schmetterling
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Hey ladies,
So I found out I was pregnant last Friday. To be honest, I still don't actually believe I'm pregnant. I'm not sure why but it just doesn't feel real. We got pregnant our first cycle trying and I am currently still breastfeeding my 20 month old. I think I was just expecting it to take a lot longer so it came as such a shock! I know I will be thrilled when it sinks in...we wanted to get pregnant so bad!
Anyway, we are planning a home birth this time and we had a meeting with a potential midwife today. We hit it off instantly and I absolutely love her. Then about 10 minutes in she asked when my due date is again (I guess she thought I was further along than I am) and when I told her it was at the end of August she said she couldn't take me because she just found out she is pregnant and is due 2 days before me. I don't know why it hurt so bad, but I was devastated. We stayed talking with her for an hour with just made it worse because I really think she is perfect for us and I'm so disappointed. I actually just had this great feeling before we went to the meeting that we were going to love her and not interview anyone else. Sigh. She gave us some recommendations (including the midwife she is going to use...which is a little risky because we are due at the same time) but I just feel so lost and like I don't know what to do. I mean, obviously I do. We will interview more midwives and hopefully find one we love as much. But I'm scared we won't. And I'm scared because I don't feel pregnant. And I'm scared that my progesterone (which I asked her to check since I'm breastfeeding and my daughter came a month early) will be low. And I'm scared of the risk of having another preemie and having to do another NICU stay. I know early pregnancy hormones are playing a role in this, but I just feel so lost. All I want to do is be excited about the sweet little sprout growing in me, but I feel completely overwhelmed. And it doesn't help my stress level that the holidays are around the corner.
Sorry for the rant, I just needed to get it off my chest. I'm sure things will work out for the best, it's just hard to see that right now.
Hope you all are having a great day! Thanks for reading and as always, for being such a supportive group!
So I found out I was pregnant last Friday. To be honest, I still don't actually believe I'm pregnant. I'm not sure why but it just doesn't feel real. We got pregnant our first cycle trying and I am currently still breastfeeding my 20 month old. I think I was just expecting it to take a lot longer so it came as such a shock! I know I will be thrilled when it sinks in...we wanted to get pregnant so bad!
Anyway, we are planning a home birth this time and we had a meeting with a potential midwife today. We hit it off instantly and I absolutely love her. Then about 10 minutes in she asked when my due date is again (I guess she thought I was further along than I am) and when I told her it was at the end of August she said she couldn't take me because she just found out she is pregnant and is due 2 days before me. I don't know why it hurt so bad, but I was devastated. We stayed talking with her for an hour with just made it worse because I really think she is perfect for us and I'm so disappointed. I actually just had this great feeling before we went to the meeting that we were going to love her and not interview anyone else. Sigh. She gave us some recommendations (including the midwife she is going to use...which is a little risky because we are due at the same time) but I just feel so lost and like I don't know what to do. I mean, obviously I do. We will interview more midwives and hopefully find one we love as much. But I'm scared we won't. And I'm scared because I don't feel pregnant. And I'm scared that my progesterone (which I asked her to check since I'm breastfeeding and my daughter came a month early) will be low. And I'm scared of the risk of having another preemie and having to do another NICU stay. I know early pregnancy hormones are playing a role in this, but I just feel so lost. All I want to do is be excited about the sweet little sprout growing in me, but I feel completely overwhelmed. And it doesn't help my stress level that the holidays are around the corner.
Sorry for the rant, I just needed to get it off my chest. I'm sure things will work out for the best, it's just hard to see that right now.
Hope you all are having a great day! Thanks for reading and as always, for being such a supportive group!