Have you told anyone that your TTC?

[MissMonty]

Except your OH !! Boy doesn't my OH just know it!!

We haven't told anyone - this is our 5 month of TTC - its so difficult we have lots of friends and relatives who have children and they are always like 'so when are you two going to have kids' - especially the older members of the family. We didn't want to tell anyone as we didn't want any pressure or disappointment from other people. I was thinking about telling a select few but after being on this forum I don't feel the need to at the moment. Is anyone else keeping it a secret?

 

[candice123]

hi there, just thought I'd reply, I'm new here also, and am not that sure how it works. We have been TTC for 2 months now and I havent told any of my family etc, but some of my workmates know due to the nature of the job I do. I dont think its selfish, just makes good sense. No pressure.

 

[faith_may]

I only told my mom, I don't want to let anyone else know until I know I'm pregnant...of course my DH knows

 

[candice123]

does anyone else find it hard to keep a secret? And how often do you think about it?

 

[CherryBlossom]

I'm bad at keeping secrets pretty much everyone knows but not all my fault i told my mum and now my whole family know lmao

 

[candice123]

its been quite hard for myself and my husband cos family circumstances have not been ideal. To cut a long story short, I dont speak to my mum or that side of the family, havent done so in a year.

 

[Samo]

Oh gosh i've pretty much told all of my friends lol. But they've been such good help and support! And they ask me how it's going all the time

However, no one from our family knows so it'll be a big surprise to them later on!

 

[dakini]

Well, let's see. Who knows?
- DH's family all knows (I talk a lot with one of my SILs about it, and both SILs have suffered multiple m/cs so should I ever go through that I have a support system)
- I've hinted to my family, but nothing concrete
- 3 very good friends on mine know, but that's again for the support system (2 better than the other 1), plus a few others that I used to work with and I am still in contact with them, again, great support
- some of DH's friends know...more so that they don't wonder why we aren't drinking as much when we are out, or why I am not
- a few people I've told at work because when I was interviewing I wasn't looking for a job and I didn't want them to upset that I may have come to them 3-4 months later and been 3 months pg (didn't happen, but it could have) and I won't have been upset if I didn't get the job because of that; though I think the women all know from lunch conversations
- pretty much everyone at DH's work...he works with a BIL and he let it slip....we found this out when we went out for a co-workers b'day (gave another friend a ride...she knows(see above)) and they were asking why I wasn't drinking......had some interesting conversations that night about ttc

so, basically, everyone around us knows. We only have a few people actually ask us though, so that's nice. His family for sure knows the pain of trying for a long time, and m/cs so the one SIL I am closest with will ask about once a month...and I really don't mind.

 

[Vickie]

I told one of my nieces and my mom figured it out on her own. Other than that we told no one, haven't even told all of our friends yet that I'm pregnant.

 

[suzan]

Humm, let's see:

1- My family
2- His family
3- After having 2 m/s definetly my co-workers/boss know
4- his friends
5- my friends
6- Summary: EVERYONE!!!!!

I wish I can make everyone forget.. If we wana take it all back, I would never have told anyone.. it's like everyone is waiting for an announcement.. you feel so pressured

 

[CherryBlossom]

Candice i uderstand not talking to ur mum even thou we kinda talk now.
b4 i got married at 17 we hadnt talked for 10 years since i was 7

 

[MissMonty]

candice123 - sorry to hear about your family - I too had problems last year and lost contact with my Dad but hopefully that’s started to change now.

It is really difficult to keep it a secret but we're trying.

I've got an issue at work at the moment - basically they want to re-locate one of us to another office which is 40 miles away - not far but as I only have to travel 11 miles at the moment to work it will make a big difference not only in travel costs but time. Well it is between both me and a guy I work with who is divorced but had a 13 year old daughter who does not live with him. It's between both of us as we live nearest to the other office. He has said that he will not go because this will cause childcare issues for him as he has his daughter once during the week. My manager (who is male) told me that it would likely be me who has to go as I have no children that made me so mad when he said that. Anyway - I don't really know where I stand - when I eventually have a baby which I hope will be very soon then have to return to work very part time after my 1 year maternity leave but will probably be unable to if they move me to this other office. I’m wondering if I should tell work that I am TTC and how this move may affect me. Or maybe it too early to do that?

 

[candice123]

Miss Monty, I think unfortunately that ur boss has made up his mind already. These guys probrably have a male bonding thimg going on and the childcare issue card is always being played at my work also. Its soooo frustrating. You could try telling your boss that you are TTC, and see what he says. If he gives you a lot of attitide and gets shirty, couldnt you go above him to his superior?
Thanks Cherry blossom, its hard, everyone around me has such a 'normal' family, and it helps to know that not everyone is the same. (I like ur pic by the way) We have also been married for 1 yr, 1month ( almost) 10th DEC.

 

[Lauz_1601]

my mum knows becuase she was at my house when I came home with a bandage on my arm..... want hard for her to figure out implant had been removed lol.

And so Dave told his dad too........

and I've told my friends they all know we dont keep anything from eachother...

oh and some people from work who I am clsoer to

xxx

 

[CherryBlossom]

ur not alone in it if u ever need a chat or anything u can pm i'm pretty much on here all day xx

 

[HAYS]

i get too excited,and so ive told loadsa people haha

BIG MOUTH HAYS

 

[MissMonty]

Miss Monty, I think unfortunately that ur boss has made up his mind already. These guys probrably have a male bonding thimg going on and the childcare issue card is always being played at my work also. Its soooo frustrating. You could try telling your boss that you are TTC, and see what he says. If he gives you a lot of attitide and gets shirty, couldnt you go above him to his superior?

I soooooo want to be a stay at home mum but my OH would want me to return to work - but hey we're still TTC and I'm sure things will change - so I've decided to still keep it a secret. Although its not really as all you guys know

 

[candice123]

Thanks Cherry blossum, how long have you been TTC, if you dont mind me asking?

 

[CherryBlossom]

this is our 5th month our first month charting and using OPKs thou dont mind at all u can ask anything xxx

 

[candice123]

How do you find the opks? I got some from ebay and they are the on call brand. I have been using them for about a month now, and I think I have just got the hang of it. I got a definite surge at 10.30 last night and a negative at 5pm tonight. I think I have the hang of it. (We did BD of course!).