Help Me! But Plz Dont B Offended By Wat My Thread Says :)

[missconfused]

Hey Im Almost 20 And Have Just Found Out Im 4 Months Pregnant! It Was A Complete Shock And Im Unsure What To Do! Im Scared, My Partner Does Not Yet Know But My Mum Does Im Not Sure If Me Or My Partner Are Ready 4 A Baby But I Feel So Connected Already With My Mini Bump....So Please Give Me Ur Opinions And Advice As I Rele Dont No Wat 2 Do N Its Messin Me Up.

 

[honey08]

im not a teen,but know many will help/support/advise u on this forumx

 

[Bride2Be]

Congratulations on your baby! You should tell your OH to get his opinion on the matter. Are you hoping to keep the baby or put her/him up for adoption?

 

[MissMamma]

I think you need to tell your partner...he will be able to help you and you can talk it over together. He will know much better than anyone on here possibly can what your best option is.
All i can offer is my experience, i was completely panicked when i found out i was pregnant but seriously, i don't regret it at all and i can't wait to meet my daughter! Its been scary at times but i'm in no doubt it will all be worth it..xx
And welcome to BnB

 

[rubixcyoob.]

No one can tell you what to do with your baby hun
I suggest you talk to your boyfriend about it because he needs to know and also talk to your mum.

If you have questions to ask then we are able to answer them and give advice according to them, but we cannot tell you what to do or what to think with you being pregnant etc.

 

[missconfused]

Congratulations on your baby! You should tell your OH to get his opinion on the matter. Are you hoping to keep the baby or put her/him up for adoption?

Sorry Wats An OH? x

 

[aob1013]

Firstly, you need to tell your partner. There is alot of support out there these days, you will be fine.

 

[jenny_wren]

pregnancy's normally scary no matter what age you are

you really need to tell your other half
and sit down and really think through everything

we're always here if you need an ear
but you should really discuss it with your
partner and your parents first

congratulations xx​

 

[missconfused]

Wow! Thanks Every1 Im Certainly Not Askin 4 Ne1 2 Tell Me Wat 2 Do Jus Wana No Wat Ppl Wud Do In My Situation Just Scared Thats All x

 

[honey08]

other half x

 

[aob1013]

Yeah in your situation, i would tell your partner.

 

[rubixcyoob.]

Everyone on this forum is keeping their baby, so we cannot offer different views on the subject.

 

[MissMamma]

I agree with aob, apart from anything he has a right to know asap!

 

[amandad192]

I'd talk to your partner and discuss your options. You never know, he might even be excited.
Just to let you know we are not allowed to talk about the "A" word on here.
But if you choose to keep your baby we will all be here for you.
Baby's really do change your life, but that doesn't mean you have to give up everything you love doing.
I don't think any one is ever "ready" for a baby..even in a stable relationship, with loads of money and time etc and a planned pregnancy.
I hope, if you have your baby, you have a nice easy enjoyable pregnancy!
x

 

[peace]

Despite everyone saying 'tell your partner' that's easier said than done in alot of cases. Most of the time they react in a negative way. Which happened in my case, which led me to start thinking 'your right, we can't do this', when actually I can. Basically what i'm trying to say is, make your mind up on what your doing and make sure your set on it before you tell him. Good luck. x

 

[rubixcyoob.]

No one was saying telling her partner would be easy but she does have to tell him. She cannot make a decision and not tell him. I think that is all we were saying - I know that's all I meant

 

[peace]

I wasn't implying that's what anyone was saying, just like I wasn't implying she should single handly make a decision and not tell him at all.

ps, hope your baby makes an appearance soon. x

 

[rubixcyoob.]

Thanks
And ah, I must have misinterpreted and didn't wnat an arugement to start lol

 

[AnnabelsMummy]

Well firstly, if your 4 months, how many weeks would you be? Secondly.. at first i was really scared too, and completely panicked, but i thought about the support i have and things like that, and i decided i could do it, and i could do it with or without my OH (other half/boyfriend).. but of course i wanted him to be involved, but if he didn't want to be, i couldn't force him to be..

Turns out my boyfriend has been really, really supportive throughout my whole pregnancy, but if he hadn't i'd still have made the same decision..

i'd say think about what you persoanlly want to do - as it's one of the biggest decisions you'll ever make.. and there's no easy one.. then talk to the father of the baby, and explain, and see what he wants - but remember don't let anyone force you into doing something you don't want to, you'll just blame them..

we'd all have very biased opinions, as we've all decided to keep our babies - and we're not actually allowed to talk about the "a" word.. on here..
but if you decide you want to bring this baby up - then deffiantly keep posting - these ladies will get you through your pregnancy!!
xxxxxx

 

[Mindy_mini]

Hun tell your partner. You need to make a decision about this together but at the same time it has to be whats right for you.

Talking to him about it will be a great starting place to find out how you really feel.

If it helps im 30 and this pregnancy is planned and not a shock but I still dont feel "ready" for a baby. If im honest, I dont think anyone is every "ready" until LO arrives. No one can know what to expect until it actually happens. You just learn to adapt and make a routine and new way of living.

But as I say, talk talk talk is the way forward to help you make the right decision for you

xx