guilt?

[Kayles1/8/08]

hey ladies!

i have a gorgeous daughter of 2 years old and have been split from her father since before she was born but that isnt the issue as we get on fine and have a good arrangement..
i have a partner of 6 months (still early days) and i cant help but feel guilt ridden that he is stuck with some one who already has a child.. if he ever asks me to do anything i cant as i find it difficult to find baby sitters and he doesnt go out much now when he use to be out partying ALOT before we got together..he passed the comment tht he did not want to go out and leave me sitting in on my own but my child isnt his responsibility..some of his friends have passed comments about this which makes me pretty angry! only at the weekend there a crowd of us were out and his friend passed the comment " next time dont bring the kids" as i walked by ! this really hurt me and it makes me feel really out of place when i hear tht kind of thing? anyone else with a partner who is not ur childs father feel like this? xx

 

[justlove]

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[lisabee]

All you can do is ignore them - Your bf is old enough to make choices regarding going out or not and if he really didnt want to stay in am sure he would say so and go out with his mates

He is obviously happy staying in with you and your girl which is good - sometimes you can have too much of a good thing....as in going out all the time with the same people going the same places can get a bit boring - if his mates have a problem then thats it exactly it - Their Problem

Dont feel down about it - its obvious your BF is really fond of you both and his mates are obv jealous - thats their loss not yours

 

[chels24uk]

he sounds like a nice guy. I havent had another BF since me and ex split so havent had that feeling. If he knows that you dont mind him going out without you etc then I dont see the problem. Can understand why youd feel guilty, but 6 months is plenty of time for him to decide he cant "do" the relationship. Also, if his mates bother you, make sure he sticks up for you!
Just be happy youve found a bloke who is happy to be with someone with kids. Thats hard to come by xxx