he says he has mixed feelings..

[dollygirlie]

the babies dad has been messing me about and basically has been pretty unsupportive the last 9 months of pregnancy.
Well he said he would support me and be with me when I give birth to my baby in over a weeks time.
He keeps going on about sex still, and said he can't wait to see me next week, as we live far away from eachother, I havn't seen him in a couple of months as he works up north. I said to him arn't you excited for the birth of our daughter, and he said he had mixed feelings about her, he said he might bond with her you never know. Am I going mad, are these pregnancy hormones getting to me, is that comment one of those most hurtful things you could say to someone giving birth to your child? Is it normal for a man to be so cold towards his child. I just had to have a rant on here, I am so confused with this bloke!

 

[xarlenex]

He sounds like a bit of a head wreck!
But it actually is common for a man to feel no attachment to his son/daughter until after the birth. Some don't even bond properly until the babies are a little more active. But for him to say that to you the way he did just isn't very nice
Do you consider yourself to be in a relationship with this guy? Or are yous seperated? I'm not quite sure from how you spoke about him in your post sorry

 

[dollygirlie]

well its been kinda off an on over the last year, I was previously in a relationship 8 years, I was told I couldn't have children when I caught last year. I have slowly been loosing my patience with him over the last year, and fell out of love with him due to his lack of support. We had a text argument back and forth this week as I said I want to end the relationship, he kept pushing it but he seems to have finally accepted it this morning and now is willing to get a hotel. I said I didn't want anything more to do with him and he said I had no right keeping the child away from him, so suddenly he has gone from having mixed feelings no connection to wanting to see his baby, i think you are right he is a headwreck lol!

 

[brownhairedmom]

Its not normal but its common. My ex hasn't spoken to me since july and has not ACKNOWLEDGED she was born & she'll be 4 months old next tuesday. some men are just absolute morons

 

[dollygirlie]

gawd what is up with guys, they seem to have no moral standards whatsoever these days!

 

[captain-ally]

the bonding thing is true, but I've noticed that men always want what they can't have. You tell them to feck off and suddenly they're "Dad" and demand to see "their" baby. It's so petty and childish.

 

[PrettyBonk]

Its common for the men not to bond with their child until the child is born...I've seen it many times.