nothing wrong with it. But I'd just ignore her.

 

[WW1]

It just shows her ignorance to be honest. I'd either just ignore her or if she's really getting on your nerves I'd tell her straight!!

I think until some people have a LO they have no real idea how much you want to spend time with them.

 

[Vickie]

Hannah's two and I can count on one hand the amount of times she's been out of mine/Stan's care. Granted there are times it would be nice if someone would watch her while we went out but there's really no one around here to do it. We did sneak away in Texas to a movie but it was after she'd gone to bed for the night

 

[special_kala]

I dont leave River with anyone other then OH, if i were single i would be the same as you.

If your happy not going out then i dont really see what this "friends" problem is.

 

[Seraphim]

It's not abnormal at all.

H has been with dada some times for 3 hours MAX since she's been old enough to go that long between feeds - but it's only been us.

She was the same kinda baby who didn't want to be with anyone else, but I don't find her clingy... she just doesn't have other adults who are around often enough for her to want to go to like that

I'd have to tell the friend straight. She's very rude.

 

[JellyBaby1]

Nothing wrong with it at all. Its lovely to hear that a mother enjoys spending time with there child over doing anything else. I too would rather stay with my lo than go out. Theres far too many mums that are quite happy to "dump" there kids on anyone whilling. They should really be jealous of the closest that can be had, afterall theres so much more to life than going out partying and having a baby should make people realise that as we have

Don't let what your friend thinks or says get to you.

 

[bathbabe]

some people just dont get it. I love spending time with my lo! I do quite often go to my mums and just relax while she plays with harrison. Its not too often i just leave him with her. X

 

[cupcake23]

I love spending time with M, sometimes my DH will tell others I'm too attached to her but I'm like WTF?!?

I know he's not being mean as I have gone out a few times jut to catch up with friends but I will always prefer to stay at home with my family.

In regards to your 'friend' I would put another status saying 'don't people realise that email notifications exist?' and leave it like that, ive caught people out this way and you realise who your friends are.

.x.

 

[aliss]

Ignorant cow, she's in for a shock when she actually has one of her own.

It's like my two best friends who thought I would leave my baby to go to Vegas for a weekend - 2 weeks after my due date. WTF. "Oh, we're going to do it when we're parents, we're not going to let that stop us!" <--- yeah ok. Let me know when it happens and if you can even walk into a casino without pulling a stitch in your vagina, HAH

 

[Bingles]

Awww

No-one has my lot either! xx

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