Had a stillbirth at 34 weeks n high risk preg.can I ask for an induction? UPDATE PG 2

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I dont want to be induced at like 34 weeks or anything.. but I KNOW that everyday after i hit 33w 3d when my last baby died I'll be so scared and stressed and just want to have baby out asap.Wondering if anyone has lost a baby so far along and asked for an induction at 37 weeks and gotten it? Our son is pretty big already... 4lbs and 17 inches according to the millions of scans I get (as im high risk cuz of the previous stillbirth) so i dont think he will be too small at all to come out at 37 weeks. Thnx ladies :)
 
U can always ask or they may suggest itespecially I they believe its not just a random one!

I'd just express ur concerns to midwife!

I feel for u it must be so hard but ur on the final straight now so good luck n hope all stays well x
 
It depends on your doctor, but I can't imagine they would induce early just because momma is nervous. I would think that they will only induce early because of health issues for baby or mom. You should talk with your doctor about your feelings, he/she will be able to best answer that :flower:
 
Thanks. My last son dying was a total amazement to doctors and I alike. I felt him moving the whole way to my reg appt... and when I got off the elevator he stopped moving. i thought finally hes napping!!! 20 mins later I was in the room and no heartbeat :( 3 days later when i had him he clearly had a knot in his cord... its a one in like 5 million birth anomaly, and there arent any records I can find of it happening to someone 2x... but im still scared shitless as it could or anything could for that matter. My doctors liken what happened as being struck with lightning on a bright sunny day... but thats always been my luck honestly.
 
In that case they are letting u no how rare it is n that it shouldn't happen again, maybe the extra checks will keep u at ease or buy a Doppler off eBay or amazon just to make u feel better but then thers a risk of worrying yourself more x
 
I'm so sorry to hear you lost a child so far along :(

In respect to this pregnancy, I think you have every right to ask for induction.. I'm not sure of the situation around your sons death, but if it was something that could have been avoided then I would definitely suggest to your consultant about inducing you. Of course, induction is more painful than natural labour, but I'm sure induction pain is nothing like the pain of losing a child. I would definitely ask in your position, I'd be petrified too. Again I'm so sorry about your son :(

Best of luck & be pro active :)
 
yeah i have a doppler.. but it still scares me that at any moment he wont have a HB... and even if i got to the hsopital in 30 seconds they 99% sure wouldnt be able to do anything after the fact. I just want him out and here and safe.
 
i had to be induced to have m son out last time.. took 2 days but he came out... so i know what id be in store for. I just hope when I go to my appt next week and talk to my Midwife that she agress to do it for me... knowing that im bipolar and everything else wrong with me i pray she does.
 
I will keep my fingers crossed for you hun, you certainly don't need anymore stress or anxiety. Let us know how you get on x
 
Hey,

I'm so very sorry for your previous loss, it must have been heartbreaking.

Congratulations on your current pregnancy and I hope all stays well for you and your lo.

It sounds like you're being taken very good care of this time with extra scans etc so hopefully any hint of a problem would be picked up before it did any harm. But as you've said anyway the likelihood of it happening again is so rare.

That being said I can totally understand your fears, I know without doubt I'd feel the exact same way and I think it's only natural.

I would certainly discuss your anxieties with your doctor and mention about the possibility of induction a little earlier.

I'm in the uk so I know things are done differently but a friend of mine tragically lost her baby the day before her due date due to the very same reason (knot in the cord). She was petrified the whole way through her next pregnancy and by the time she got to 35 weeks had herself so worked up and stressed that the doctors decided it wasn't good for her or her baby for her to be feeling like that and so they arranged for her to be induced bang on 37 weeks. Her baby was born a very healthy 6lb 10oz and went home with her the next day. He's now a very happy 1 year old.

Good luck, I hope you can relax a little for the remainder of your pregnancy, I know it can't be easy but I'm positive your lo will arrive safely and before long they'll be in your arms!

X
 
I also had the same thing (knot), but she also had the cord wrapped around her neck tightly. I had to be induced at 27 weeks. I think I will be really nervous next time around and would prefer to have the baby out safe and sound. They said it is highly unlikely to happen again and that I'm not considered high risk for that. I would just ask the doctor and see what they say. The worst that could happen is they would say no.
 
:( I'm so sorry for your loss first off..that is unimaginable. I would definitely ask, it isn't unreasonable. The baby would be full term and I know that my cousin who had a baby 5 months ago chose to get induced at 37+3 because she was just simply uncomfortable. The doctor's may do it for you! I hope everything goes well with your and your lo. Good luck with the doctor too!
 
Thanks ladies :) Hopefully my midwife will agress to induce me at 37 weeks.. and considering shes the one who had to tell me my baby was gone last time and was there thru my whole labor and delivery ( she literally sat in the room with me, talked to me, cried with me, was an amazing woman.. i have so much love and respect for her) she will agree to it. I will definitely let you all know what she says after I have my appt mext tuesday on the 24th. Its at 1:45pm EST so around 3 or so that day ill get on and update you ladies. Thank you for the words of encouragement and support and positivity... i need it more then anthing right now :)
 
I'm so sorry about the loss of your son, I lost my daughter at exactly the same stage as you (33w and 3days) and I did initially ask for an induction but was refused, my son came early anyway and is now a happy healthy 15 month old :) I think it all depends on the doctor or midwife you have, if they consider baby to be strong enough etc then I can't see why not at 37 weeks as that is classed as full term, good luck with whatever they decide :)
 
I had a stillbirth at 38 weeks, true knot in cord and round the neck twice, complete fluke of nature. since then as you can see in my signature I have 3 gorgeous cheeky wonderful kids and no 4 is nearly here!
I was induced at 38 weeks with my first 2, it was automatically offered to me and with this one my consultant is fighting to induce me at 38 weeks again, I say fighting as I want the chance to do it on my own this time. but anyway.. my consultant is basing this on some national guidelines that say induction should be offered for those with a previous stillbirth. I wish I knew what body published them so I could get you the proof you need. but I will say that you should push for anxiety reasons alone, it can effect your whole approach to labour and delivery and is a very valid reason! I hope you get the outcome you want , hugs xx
 
There is a lady on here somewhere who's having an elective c-section at 38 weeks due to a previous still birth.

I'd say you stand a good chance after 37 weeks. Good luck. :flower:
 
Well after much crying and disussion my midwife told me i cant be induced at 37 weeks.. but I WILL be induced at 38!!!!!!!! So march 16th ill be induced :D I told her to ask the reg doc who sets it up to push for 37w 4d, cuz thats March 13th.. which is really lucky day for me :D Itll be set up totally at 34-35 weeks cuz they cant put u on the books till then, but its FOR SURE!!!!! SOOOO RELIEVED AND HAPPY!!!!!
 
I'm so sorry for your loss, I think I would totally demand an induction as soon as it's safe for him. I totally would not give a rats tail if it was a 1 in a million chance, I'm with you, if it can happen once, I would not rest easy until he's is out! Hugs and I hope your docs will do it for you!
 
Well after much crying and disussion my midwife told me i cant be induced at 37 weeks.. but I WILL be induced at 38!!!!!!!! So march 16th ill be induced :D I told her to ask the reg doc who sets it up to push for 37w 4d, cuz thats March 13th.. which is really lucky day for me :D Itll be set up totally at 34-35 weeks cuz they cant put u on the books till then, but its FOR SURE!!!!! SOOOO RELIEVED AND HAPPY!!!!!

Great news :happydance:
 

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