Maybe a bit late maybe not but this might be insightful...
I have 3 currently, 1 planned and two surprises. (3,3, 9mo) I had twins with my first pregnancy, so that was the 1planned, second surprise.
We were over the moon about the twins as it took over a year ttc. The pregnancy was hard, the birth was an early e-csec and we almost lost one a lot of hospital time and just not a great experience. By 1.5 they were both healthy happy boys. We fell into a good routine, finances were ok, we already had a 3/2 home so it was perfect. We had thought about a third but decided against it and that it was perfect we were done and so in love with our boys. That was very short lived. I was on BC and a few months after our 100% done decision we had an unexpected blessing.
It was not a blissful moment. Our relationship was strained, we just got over most of the hurdles with the boys. We couldnt afford it and our house was no longer perfect to me (I always loved that theyd have their own rooms if they wanted esp in HS). Now my perfect little world crashed and I was depressed. My boys will always have to share a room until they move out, no money, I was already tense at work due to sick time I take for the kids, I was so stressed out. Then I decided I knew and loved having boys so I wanted a boy. No boy, DD was coming. The pregnancy was awful and I regretted it. I didnt want a baby shower and was mad when I got one (🤷🏻*♀️
. Then DD came early due to failure to thrive (apparently I dont do full term).
I did not bond with baby very well at first (I did love her). The boys took to her and fell in love instantly. I hated the NB phase and just felt horrible. As she got older and out of the newborn phase I started to bond with her more. I left my job as daycare was more than I made and my one boss made it clear that calling out if the kids are sick is an issue.
The house is working out fine (of course they are also still very young), I do hope we can get a 4th bedroom when there teens but not hopeful. The financial situation is awful, we are surviving but barely, we have no financial freedom. With that said I would not trade it for anything. I am bonded to her now, shes a fantastic baby, shes more independent now, her and the boys do so well together and I am so in love with her. I love staying home (a choice I wouldnt have ever made), its wonderful but also hard work. I dont miss the stress or long days of my job. I love waking to her smiles and babbles. Everything has changed so much and we are so much happier now, it might have been rocky at first but she is truly a gift from god that has 100% completed our family. I wouldnt trade her for anything.
Getting around with 3 isnt bad. I didnt upgrade my car (we couldnt $$) I got diono raidan car seats instead (best ever for 3 in a row). I pack her and stroller or double shopping cart them. Its easier then I thought it would be.
The only thing I truly regret is not enjoying the pregnancy and not bonding with her sooner. I hate that I ever felt the way I did in the first place.