Help! 12+2 but the anxiety is terrible. What can i ask my Dr to put my mind at ease?

[40WeekWait]

I had an early mc in February (very early) and have now made it past 12 weeks. Does any know any questions I could ask at my next appointment/scan to help put my mind at ease? I've already had my NT scan and heard the heartbeat but can't shake the feeling that something could go wrong.

Any advice on things I could ask? Maybe something you asked that helped, or that you would ask...

Thanks, I really appreciate any input you ladies could give me.

 

[Topanga053]

I don't think there's anything you can ask to put your mind at ease. I'm sure you already know most of the stats about the chances for a loss after 12 weeks (and if you don't, a little Google research might give you something to hold on to). But I think for most of us PAL folk, there is ALWAYS going to be a bit of "something could go wrong" in the back of our minds because we've LIVED that reality. I don't think any particular scan or milestone or answer from our doctor is going to completely get rid of that. I used to tell myself, "once I see the HB, I'll calm down." Then it was, "if the HB is still there this scan, I'll calm down." Then it was, "once I make it to 12 weeks, I'll calm down." Each of those things helped (a little... for a few days...), but then I'd find new things to start worrying about (was the baby too small at that last scan? It looked a little bit small... Was the HB REALLY strong enough? I know it's average, but X's baby had a higher HB...).

I don't think we're ever going to find external validation that everything will be ok. I think we somehow need to find the internal strength to simply have faith and let go of the worrying to the extent that we're able and enjoy this journey as much as we possibly can.

 

[PugLuvAh]

I'm not sure if there is anything you can ask to put your mind at ease. Even though my last pregnancy was fine, my first miscarriage still affects my ability to enjoy this one. I too do the "milestones" where my stress/anxiety levels decrease a bit. Tomorrow is my first milestone (I lost my first pregnancy at 5w 5d). Then I'll worry about the first scan...it never ends.

Good luck!!