Okay, sorry if this gets long just want to explain it all.
I'm 17, got pregnant when I was 16 and my baby is now 7 months old. I was dumb enough to believe the dad of the baby whwn he told me since it was my first time there was no risk at all, but I didn't know that much about it. After a week of finding out I was pregnant and getting no sleep, I told my ex. He asked me if I wanted to get an abortion and when I said no he broke up with me, excusing himself that he was just too young and had a lot to live to put on his shoulders the responsability of raising a child, nd since I I didn't want to get an abortion the baby was my responsability. After that I did not see him or heard from him, I went through pregnancy completetly alone as well as through birth. My parents own a big company and they are always working so they are no help, they were never really involved in my life I always grew up with nannies taking care of me.
And now, after 7 months of Jace's birth things seemee to be fallng into place again. A frienf I had started to come over to my house, saying that he wanted to help me and the baby because we were alone. At first I refused, because he was used to be in the football team with my ex, but he explained to me that he had not seen him or talked to him since we broke up. Hes 19. After some weeks of him trying I allowed him to take care of my baby some hours of the day, or while I took a quick nap or something like that. He turned out to be simply amazing. He's soo sweet with Jace, takes care of him really well and aleays helps without having to tell him twice. Both bond perfectly. After having him around for a couple of months he tokd me that he had always liked me even before I got pregnant and that he wanted to be involved in my and my baby's life. At fiest I refused becuse I did not want to get myself in another relationahip but after some time I realized that I was having feelings for him and it would be a good chance to reconstruct my life with him and gave my son a father, although he isn't his biological dad. He also told me that my ex had been cheating on me with more than one girl while we were together, I.cluding having sex with them.
Anyways, we have been together now for almost three months and I could not ask for more. He changes Jace, feeds him, plays with him, falls asleep with him on the couch... Just the perfect dad, and Jace adores him. He treats me really, really well and told me he is not here for sex and would rather wait for marriage. He has never tried anything with me other than holding me and kissing me. Although we have been going out for three months and it isnt much, it just feels right with him, but I do not jump into crazy stufflike we are going to be together forever or anything like that. Just one day at a time.
Now heres the problem. Two weeks ago I found my ex, Jace's biological dad at my door. At first I closed the door on him, but he kept on ringing the bell, waiting for me outside, calling me to my phone, waiting for me to get out of my job... Everywhere. He said that he wanted to see Jace. He excused himswlf for leaving claiming tht hewas just too young and caught off of guard to cope with it.
I talked to Bren, the guy I am wiyh now, and after a long talk we agreed to let him see my son. He soent a day with him and when he came back he confessed to me that he still loved me and wanted to get back in our lives so we could be a family. I told him that the only interest I had on him having him around was for my son, not him.
But I still feel tht I have a special place for him in my heart since he was the one I lost my virginity to and we now have a kid. But yet again I really really like Bren and I'm always so omfortble with him.
And more importantly I'm worrying about my son. On one side I want to tell my ex that he has no rigjt of seeing Jace after leaving us, but again he is his hiologicl dad and I always wonder when my son grows older if not having his real dad with him will affect hin and make him want to find him. Also, since Bren has been around for a while now and taking care of him I'm afraid it will cause some confusion for him when he grows up. I'm also worried about him being around my son and seeing him might harm my relationship with Bren, since I would have to see my ex often.
Sorry it got so long, just had to get it off my chest :/ any advice, please????? I'm a mess and I just want to do what is best for my baby.
I'm 17, got pregnant when I was 16 and my baby is now 7 months old. I was dumb enough to believe the dad of the baby whwn he told me since it was my first time there was no risk at all, but I didn't know that much about it. After a week of finding out I was pregnant and getting no sleep, I told my ex. He asked me if I wanted to get an abortion and when I said no he broke up with me, excusing himself that he was just too young and had a lot to live to put on his shoulders the responsability of raising a child, nd since I I didn't want to get an abortion the baby was my responsability. After that I did not see him or heard from him, I went through pregnancy completetly alone as well as through birth. My parents own a big company and they are always working so they are no help, they were never really involved in my life I always grew up with nannies taking care of me.
And now, after 7 months of Jace's birth things seemee to be fallng into place again. A frienf I had started to come over to my house, saying that he wanted to help me and the baby because we were alone. At first I refused, because he was used to be in the football team with my ex, but he explained to me that he had not seen him or talked to him since we broke up. Hes 19. After some weeks of him trying I allowed him to take care of my baby some hours of the day, or while I took a quick nap or something like that. He turned out to be simply amazing. He's soo sweet with Jace, takes care of him really well and aleays helps without having to tell him twice. Both bond perfectly. After having him around for a couple of months he tokd me that he had always liked me even before I got pregnant and that he wanted to be involved in my and my baby's life. At fiest I refused becuse I did not want to get myself in another relationahip but after some time I realized that I was having feelings for him and it would be a good chance to reconstruct my life with him and gave my son a father, although he isn't his biological dad. He also told me that my ex had been cheating on me with more than one girl while we were together, I.cluding having sex with them.
Anyways, we have been together now for almost three months and I could not ask for more. He changes Jace, feeds him, plays with him, falls asleep with him on the couch... Just the perfect dad, and Jace adores him. He treats me really, really well and told me he is not here for sex and would rather wait for marriage. He has never tried anything with me other than holding me and kissing me. Although we have been going out for three months and it isnt much, it just feels right with him, but I do not jump into crazy stufflike we are going to be together forever or anything like that. Just one day at a time.
Now heres the problem. Two weeks ago I found my ex, Jace's biological dad at my door. At first I closed the door on him, but he kept on ringing the bell, waiting for me outside, calling me to my phone, waiting for me to get out of my job... Everywhere. He said that he wanted to see Jace. He excused himswlf for leaving claiming tht hewas just too young and caught off of guard to cope with it.
I talked to Bren, the guy I am wiyh now, and after a long talk we agreed to let him see my son. He soent a day with him and when he came back he confessed to me that he still loved me and wanted to get back in our lives so we could be a family. I told him that the only interest I had on him having him around was for my son, not him.
But I still feel tht I have a special place for him in my heart since he was the one I lost my virginity to and we now have a kid. But yet again I really really like Bren and I'm always so omfortble with him.
And more importantly I'm worrying about my son. On one side I want to tell my ex that he has no rigjt of seeing Jace after leaving us, but again he is his hiologicl dad and I always wonder when my son grows older if not having his real dad with him will affect hin and make him want to find him. Also, since Bren has been around for a while now and taking care of him I'm afraid it will cause some confusion for him when he grows up. I'm also worried about him being around my son and seeing him might harm my relationship with Bren, since I would have to see my ex often.
Sorry it got so long, just had to get it off my chest :/ any advice, please????? I'm a mess and I just want to do what is best for my baby.
xx
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