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Hardest/easiest thing about being a single parent?
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Dezireey
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Hardest - carrying things ( e.g going shopping includes car seat, getting pram out, bags, etc- no-one to say to - 'here, can you hold this a second please' also carrying baby around house, *no-one to share night feeds with and the obvious - no-one to share the *joy of baby with.*
Easiest- I make all the decisions, don't have to do all that effort to make sure I am still pretty/ sexy for OH to ensure he's happy with me, focusing on just baby is easier than also pandering to someone else e.g making dinner, making sure housework is all done so as I don't get grief because I'm at home all day and he's in work - essentially its easier not having someone around to judge you or to have an opinion on the way you are living.
Easiest- I make all the decisions, don't have to do all that effort to make sure I am still pretty/ sexy for OH to ensure he's happy with me, focusing on just baby is easier than also pandering to someone else e.g making dinner, making sure housework is all done so as I don't get grief because I'm at home all day and he's in work - essentially its easier not having someone around to judge you or to have an opinion on the way you are living.
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Hardest is not having my independance, I'm craving going to the gym/ for a run but that's a no go, and little things nipping to
The shop quickly type things. It took me to get y head around it and no the simple things wont happen for a while. Ooh and just having a second opinion about things, like lo had a rash, just that second person to say, it's nothing or mayb we should get it looked at.
Easiest to be honest I find it most easy, I love how it's my rules, she's got a level parenting, no arguments what so ever. Seeing my
Happy beautiful little girl smile all the time makes being her mum amazing
The shop quickly type things. It took me to get y head around it and no the simple things wont happen for a while. Ooh and just having a second opinion about things, like lo had a rash, just that second person to say, it's nothing or mayb we should get it looked at.
Easiest to be honest I find it most easy, I love how it's my rules, she's got a level parenting, no arguments what so ever. Seeing my
Happy beautiful little girl smile all the time makes being her mum amazing
lemontree12
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Yes all your stuff too dez, Facebook is flooded by my pictures and status of my
Little girl, because when she does something new I'm dying to share it with that other person, not necessary ex but just someone. Having so much pride inside I'd burst if I didn't share
Little girl, because when she does something new I'm dying to share it with that other person, not necessary ex but just someone. Having so much pride inside I'd burst if I didn't share
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I agree with the other two. The hardest thing for me is carrying stuff, it's hard enough anyway when idiot park so close to your car you can't get out of it..But having loads of shopping, and 2 children to get out is not easy at all. I also miss being able to do the little things. I have my Mum there to look after them if I need her to, but things like going to the shop for milk become such a mission it's easier for my Mum to nip and get it for me and drop it off, and I have to arrange going to the gym around everyone elses plans rather than just going when they're in bed which sucks.
I love not having to answer to other people or make efforts to work at a relationship and it just being me and the boys and that if one day I'm too tired to do the housework there's no one to moan at me for it, and that I'm not having to fight someone because we parent differently because it's my way.
I do love being a single parent and it worries me for the child I plan to have in the future when I'm settled down etc. that I'll be the worst person to have a baby with because I'm so used to doing it by myself and it being my way and no one elses input and it will just cause the relationship to break down, so I best hope I settle down with a guy ok to step sideways and let me get on with it sometimes lol.
I love not having to answer to other people or make efforts to work at a relationship and it just being me and the boys and that if one day I'm too tired to do the housework there's no one to moan at me for it, and that I'm not having to fight someone because we parent differently because it's my way.
I do love being a single parent and it worries me for the child I plan to have in the future when I'm settled down etc. that I'll be the worst person to have a baby with because I'm so used to doing it by myself and it being my way and no one elses input and it will just cause the relationship to break down, so I best hope I settle down with a guy ok to step sideways and let me get on with it sometimes lol.
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For me the easiest/best thing is we live by my rules and I know what works for her, we have such a close bond and it feels good that she loves and wants me and doesn't know who he is, because he isn't worthy.
The worst thing is not having a break from things, just simple things like not being able to have a shower, nipping out to the shops, exercising, cleaning the house etc. When she is ill/playing up and she only has me, that is hard sometimes, especially when I am feeling low myself.
Having said that, I wouldn't have it any other way now, when she was with her daddy, she was subjected to daily arguing, him hitting me, the potential danger of her dad being drunk. I would rather not have a minute to myself than put up with that again.
The worst thing is not having a break from things, just simple things like not being able to have a shower, nipping out to the shops, exercising, cleaning the house etc. When she is ill/playing up and she only has me, that is hard sometimes, especially when I am feeling low myself.
Having said that, I wouldn't have it any other way now, when she was with her daddy, she was subjected to daily arguing, him hitting me, the potential danger of her dad being drunk. I would rather not have a minute to myself than put up with that again.
I agree with everyone else, hardest things are Struggling with all the heavy equipment that comes with a baby on my own. I also find it hard knowing that I've missed out on not being able to share the experience of having a bay with someone I love.
Easiest, knowing that it's just me and my daughter and were going to have such an amazing bond, and I can make all the decisions myself, without someone contradicting my parenting skills.
Easiest, knowing that it's just me and my daughter and were going to have such an amazing bond, and I can make all the decisions myself, without someone contradicting my parenting skills.
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Forgot to add - another thing that helps make things easy for single mums - on-line shopping!!. I'd be well and truly f****ked without it (scuse my french). I love going out with my LO as he is as good as gold but its such a palava sometimes just to get a few things from the shops so, thank you Mr Internet person who invented the internet.
