He has moved on!

[Laura2919]

As the title says lol!

He told me last night.. My only concern is she is young, Just 17! He is 21. I am ok other than that and I made it clear he is not to bring Chloe and Jaycee around her until we have talked about it and I feel comfortable!

She's not a very attractive girl though lol I'm not supposed to say that though am I.. Even his family said so! Hehe!!

 

[Aidedhoney]

Sorry hun xxx

How do you feel? Did it come as a shock?
I agree that the girls shouldnt be exposed to her this early on as it could just be a rebound thing

Hugs to you xx

 

[Laura2919]

I was shocked but I was expecting it so I dont really know why I was shocked. I am ok though, He can do what he likes.. He is still trying to control certain points of my life but he gets shut down when he tries.. I just asked him if he could have Chloe and Jaycee for me over night and he hasnt replied cos I am assuming he is with her. I dont mind though, but then she is young and maybe its a rebound thing.. Who knows.. Cant say I didnt expect it.

 

[Aidedhoney]

Not nice hun,

I think the first one is always a shock no matter how much we prepare for it, 17 is very young to cope with the emotional baggage that he will be carrying!

I just hope he doesnt let it come between him and the girls x

 

[scottishgal89]

my ex was sleeping with someone else and me at the same time.
i thought she was imaginary but shes actually not.
hope your alright x

 

[wyates]

I dont know what to say, but my fob moved on even before we ended it so to say... Living with one woman and having a relationship with yet another and then which he only used as some kind of excitement...
Good you made that clear about her meeting your lil ones I think it was a wise thing of you to say.

 

[Tashry]

Good for you standing your ground about having your babes around her. I think one of the worst things a parent can do is start introducing your kids to the boyfriend/girlfriend du jour. Unless it is a serious and possibly long term relationship there is no need to bring the kids into it = and with the age difference chances are good that things wont work out. Not that 4 years is a big deal, but being 21 and 17...that is a huge difference in terms of where you are in your lives.
All the best to you....I know it cant be easy, but you seem like you are doing a good job of handling the situation.

 

[Laura2919]

Yeah funny enough I am friends with her sister and we spoke about it.. Its probably just a bit of fun but whatever it is I know we wont be getting back together so good luck to him..

I have too much going on to even think about moving on but one day I will and will he feel the same way then?? Men only think about the road ahead, The women think of the next 4 roads ahead lol!!

I am ok though funny enough.. I didnt think I would be.. I have thought about it lots but I think its getting used to the idea.. He was always going to move on first he had to ties..

 

[tinkabells]

Men do seem to move on alot quicker than what we can, for reasons we have the babies, so cant just go out and get the nearest dog at the end of the night, and i think half the time when they meet these girls, its only to prove to themselves they can still pull, even most of the time the women are dog rough!!! xxx

 

[Laura2919]

Tinkabells, I think thats the reason us women feel jealous or annoyed! Because they can just move on and we cant.. Although it dont matter because at least I can say I spent the time getting over him properly and not by moving under someone else! lol.

Ah good luck to him!

 

[Dopeyjopey]

Tinkabells, I think thats the reason us women feel jealous or annoyed! Because they can just move on and we cant.. Although it dont matter because at least I can say I spent the time getting over him properly and not by moving under someone else! lol.

Ah good luck to him!

I think that's a major part of being a single mum! In the past I've always gotten over one by getting under another but I can't do that now and I think it'll make me much stronger in the long run. I'm hoping I'll also have better judgement because once LO gets here I'll have to think of what's right for them too, not just what I fancy doing at the time!

 

[Laura2919]

Yeah its hard but my kids reward me in other ways! Just seeing them grow makes me realise that I dont need a man taking attention away from them! I love my girls loads and I am happy to just see people rather than a relationship for now.. But who knows!! I am moving into my own place in a few days so its a new start!!

 

[tinkabells]

Tinkabells, I think thats the reason us women feel jealous or annoyed! Because they can just move on and we cant.. Although it dont matter because at least I can say I spent the time getting over him properly and not by moving under someone else! lol.

Ah good luck to him!

I think that's a major part of being a single mum! In the past I've always gotten over one by getting under another but I can't do that now and I think it'll make me much stronger in the long run. I'm hoping I'll also have better judgement because once LO gets here I'll have to think of what's right for them too, not just what I fancy doing at the time!

Yep thats what i always did, and was on and off with him for over 2 yrs, but yeah thats what gets to me most, they cna just go and do whatever, but like you laura, i'm doing it the proper way, i have my girl to think of now, and i've met a couple of ppl since, who i've gone on dates with and if they come over mine, they have come over after she is in bed she will never meet anyone until i think its going somewhere, and same goes for him, if he wanted to start seeing her again, i would let him, but no-one else is going to come in and out of her life like his family or birds or whatever ya no xxx

 

[Laura2919]

Yeah your right I told him he is not to introduce them to his girlfriends unless he knows its gonna be serious!!!

But we will see lol!!

 

[tinkabells]

I think its wrong when ppl ntroduce there kids to there new loves for the moment then a few weeks later there gone, i would personally give it a few months and then see where its going xxx

 

[Laura2919]

Yeah I definitely agree!! Lets hope he sticks to what he says and if he dont he knows exactly what its gonna cause!

 

[tinkabells]

Fingers crossed he does xxx

 

[Laura2919]

I havent spoken to him for 3 days because he deliberately missed my call!! and he lied to me lol!
I have been ignoring his calls for 3 days!

 

[Aidedhoney]

He sounds like my ex.........Why do they lie its the lies that really hack me off!!!

I hate lies of any kind arghhhhhhhh bloody inconsideate fools!!!!!!!

I came to the conclusion today that my son is far too good for his waste of a space father, its just as well our kiddies have the best mummies in the world!

 

[tinkabells]

Haha well i aint heard from FOB in 6 weeks and i've just changed my mob so he might of tried but i dont no or care anymore his missing out xxx