hate it, hate it, hate it!!!!

[Per16]

I really dislike the 1st trimester, I am finding it so hard with the worrying its drivine me insane the constant worry about miscarriage! I have such bad cramps all the time, I called the EPU and they have said as they have now checked for an ectopic they cant do anything else, I went to the doc and he thinks I have gallstones but the pain just keeps me thinking its the end, I have not once let myself be excited and keep having terrible dreams of passing a baby into the toilet, it makes me wake up in sweats I have a 2 year old who I am trying to just be normal around but I actually feel relly bleak that I still have 5 more weeks of this!!!! Just wanted to vent, sorry!

 

[bubbles777]

Hugs, i feel the same as you this is my first baby and ive been bleeding and everything. went for a scan and so far okay but i'm not going to build my hopes up right now. I thought when i got pregnant then it would be all sunshine and lollypops. its not. I honestly cannot imagine bringing a baby home from the hospital I just cant picture it at all and I dont feel any bond for the little bean inside me as Im too scared it wont last. I blame google a bit but to be honest no1 has been that supportive of this pregnancy just telling me all their horror stories and SIL keeps going on about how she is maintaining pre preg weight even though shes 5 months, chocolate causes misscarriage blah blah. thanks a lot so basically if i misscary its my fault yea? Cheers for that... anyway I Digress.. I Just wanted you to know ure not alone and im hoping someone else out there has some great words of wisdom for us! Xxx

 

[AC1987]

I'm sorry the first tri is HARD! However I find with every week I'm feeling a little bit more positive. I hope you feel better soon

 

[emj86]

aww i think we all feel the same in the 1st tri, it's not fun worrying all the time.

I too get really bad pains that come and go and the doc said it could be my corpus luteum cyst, its awful when you dont know for sure though!

Everyone seems to be much happier in the 2nd tri so i would just concentrate on that x

 

[Newbride2011]

Completely agree, never did I think the most natural thing in the world can cause so much stress worry and illness, I've disliked every minute of the first trimester so far its been like medieval torture as far as I'm concerned, I look I've just come out of hospital with some awful illness lol!!! And feel like death roll on the second trimester if I'm lucky enough to get there this has been the longest few weeks of my life!!! Hope we all feel more positive soon xxxxx

 

[shirlls]

I echo everything you all said. I have over 3 weeks to go and the last 9 weeks (ok, 7 since I got my BFP) has been hell! All the worrying and feeling like crap has taken its toll on me and my sanity. I have had stomach pains all day which I am hoping is just trapped wind, but I am such a nervous wreck!

Hang in there everyone! Hope we all have a happy and healthy pregnancy!

xxx

 

[ChimChims]

Try to calm down, or find something else to take it off of your mind okay? I know that is about impossible, but the stress can cause you to cramp as much as anything (in my experience). I was in the same place emotionally last week and all it did was shoot my BP up and upset my world. Over the weekend I just focused on napping when I needed it and treating my other symptoms. Being calm is a choice, it is just sometimes a harder choice. It is okay not to be fully excited yet, just in case, but please don't cause yourself extra anxiety. Hang in there - you've got lots of support. ((HUGS))

 

[lola_90]

I know, I am fed up of feeling so sick! Roll on second tri! Then we can start to feel our babies kick, which should help relieve the worry!

 

[Fruitmash]

I can easily say, the worst part of pregnancy (and I've had a pretty hard time with it all) was the first tri panic. I had a friend tell me that I WAS going to miscarry and I shouldn't have told anyone I was pregnant. And LO is still here, kicking away, squeesing my bladder regardless of cramping, bleeding or anything else. Not all pregnancies end in miscarriage, and you have no reason to think that yours will. But it's so horrible spending every moment worrying about what everything means. Just remember, cramping is normal, some bleeding is normal. I went through a phase of abandoning BnB out of fear, and it did take my mind off it. I'm hear if you need to talk

 

[Geegees]

I know, I am fed up of feeling so sick! Roll on second tri! Then we can start to feel our babies kick, which should help relieve the worry!

Ahh then you worry 10x as much when they have a quiet day! Trust me.. There is always something to worry about! I know it's hard, it really is. Try not to worry. It's easy to say I know!

You'll all be fine, I'm sure... The odds are massively in your favour and you'll all be in second tri before you know it!

 

[fidgets mammy]

hello i too am not enjoying first tri. ive only another two weeks left tho. but i am having twins that are possibly identical so i think ill worry all the way. i gtoo am having these awful pains and am now on the sick from work because at times they hurt so much. and as for yr sil saying dont eat chocolate. chocolate makes a happy baby so scoff it!!!! me and afriend ate loads with our firsts and we had really laid back babies. its true tho you need to try and stay calm(im such a hypocrite), give yr tum a rub, have anice bath and get scoffing that chocolate!!!

 

[Per16]

God I love you girls, you make me feel so normal when in the real world I feel like a whacko! I have never wished time away like I have now, my first pregnancy I was in naieve bliss this one I know too many people who have miscarried and it just all sounds so scary and traumatic and my heart goes out to any brave woman who goes through that, I know worry makes things worse but my stoooopid brain wont get that, thank you for your very kind and honest responses thank goodness there are people like you guys around xxx

 

[kissesandhugs]

I know exactly how everyone feels, it makes it really hard to enjoy pregnancy. I was a basket case bc I found out early at 3w5d and low and behold I got the dreaded RED blood and looooots of it accompanied by cramps!!! So of course I went off thinking for SURE I miscarried then 2 weeks later we saw our bean with a little heartbeat beating away!! So after that I realized worrying is not going to do anything helpful and even though I had the dreaded blood/cramps and all our bean was STILL okay!!!