Had 2 misscarriages straight after each other.

[mummy wannabe]

Trying to concive again but im really scared and constantly thinking and worrying about it all. My Fiance and i really do want a baby but after going through 2 misscarriges we are both really worried.
I first lost on 20th December 2010 i was only 6weeks 4days then fell pregnant straight away in January but lost again 21st March 2011 i managed to get 2 only 9weeks 5days. I have now been trying for atleast 4months but it still isn't happing !! I feel if i do ever fall pregnant again i wont be able to carry it any longer than 10weeks. I just feel so worthless and not like a real women because i cant carry a baby the full term x

 

[heavyheart]

sorry for your losses , its only natural for you both to feel scared and unsure of what any future pregnancies will bring after suffering two miscarriages but please dont feel usless or worthless. So many ladies suffer multipule losses and to get through it and try again show the strength and longing you have for a baby.
Is your doctors looking into why you have had two losses?? theres not always a problem it can be total bad luck

 

[keeleypup]

i was the same but i do agree with you talkling to your doc about it, it could anything tbh.

if you want to beauitful little love monkey then just take each day as it comes, take time out for the two of you as a couple go for a meal n a night out or to see a film or take a weekend away and reconnect you will be amazed at what that can do for your baby making.

i am scared to i have recently lost my first and im reg with my second but i am taking no chances im not smoking im not eating rubbish i am do everything i can to make sure my baby is healthly as possible.


the important thing to for you to greif and let your heart heal as well as your body hun do not rush in to thing its your fault when sadly theses thing do just happen

 

[KatyW]

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I have lost one, at the end of June at 5 wks 5 days.

A check in w/ the doctor is never a bad idea, if anything just to make you feel better... but sometimes these things happen and there's nothing wrong with you. Don't feel like there is, even though as I say that I have felt that way. I think it's a natural grief reaction when a miscarriage happens, and I hope you get through it quickly. You have two babies to grieve, so give yourself time to feel the loss.

I feel that you will have a baby, keep your hope alive that it will happen. This situation will make you stronger and ultimately a grateful and better mother. That's how I'm trying to look at my loss, that I will only be more grateful when I actually do have a baby.

 

[gumb69]

I am sorry about your m/c
So far i have had 4 miscarriages, i had 2 before i had my daughter and i have had 2 since having my baby. The last two were straight after each other.
It is very difficult. I agree with the rest of the ladies, there is no harm in going to your doctors and having your bloods taken and seeing what progesterone is like at the end of your cycles (cd 21) xxx
Wishing you the very best of luck

 

[Paige.Br]

I want to endow sympathy to your losses. But, I would certainly suggest that don’t ever give up your endeavor to conceive a child. I know it could not be that easy, just take time to heal the pain that you felt and also to give your body time to restore its normal functioning, and be well-equipped to carry pregnancy until given term. You still have lots of chances; only believe that you can do it. Don’t be much preoccupied with negative thoughts because it doesn’t really help, it would only make it harder for you to conceive. Good luck!

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Hi, I have had two straight after each other aswell. This has been the worst year of my life with it all and I've never felt so down, it knocks you for six. I have spent this whole year ttc, being pregnant and miscarrying. First miscarriage was at 5 weeks in March. I was depsrate to try again so fell pregnant two weeks later without having a period. I got to 9 weeks that time and was taking low dose aspirin. I seen the heartbeat 4 times despite bleeding and being given lots of reassurance that everything was fine. At teh final scan there was no heartbeat..worst day of my life. I needed a D&C and they discovered that I have a double womb. two wombs each with their own cervix..very rare. I consider myself lucky that I was referred to a recurrent miscarriage clinic and have had lots of blood taken. Need to wait 6-8 weeks for results and also see a specialist due to my womb which makes me higher risk. I am desperate to fall pregnant again but so petrified, it knocks me for six each time I miscarry and cant keep going through this. Life is so unfair to some of us who keep going through this. I just think to myself "why me", it keeps happening and all around me pregnant woman are sailing through easily. It is tough but we've got to stay strong if we're determined. Good luck to you, many people do seem to be 3rd time lucky. In my case I need to wait though for my results before trying. Im certain I have low progesterone as my mum had it and had 5 miscarriages due to this. Apparently its hereditary x

 

[Lily_Hope]

Hi everyone

Really sorry to hear about your losses. Its not fair is it! I think going to get tests done is really important...for no other reason than piece of mind and knowing that you have done everything that you can. Keep taking your vitamins and looking after yourself too.

I think we know that we all feel grief differently and go through different stages of grief at different times.
For me it helps to sit back and think yeah something really terrible happened to me and its ok to be sad...its natural. I've had two miscarriages this year...one at 5.5 weeks and one at 8 (the second was a suspected ectopic so I had to have laparoscopy surgery).

Its been 3 months since my last miscarriage and my husband and I are back to TTC our first baby

Sending lots of baby dust your way everyone and fingers crossed for you keeleypup.