Has your infertility cost you a friendship?

[Serene123]

I've lost quite a few friends to be honest.

 

[MummyIwanabe]

I haven't lost any yet but could do if our struggle continues and they continue to be the way they are!!

my MIL says - "if you can count your true friends on 1 hand then you're exceptionally lucky"

 

[MissMonty]

I've lost a couple of friends

The problem is I haven't told them about our treatment but they I think they know - DH's friends keep saying things to him like 'so you've been married for 5 years, why haven't you got any kids yet?' and 'so when are you starting IVF?' I think they are just guessing and seem to think that everyone who is married has to have children.

Anyways the friends I have lost I'm really really upset by - I didn't push them away, I feel they pushed me. When they first had their children we did all we could to keep in contact even though it was hard, as I thought they were our friends, we visited often and took their babies presents, then all of a sudden they started arranging parties and get togethers for their 'baby friends' (their words) and we were not invited as we 'don't have children', basically they started meeting other couples who have children and didn't seem to have anytime for us anymore. I tried several times to arrange get togethers but each time they told me they were busy meeting up with so and so and their baby blah blah blah - so I stoped asking and they never made contact again! I feel really sad as we used to go on holidays with these people and had a lot of fun - I feel really hurt and used

 

[MummyIwanabe]

wow people amaze me! I don't know how people can be like that but i guess they can! no wonder you feel hurt big hugs x