pinkneon
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Hi. Don't think I've posted in this section befoe but wanted to say hi and introduce myself.
So FOB and I were together for 2 and half years. In the last 6 months we were together but in an open relationship (please don't judge!). The rule was we could see other people as long as we told each other. We were ttc for 17months. As soon as I found out I was pregnant FOB said he no longer wanted a baby and told me to "go rot in hell". I found out about a week or so later that he has 2 other kids - one was from an ex and was born just before we got together and the second was conceived and born in the time we were together - but before we went into an open relationship. He doesn't see or support either of his other children. He told me that the baby isn't his even though I was actually really loyal to him and used protection with anyone else there might have been. Also the week I would have conceived I was only with him anyhow.
Anyway he basically said that he doesn't want anything to do with the baby and doesn't ever want to see me or the baby. He then thought he had every right to name my baby - but I put my foot down. I decided I will not put him on the birth certificate because I don't want him to have any rights to the baby. I must just tell you that he drinks a LOT which I wouldn't have around my baby anyway. He thinks he doesn't drink that much but getting totally drunk everynight makes me think differently!
He has said several times that he is going to report me to social services for "being an unfit mother" as he thinks that I am being unfair by saying that if he changes his mind about wanting to see our baby then he needs to stop drinking ... He also came out with all this stuff about he apparently had several illnesses (mostly mental ones) which were all supposed to be severe and one was supposed to be life threatening, though he claimed he "didn't want to take his medication". I went with him to one of his ordinary doctor appointments and asked the doctor about these illnesses. I wasn't trying to catch him out, I just wanted to know the doctor's opinion on how they would affect him with a new baby. The doctor looked at me like I was mad, and then told me he didn't have any of these illnesses.
So this will be my first baby and she is due in January. So yeah just thought I'd say hi and tell you my story
So FOB and I were together for 2 and half years. In the last 6 months we were together but in an open relationship (please don't judge!). The rule was we could see other people as long as we told each other. We were ttc for 17months. As soon as I found out I was pregnant FOB said he no longer wanted a baby and told me to "go rot in hell". I found out about a week or so later that he has 2 other kids - one was from an ex and was born just before we got together and the second was conceived and born in the time we were together - but before we went into an open relationship. He doesn't see or support either of his other children. He told me that the baby isn't his even though I was actually really loyal to him and used protection with anyone else there might have been. Also the week I would have conceived I was only with him anyhow.
Anyway he basically said that he doesn't want anything to do with the baby and doesn't ever want to see me or the baby. He then thought he had every right to name my baby - but I put my foot down. I decided I will not put him on the birth certificate because I don't want him to have any rights to the baby. I must just tell you that he drinks a LOT which I wouldn't have around my baby anyway. He thinks he doesn't drink that much but getting totally drunk everynight makes me think differently!
He has said several times that he is going to report me to social services for "being an unfit mother" as he thinks that I am being unfair by saying that if he changes his mind about wanting to see our baby then he needs to stop drinking ... He also came out with all this stuff about he apparently had several illnesses (mostly mental ones) which were all supposed to be severe and one was supposed to be life threatening, though he claimed he "didn't want to take his medication". I went with him to one of his ordinary doctor appointments and asked the doctor about these illnesses. I wasn't trying to catch him out, I just wanted to know the doctor's opinion on how they would affect him with a new baby. The doctor looked at me like I was mad, and then told me he didn't have any of these illnesses.
So this will be my first baby and she is due in January. So yeah just thought I'd say hi and tell you my story
