Had my DNA test today - another step closer

[edinsam]

WEll its going slooooowly

DNA test done for Lils and I today - now need to wait the 10-14 days to get the result - I figure that puts me right in the middle of xmas almost lol!

Wonder who does "Merry Xmas Confirmed Daddy" cards???!!!

Tee heee

Lets see how long after this that CSA get their act together. Bets anyone?

Get back to work and 15 mins after getting in from the test I have a bloody meeting with the moron. Ive got holes in my tongue from biting it sooo hard

 

[lou_w34]

I think moonpig.com may do!! haha

Heres to hoping the csa work quickly for yous!!



xx

 

[edinsam]

aw Lou Scarlett is gorgeous - love that name too - it was one of my shortlists. She is adoreable - congrats

 

[AP]

You are having a f***ing laugh, is he seriously gettin u to do this? I'm totally missing everything these days honey xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[sweetlullaby]

I hope you dont mind me asking.....but see the whole dna test thing....how does that work?

Its just FOB in my case is demanding that a dna tst is done once LO is born and i dont have a clue how its gonna be done as in do i contact csa and then he denies he's the father and then a dna test is done or something? Also who pays for it csa, him or me? I know i sound incredibly stupid but i really hadnt thought about csa or anything along those lines! And with just over a week until due date thought i should get an idea of whats gonna happen!

hope the meeting went ok for you!! Dont know why these stupid men do these things to complicate everything!! xx

 

[edinsam]

he sure is Sandy

Ive waited 12 weeks to get it sorted - he had his 2 weeks ago and now ours. Results in another 2 weeks! moron

 

[edinsam]

I hope you dont mind me asking.....but see the whole dna test thing....how does that work?

Its just FOB in my case is demanding that a dna tst is done once LO is born and i dont have a clue how its gonna be done as in do i contact csa and then he denies he's the father and then a dna test is done or something? Also who pays for it csa, him or me? I know i sound incredibly stupid but i really hadnt thought about csa or anything along those lines! And with just over a week until due date thought i should get an idea of whats gonna happen!

hope the meeting went ok for you!! Dont know why these stupid men do these things to complicate everything!! xx

Aw sweet dont aplogise, absolutely cool to talk about it.

Basically you need to go through CSA to do if you are pursuing finances that way. When they finally get a hold of him - about 8 weeks from the start of the process they ask him if hes the father, he denies, they set up a DNA test. They get him in first, then once his is done you and the baby go for yours. They pay for it so you dont exchange money with everyone

If you need more info let me know

 

[sweetlullaby]

Thanks for this!!

Thought it was along those lines lol its just confusing me....i never really thought about csa and getting finance etc from FOB but im guessing this is the way to do it lol also he should probably contribute to this LO seeing as he hasnt bothered his ass up so far!

Damm was kinna hoping he'd have to fork out for it as he's the idiot demanding one

Thanks though!! Flip it takes that long to get it all sorted out!!!! Thats ridiculous!!!

Guess he's kinna bit himself in the arse though.....because you only get 6 weeks to register LO's birth and him being "not sure" he's the father and wanting dna test done he can hardly complain when his name aint on the birth certificate!

 

[purpledahlia]

Good point sweet lullaby!!

Thank god its finally done for you sam, takes its time doesnt it!! I hope he gets whats coming and he leaves your work!!

 

[edinsam]

sweet - if you miss the cut off for putting him on the birth certificate thats fine (although not great I will grant you that) however you can add him later if you both agree so if he gets the dna and all good then you can add it later

Good luck hun

He should pay

 

[edinsam]

Good point sweet lullaby!!

Thank god its finally done for you sam, takes its time doesnt it!! I hope he gets whats coming and he leaves your work!!

Aw thanks Claire- so glad too, its been a challenging 3 months thats for sure.

Well I think the fact that since I have gone back to work and been offered a new job which pretty much almost makes me his boss, will make him leave. For the last 2 weeks Ive been having to tell him what to do and pull him up on stuff he is not delivering (all very professionally of course lol) but I think it will break him - soooo hoping so. My boss reckons this will be what makes him leave - result.. Just need to get my csa sorted for before he vanishes though lol!

 

[purpledahlia]

surely now if the results for him and you get put thru soon then it would all be sorted soon enough? Altho it does help that you have ALL his employment details atm! would him changing jobs just create more delay?

Is Lily 3 months already?? wowzers!

 

[tinkabells]

Well done in becoming his boss, hope hs does quit, but obviously all after the csa is sorted, have you had the reults yet? xxx