Having such a rough time :-( :-(

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I have so many questions and I'm hoping I can get some help here!!

So, I knew I was miscarrying all weekend long. I went and stayed with my mom, because I felt like my husband wouldn't understand and my mom had been through it 3 times. So, Monday I went in for blood work and then had to go in yesterday to make sure my levels were going down.

They were supposed to call me today and never did, so I called them. The nurse said on Monday my levels were 64 (i have no concept of these numbers, as I've never been pregnant before) and she said yesterday they were at 79. She said "That's not a huge increase, but it is an increase" I said "I'm almost 100% sure I had a miscarriage. I bled with clots and had intense cramps, why would my numbers go up?" and she said "Hmm.. Did you have pain in your sides?" I said "no" She said "I'll have the nurse practitioner call you back."... So, for 15 freakin minutes, I thought MAYBE i had twins in there and miscarried one.. I had all of these emotions and thought I was pregnant again. I was sooooo excited and I was crying and texted my best friend.

15 mins. later I get a phone call from some secretary saying my numbers weren't high enough to be pregnant and to come back on Monday to make sure they go down. :-( :-( :-(

Does anyone know anything about numbers and are mine super low? Whyyy would they have gone up? I was only 5.5 weeks along. Should I even bother going in on Monday!?

Also, I came home tonight for the first time in 4 days, after staying with my mom and I feel so alone. My husband wasn't at all effected by this. He's just telling me about work and some party and blah blah blah. I hate this!!!!!!
 
I'm sorry you have to go through this and I.hope maybe you'll husband comes around (men sometimes takes things alot different than us women) try talking to him and tell him how you feel.

As far as the numbers I'm not to surd as this was my first m/c as well and I was 12wks and baby died at 8+3 and my numbers were only 1,207.. I do.know to be pregnant your numbers are suppose to double every 2-3 days..I would def get that checked out with yohr numbers going up just a little. Have you had a scan yet? Maybe there is some tissue still left causing your numbers to go up. Again I am sorry you are going through this. I hope things work out for you.
 
Thank you :) Yeah, men can suck sometimes... It's really put a damper on us and we haven't even been married a month.

I never had a scan.. I'm betting there is still tissue in there, because I haven't stopped bleeding. I just wish it was over with!! Ugh!

Sorry for your loss, too :-( I keep getting sadder and sadder!
 
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I had a similar experience where I had to back to the hospital 3 times before the levels were low enough for them to discharge me. It is so hard because you just want it to be over and to try and somehow start to deal with it all. But, it is really really important that you go to make sure your levels have gone down enough.

*hugs*
 
hi there, im so sorry to hear about your loss. i am recovering from third miscarriage. this time at 11 weeks+.
my doctor explained to me this time that levels can increase until you physically pass the actual sack. i dont know what stage of pregnancy this all becomes relevant. i feel im told a different thing each time. i was heart broken when a thoughtless doctor told me my pregnancy test was still positive 5 days after the actual massive bleeding but technically more than 5 weeks after my baby stopped growing. i also had the false hope of twins, desperate to belief anything that would still allow there to be a life in my tummy. a scan yesterday proved this to be a false hope and everything has finally gone. the body takes time to recover i suppose.
i would also insist upon a scan to make sure all tissue has gone. right now the thought of trying again is probably ridiculous but i promise when u are ready its a relief to know you had all the after care possible and everything is ok.
and with regards to your husband, its so so hard. my partner never understood the pain and loss iv felt. the first time i close to lost my mind almost begging him to cry with me and grieve months later. sadly he just didnt feel the connection i felt. much as its a part of them, its inside us and i think it makes it harder for them to believe its real. i know some men who feel the pain, feel the loss but now in a way im glad i didnt have one. i would hate for him to feel this empty ache the way i do. i hope he starts to support you more though!
right now i almost cant believe it myself, this time has really broken me, but i do rememeber from the past it does get better over time, a lot of time but eventually.... i hope it gets better for you soon.xx
 
Thank you girls so much for taking the time to reply to me and helping me to understand stuff. I'm so sorry for everything you've had to go through, too. I had no idea I could feel this sad and lonely! This helped, though! xoxo
 
you are so right. i wish id come onto one of these forums before now. i tried counselling the first time and felt i was banging my head against a wall.
i think the only way forward is to realise you arent alone. statistics and doctors arent the answer for everyone. we'll all got there eventually. im sure of it xx
 
I'm so sorry for your loss :( My levels were at 88,000 when I went to the hospital on the 2nd due to tiny spots of blood, when I found out baby's heart had stopped...A week later I was back int he ER for severe pain and levels had gone down to 2250 - I know if is hard, but I think you should go in anyway, to make sure the tissue comes out...I have had a nightmare of a time getting all of the tissue out...Used cytotec on the 5th, and passed the baby, but then there was retained placental tissue, did cytotec again, with no luck other than more paina nd yet another ER trip (that was wednesday morning) and then finally had to have a d&c yesterday (thursday) it is really important that they get all of the tissue out because it can cause infection and future problems (and crazy pain!) :( <3 prayers with you.
 
Oh yikes... How far along were you?! I wish there was another way of knowing that the tissue is all out without having to go back in and without blood work. :-(
Sorry for your loss also! xoxo
 
Thanks :( I was 10 weeks when I found out, but baby had died at 9 weeks 2 days...when I went for the scan at the ER, i really thought everything was fine, that I was getting a 'cheap' ultrasound (copay is $100, individual u/s at OB were $300) it was such shocking news that they couldn't find a heartbeat...even they seemed not very sure about it, because on their scan baby had bloated a bit and was measuring to the day, cervix closed, no blood....even though that was 2 weeks ago now, it feels so surreal...would have been 12 weeks yesterday :(
 

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