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[expecting09]

FOB text me today asking for my address, I replied asking why, he said he might need it, I asked why again, and he replied saying he might need to send me a letter. I was getting angry now, seeing as though I havent heard from him since before Kacie was born. Then I replied.. 'Youve made it clear you dont want anything to do with kacie, im not giving you my address so you can get in contact whenever it suits you', he replied saying he doesnt want to.

I've run outta texts now till tomorrow. But do you think I should give it to him? I dont see why there is any reason for him to send me a letter, we dont get on, and he doesnt want anything to do with LO, I just don't know why this all came out of the blue Do I do it?

 

[sweetlullaby]

Im not sure on this.....but didnt wanna read and run lol

hmmmm could you reply saying your not too happy with giving out your house address because you want to protect yourself and your daughter as in from him just showing up at the door making demands etc? Maybe you could offer him your email address instead or something. What can be said in a letter can be typed in an email im sure!! xx

 

[mummysangels]

i agree.. an email adress would be better. if all he want's is to write a letter then he can do that via email. xx

 

[Boony]

sounds like it might be a solicitors letter???

I dont know your situation. But could he possibly be trying to get access or something?

 

[expecting09]

Oh yeah, didn't think of an email address Thats much easier! Thanks girls, he can have that instead of my home address.

I don't think it would be a solicitors letter, he's made it crystal clear he doesn't want to be involved in her life. But you never know I guess

 

[sweetlullaby]

Good Luck and hope it all goes well for you!! xx

 

[lou_w34]

FOB asked for my address ages ago, even though he's done sod all, and i didnt give it to him. He couldnt give me a clear answere as to why he wanted it, so i told him to jog on basically lol

Yeah id give him your email, or tell him you dont him texting what he had to say.

 

[expecting09]

Well I gave him my email, and he still wasnt satisfied, saying he wants my address so he can keep a written record of everything I'm sure he can print emails He isn't getting my address, I made that clear.

I still don't understand where this has all come from, I havent heard from him since I was like 5 months pregnant so don't know why he would write to me. He loves to confuse me I'm sure. This all comes after I finally brought myself round to deleting all our pics, all his texts, and his number.. bloody typical!

 

[sweetlullaby]

Tell him to go and **** Sorry....that wasnt very sensible of me.

I find that very suspicious that he "wants a written record of everything" because email is a better form of having any kind of "evidence of contact" i mean anyone could write a letter and say such and such sent me this!

I think he's wanting your address so he can show up at your house or is it possible he wants it for a solicitor for getting access? He sounds like he is being difficult! I hope it all works out ok for you!! xx

 

[purpledahlia]

It sounds like he is up to something chick, I wouldnt give him it. Do you have his??

If he keeps bugging you just say clearly ' you said you want to write a letter, write an email then. you can print it and 'keep a record' ' but why would he want to keep a record if he wants nothign to do with her? I have a feeling its a bit more complicated and he doesnt want you to know yet.

have you registered her?? id get on it ASAP he sounds like hes calculating something up! be prepared, get a will done and her BC done asap.

 

[expecting09]

I thought that sweetlullaby, he would just appear here out of the blue one day.

I've told him now that if he promises never to contact me or Kacie again I wont go through the CSA, cos he was worried about that. Don't know if that has got anything to do with wanting my address though

Yeah I have his address, don't know if I'll ever need it though, and I've registered her, I did want to put him on the birth certificate before I had LO, how stupid was I?! Good job I came to my senses!!

 

[sweetlullaby]

Some sort of sixth sense is playing up....i agree with purpledahlia he's definately up to something!!!

I think he wants your address so he can get a solicitor to contact you about access or so he can just show up at your house!

Be careful!! xx