Dana_Scully
Zachary's Mommy
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Before having my son I had an MMC. Pregnancy with my son was hard, at 13 weeks I started bleeding thanks to a hematoma as big as him and bled until like 19 weeks. I foolishly thought that I had an MC because it was my first baby. I've been worried from the start with my latest pregnancy, but when it ended in an MC on monday it just killed me.
I thought I could take it better than the first one but I can't. I thought already having a child would make it better, but it doesn't. At first it helped, I reminded myself that I was lucky to have a healthy child. I really wanted to give my son a sibling, but at the same time I was unsure whether he would be happy about it. I don't want him to go through life alone.
I get pregnant really quickly, like it takes a cycle or two, my little beans implant but don't seem to grow! My OB/GYN gave me a reference paper to go see a specialist, but it could take months to see one if they agree to see me. Heck I'm not even sure I have it in me to try conceiving again.
I feel so lonely, my husband's hurting too and we don't have as much support as we did the first time around. Maybe people think since we have Zachary we shouldn't be upset?? I know it was going to be hard having a second child, since we live in an apartment and we don't have a car. We take the bus a lot and sometimes my parents give us a lift for the important stuff like doctor's appointments. They wouldn't be able to do that if we had a second child. I kept thinking; this is crazy how are we gonna function? But I still wanted my baby!
Are there any other ladies in this situation?
PS. Sorry for the rant, I guess it doesn't make much sense, it's just all that I've been feeling since the MC just poured out of me...
I thought I could take it better than the first one but I can't. I thought already having a child would make it better, but it doesn't. At first it helped, I reminded myself that I was lucky to have a healthy child. I really wanted to give my son a sibling, but at the same time I was unsure whether he would be happy about it. I don't want him to go through life alone.
I get pregnant really quickly, like it takes a cycle or two, my little beans implant but don't seem to grow! My OB/GYN gave me a reference paper to go see a specialist, but it could take months to see one if they agree to see me. Heck I'm not even sure I have it in me to try conceiving again.
I feel so lonely, my husband's hurting too and we don't have as much support as we did the first time around. Maybe people think since we have Zachary we shouldn't be upset?? I know it was going to be hard having a second child, since we live in an apartment and we don't have a car. We take the bus a lot and sometimes my parents give us a lift for the important stuff like doctor's appointments. They wouldn't be able to do that if we had a second child. I kept thinking; this is crazy how are we gonna function? But I still wanted my baby!
Are there any other ladies in this situation?
PS. Sorry for the rant, I guess it doesn't make much sense, it's just all that I've been feeling since the MC just poured out of me...