Have picked name but someone I know has used it coincidently

[Kent Mummy]

Hello,

I've just come over from Confetti.

I have a short list of girls names and there is one particular favourite - I've been mulling it around in my head for a while (along with second name).

My friend from my post natel group (who I met after I had my first baby) has just had a baby and has chosen the name I love - it's a complete coincidence.

Obviously I haven't known my friend for a long time, but at the moment we do mix in the same mummy circles and we do get on well.

My baby isn't due until November - would it seem weird if I chose the same first name? I know no one has 'dibs' on a name - but I'd feel gutted if I chose one I liked less then found in a year or two I've lost touch with my post natel group friend (not that I want do). I would speak to my friend if I did chose this name.

Advice or if anyone has had experience of this would be appreciated.

L and little one 2 years and bean 27 weeks.

 

[Kellycool]

WHy dont you just ask her if she minds hun. Someone asked me if we would mind if they used Ashton as they had the same concerns and of course we didn't-in fact, felt honoured. So perhaps she will feel the same. x

 

[Kent Mummy]

WHy dont you just ask her if she minds hun. Someone asked me if we would mind if they used Ashton as they had the same concerns and of course we didn't-in fact, felt honoured. So perhaps she will feel the same. x

Thanks - probably the best option eh. I'll leave it alittle while as she's only just had the baby!

L

 

[amethyst77]

That sounds a good plan. If it was me, I wouldn't mind.
xx

 

[WendyGo]

Yes I would just ask if she minds! (Though honestly if she does, I think she's a bit weird.

 

[R8ch]

Hi
I do not think you should ask her if she minds - it is after all your choice, your baby and like you say, you may lose touch and you would be gutted. I would, however, speak to her and tell her of your intentions - just explain you have always liked this name etc. I wouldn't feel guilty to name my baby the same.
I know someone who used my nephews's first and middle name, which I find very odd as the parents are really good friends!
Rx

 

[jaytee.]

I would agree that in my opinion it's fine, chances are the children won't grow up together and you should pick the name you love and that feels right. But I do think you should mention it to her first because I would prefer it if I were in her shoes and I'm sure she isn't going to object, even if she does you can still go ahead

Good luck in your pregnancy

 

[moomin_troll]

its nothing to do with her seen as u have loved this name for so long. but it really got on my nerves one of my sisters mates copied zane and said it was because she liked it after hearing that my son was called zane. but like uve said no one has dibs on a name lol

like others have said have a chat with her saying uve always loved the name and would she feel weird if u used it urself. u shouldnt pick a name ur not 100% happy with for ur lo x

 

[trumpetbum]

I would drop it into conversation. Maybe congratulate her and say, 'I love the name, that's the name We have picked out too!!'