He makes me soooooo mad!

[laurajane1982]

So today I told him that I wasn't going to tell him when I'm in labour, I know what he's like and if I tell him he'll come to the hospital and hang around till my little man is born, when he's just been born the last thing I want us a man who I hate in the room with me whilst I'm trying to breastfeed and gain that special mother baby bond! I've saud he can see him the next day but instead he put the phone down on me and haven't heard from him since!

He is so immature and really needs tp grow the hell up!!

I also told him today that when baby is born he can come twice a week to him, he lives an hour away and wants to come everyday even for five minutes!! I can't stand this man, I want him and will never stop him seeing his son but everyday!!! I don't think I can cope with all this and scared stiff he is going to be the cause of depression if he carrys on!

Am I wrong in anyway?

 

[TiredNurse27]

nope!

 

[kirst1805]

Def not! The last thing you need is to feel uncomfortable while giving birth and getting settled.. Its hard enough anyway.

He sounds like he needs to grow up a bit tbh.

xx

 

[laurajane1982]

Thank goodness for that!! He makes me feel
like I'm being an awful person, I know im not il
just trying to protect my son from having a stressed out mum, even speaking him
makes me upset and angry let alone seeing him
daily or when I've just given birth!! I'm going to have serious problems
with him when he's born I think which is awful as I want to look forward to his birth not dread what he's going to be doing and what he's going to be like! I feel like screaming xx

 

[kirst1805]

Try not to worry too much about it at the min, personally i wouldn't contact him until LO is here.. unless he contacts you obviously, that way you can focus on getting ready etc.

xx

 

[jocelynmarie]

I'm doing the same thing if it makes you feel any better!!! I won't even tell him the hospital because I refuse to have him there at all. I told him he can visit when we're settled in at home.

 

[laurajane1982]

He is going mad about it now and making a really big issue about it!! We are the ones that have gone through 9 months of pregnancy, god knows how many hours of labour And then they expect to waltz in at the end of it all when we are exhausted want to rest and bond within child we've just carried for nine months!! To top it all off he's now trying to tell me I don't want him in mine or the child's life and making me sound awful, well he's right I don't want him in my life but I would never deprive my child of a dad no matter how much I hate his guts!!! I HATE men so much right now xx

 

[divershona]

you can say to the midwives that you don't want him anywhere near you and your little man, and they won't allow him access to the ward. I had to do that with my FOB and they were brilliant with me about it.

 

[laurajane1982]

Oh that's really good to know I think I'll do that then, and make it clear to him that I've done it so he doesn't try to turn up anyway which I think he will as soon as I've told him he's been born!! He reads all my stuff on here anyway so I guess he'll know soon anyway!!! xx

 

[justlove]

I would also let your midwife know, they will make a note of it in your hospital pregnancy notes so when u do come to go into hospital to have baby they are aware of situation, also for your after care. End of day you & baby's well being take top priority everyone and everything else takes a back seat.

 

[Lillybloss]

Can I just say ladies it's lovely to hear all us strong idpendent women putting our foot down and doing the best for our babies.