HATE myspace/facebook for hubby

[ethansmommy]

my hubby and i trust each other a good bit and he's given me his password so to speak. it's just my name and the num 1 for all of his passwords. well i was lookin through one of his ex's pages today, on my myspace and most of it was private. i knew they were friends on his so i logged on his so i could see her pics etc.
come to see he's chatted with her a few months ago and about a month ago he sent some other girl a message about just seeing how youare and we haven't talked in forever and "i feel like i could talk to you". she replied back with how he could always talk to her. it just made me feel weird...
i cried.
of course i dug through her pictures and realised how thin she is which is making me feel self concious because of my big preggo belly.
am i over reacting?

 

[happigail]

oh mate I am sorry to hear that he shouldn't be needing to talk to anyone except you if he has a problem... Facebook/myspace is like a dangling carrot to otherwise trustworthy folk sometimes in my opinion, although I appreciate many people don't agree with me there.

I would have a chat with him and maybe it will end up not being so bad after all and he'll have a good explanation xx

 

[rowleypolie]

i hate fb and myspace too for this reason. My husband was somewhat of a ladies man in high school and before we met so most of his online friends are female- i would say like 75%. He talks to all of them just to keep in contact but he talks alot about our family and the baby on the way so i trust him (mostly) remember paranoia is common in pregnancy- it may be just friends keeping in touch

 

[I<3paul]

Tell him off, that's not fair. He will most probably say sorry if you talk it through with him. He needs to know you're not ok with it and it's disrespectful. Tell him you'd never do that to him and how would he feel if you did. Don't be sad, it will mean nothing. It's just annoying xxx

 

[AngelzTears]

Aww I'm sorry hun! That would make me uncomfortable too! I don't think he did anything wrong though, if he had bad intentions his messages would have been different I think. Still, to be safe I would "accidentally" remove those female friends from his profiles lol

 

[Catters]

I can't stand generalized social websites for that very reason.. I mean, really? Why pick up where you left off 1, 2, 3, 10, etc. years ago? There's a REASON why people lose touch and sometimes it's just better to leave it just like that , iykwim.

I'd be the same way, honestly -- so no, I don't think you are overreacting. I would have (and this is me personally, concerning my OWN relationship with hubby) serious issues with the idea of hubby saying something to the effect of "I could always talk to you..." I'd have to wonder.... What is so upsetting that we can't talk/work this out, you and I -- because last time I checked, it was you and I who are married... but then.. maybe it's ME that's overreacting..