Hello! Newbie to your forum

[coley144]

Hi, I posted this in the intro's thread but I figure this bit of the site is where I will be settling in.

I'm Coley, been trying to get pregnant for over a year now. I'm 38 and so in a bit of a hurry.

I'm engaged to my lovely fella and we're getting married in August. Everything would be great except that I can't seem to get pregnant.

We're under a consultant who at the first appointment told me to lose lots of weight. So I'm on the Cambridge Diet and have, so far, lost 53 pounds. He says he won't treat me, if I need it, until my BMI is under 35. I'm quite short (and quite fat!) so that's still a way away.

This last month my diet stopped working and instead of 10 pounds a month I only lost 3! It's been pretty hard sticking to the diet, being hungry all this time, and not losing anything. The only thing I consolled myself with was that I thought maybe this was the month and that's why I wasn't losing.

Anyway I came on today so that's the end of that pipe dream.

We're back at the consultants today which I'm not really looking forward to. I think he won't believe I've been sticking to the diet. The next test they have to do is check if my tubes are blocked - but they won't unblock them until my BMI is under 35 (its about 39 now) - which at this rate of loss could take another 6 months!

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Today's update:

Went to the consultants last night and am getting an appointment for the dye test next week. Does anyone know if it hurts? Sounds painful!

He's focussing completely on me losing weight, despite the fact that my body isn't letting any weight go at the moment - even on 600 calories a day! Is anyone else in a similar position? I feel quite alone at the moment - and am trying really hard to keep my self esteem up but the whole weight obsession is really getting me down.

 

[Bexy]

Hi Coley!

Sorry you've had to make your way over to this forum but welcome anyway!!

I'm not in the same position as you re: weight loss (by no means slim though!) however just wanted to say hi and hope your ttc journey ends soon!

There are lots of ladies here on a new fitness regime for the new year (a couple on the cambridge diet I believe) therefore I'm sure someone will be along soon to give you some advice

Good luck with the lap and dye - I'm hoping that this is the next step for me (after 3 failed cycles on Clomid) I also understand from what others have posted that its slightly uncomfortable (bit like a smear test followed by period type pains) but hopefully its all worth it in the end!

Take care

xx

 

[FJL]

coley and welcome!

First of all, congrats on your loss so far, 53 pounds is bloody amazing!!!

600 calories is nothing, and to be honest, i'd think that would send your body into starvation mode...slowing down your metabolism hence the poor weight loss recently. My advice would definitely be to consult a nutritionist and hire a personal trainer. I know it will be expensive but it will get you to your goal so much quicker and much more safely.

I had a HSG done oh geez...about 7 years ago and for me it did really hurt BUT I have a condition that causes most types of penetration to hurt. Most girls say that it is uncomfy but bearable.

Good luck

 

[CarpeDiem]

Hey Coley!

You've set yourself up for a challenging year, but it will be so worth it on so many levels at the end. Think of what a beautiful, blushing bride you'll be in August! What are your wedding plans?

If you're only taking in 600 calories a day, it may be too little. Your body shuts down, as I'm sure you know, if it fears starvation. Is that the diet that the quack doctor gave you? If not, you might consider adding a couple more carrots, so your body relaxes a bit and lets go.

By the way, you didn't mention physical activity. Do you walk, Girl? You must! I must, too! Don't worry that I'm some skinny infant giving you a lecture. I'm 43, and have fought the bulgy battle my whole life. I'm okay now, but I have to really watch it. And "okay" means I could still stand to lose a stone or two!

Now, about the lap and dye. Best thing is not to think about it too much, or you'll get nervous. It wasn't terribly comfortable during--like your regular pelvic with forceps and all--but took a bit longer and a bit more scraping. I had no cramping at all, and no bleeding. So I just breathed deep and chattered my head off to the nurses, and it all passed quickly enough. Don't sweat it. Hopefully, it will be fine for you, too.

So, to take your mind off HSGs and hunger pangs, go for a walk and then come back and tell me all about your wedding plans!

And welcome to the forums! I'm new, too, and it's a great place for us to be. See you soon!

 

[coley144]

Thanks ladies. What a nice welcome!

The 600 cal diet (Cambridge) is one the consultant recommended. Its 3 shakes a day (with all your vits and minerals in) and a mini tea. It's supposed to be healthy - as healthy as 600 calories can be! It was working fine but lately its really stalled. It's not a diet I'd choose if I wasn't in a hurry. I lost 3 stone a few years ago just calorie counting and that was much better for me. I'm off to see my diet lady today and I'll see what she recommends - I want to move up and eat more real food because I want to be fit if/when I get pregnant.

Exercise - before I started this diet I was working out 3/4 times a week. Now I'm so tired and I get dizzy really easily so I walk whenever I can and try to exercise at weekends.

Wedding - Ah! Now this is all more cheerful! We're getting married on a friday about 4 in a hotel nearby. So the plan is to get married, speeches then a BBQ! My nieces and nephews are being my kiddie bridesmaids and pageboys and I'm dressing them as knights and princesses. They are all under 7 so should love that! I have also asked 3 girl friends to be my adult bridesmaids. My sister is giving me away as my Dad died a few years ago.

I'm not planning on wearing white as it doesnt suit me but maybe a dark green or red wine colour. Think more medieval queen than virginal bride!

My lovely fella has been threatening various outfits. He says as he can't see mine I can't see his. I think he's moved on from dressing as Darth Vader or coming in a kilt (he isn't Scottish!). The last suggestion was that just like that Michael Jackson video he wants the aisle to light up as we walk down - so he's arguing for a disco theme!

I THINK he's not serious!

 

[CarpeDiem]

Your fella is a funny one! If he does come as Darth Vader, you must post photos!

It sounds like you've got such a great day to look forward to! The weather should be great in August, and since it's at the end of the week, everyone will be able to come. How very exciting! Congratulations on marrying such a great guy, and keep thinking those positive thoughts.

I need to follow my own advice, I think. Time to go for a walk and stop moping about my crummy luck yesterday! Be sure to tell that diet lady that you're dizzy all the time. That's an absolute indication that your diet is not giving you the things you need to be strong, and you're right to want to fuel yourself up for the babymaking. Health is so much more than a number on a scale!

Well done, Girl--glad to hear you smile!

 

[HAYS]

Hun and welcome!!!

Good luck for your dye test, did he say it was a HSG whereby they put a doppler up your hooo ha!and check tubes, ovaries etc???

xxx

 

[vineyard]

I agree with FJL. Actually, if you increase your calories you will probably lose. YOur body is storing everything it's getting because it's thinks you are starving it!

 

[latestarter]

Hi Coley,

Welcome to the forum. And good luck with your appointment today - they can be nerve wracking.

 

[littlemorag]

Hi Coley,

welcome and CONGRATULATIONS! firstly on getting married and secondly in losing so much weight!

My husband and I have bee trying a wee while now and although my doc has not said so, I must be in a similar situation to yourself. I have lost about 60lb and still have a few to go as I am 5'2" (and thats being generous) and my bmi is 37

I had CD21 tests done and it said I have testosterone levels which are on the high end of normal.

I was initially worried but the lovely ladies here assured me that my problems should even out when I lost weight as fatty tissue leads to higher testosterone levels and makes my eggies not so good quality (I think)

I agree with everyone else that 600cal a day will, of course make you lose weight initially but your body will get used to it and eventually go into starvation mode - it sounds like it already has.
If you eat more - still healthily like fruit, veg, whole grains etc and take a few more walks a week etc I assure you the weight will continue to drop off.

Although if you lose more than 2lb a week for a sustained time, its not good and the weight tends to come back on more easily.

I do weight watchers and it has worked for me but I know everyone is different!

I want to wish you all the luck in the world in getting your bfp and of coure getting married!

Moragx

 

[littlemorag]

Oh, and hope the appt goes well!

Moragx

 

[coley144]

Thank you ladies. It seems even my Cambridge lady agrees with you and she's moved me up to 1000 calories, which to my body is going to seem like Christmas! I'm sure i will be able to exercise again properly which I've really missed - and I never thought I'd said that!

Little morag - I'm 5ft2 as well! I have prayed to be taller as it'd really help with the BMI problem! I had my hormones etc done and I was a bit high on the testosterone too but nothing the consultant was worried about. My fella is shooting proper bullets so really, hopefully, we are good to go.

Anyway am feeling much more positive now I have a bowl of risotto in me.

 

[JASMAK]

Hey there...welcome to our site. I too am on a diet, however, in my case, my DR says that weight has nothing to do with it. I don't know if I believe him or not, but figured I should lose some anyways (just for me). Good luck to you...

 

[BizyBee]

Welcome! I know you're discouraged about the slow loss, but it should be easier now that you've changed your calorie intake. Congrats on what you've already lost. It's quite impressive.... Good luck!

 

[CarpeDiem]

Hey, Coley! Just checking on you and sending some ! How is it going with the new version of the diet? Are you feeling less lightheaded?

 

[CareBear]

Welcome to BnB and good luck with the weight loss and the HSG!

 

[coley144]

Hi. I am feeling MUCH better on more calories. My body feels much more alive so I'm hoping it'll decide to get pregnant too!

This hope thing hey - It just keeps on going!