Help me keep the faith and hope alive!

[jwalk16]

I'm 36 and a TTCer of my 1st. I would like to know if you conceived naturally (without IUI/IVF) and on what cycle. Also did you do testing before getting a BFP. DH and I are on our 6th cycle of TTC and will begin testing this cycle. I don't believe we have medical problems but you never know. Guess I'm just tired of crying each month when it doesn't happen and then feel completely hopeless going into each cycle. TIA! I just want to feel better somehow.

 

[Biddylee]

I'm 38 and it took 8 months!!! I thought it would take longer. We were using pre seed and I was keeping track of when I ovulate. I had ask after 6 months for fertility checks but everything was generally fine (very mild Hypothyroidism - I have medication but was already pregnant when started it!)

Good luck!!

 

[kellyb]

6 months is SOOOO not a problem yet. My doc said that 80% of women conceive in the first year, so you're totally fine! I was definitely lucky that it took us 4 cycles. I'm 35, hubby is 36, and my period is very regular, so it was easy for us to know exact days for bd'ing. But, my husband was very ill a few years back, so that was a concern. Please don't worry--remember that extra stress you are feeling will impact your body. Try your hardest to just go with the flow...and remember, ONE YEAR 'til you're allowed to start worrying

 

[Samantha675]

We conceived on my 8th cycle. I also went for testing after 6 cycles as I'm not one for waiting around. I did mc that pregnancy, but I knew from the beginning it didn't feel right. My cycle bounced right back and I o'vd two weeks later. We skipped that cycle and started again the next and I got pregnant. I knew it too, even when we were having sex that it was our month. Good luck. Waiting is so hard, but it's worth it.

 

[Seity]

Took me 3 months with us only having sex once a month. Got the timing wrong the first two months. 3rd month had sex 2 days before OV. Got my BFP just weeks before turning 36.

 

[AndreaBat]

Hi there,

Im 41 and 12 days away from giving birth. You have plenty of time hon but dont start stressing about it because that is the worst thing to do .. easier said than done i know

I fell pregnant at 40 but lost the baby .. didn't think I could have children and neither did my bf (who I had only been seeing for 6 months) when I first fell pregnant. After we lost the first one we gave my body 2 months to recover and then started trying again and we were pregnant in the November (after mc in June) and we are where we are now

You will get there .. have faith and for a couple of months monitor when u are ovulating .. have sex every other night for a week before you ovulate, put a pillow under your bum before doing the deed and dont get up for an hour after you have done the deed. It worked for me

Goooooooooooooooood Luck

 

[chanel]

At 34 we concieved first month of trying but unfortunately ended in mmc. Took us another 14 months to concieve our son (i was 36 then). Now after 7months of ttc we are pregnant again I am now 37.

35 is young and if you are ov-ing regularly you are in with a good chance every month.

 

[CatherineK]

Started TTC at 31, after two years my husband was diagnosed with a low count and I had a HSG test to rule out any issues. Well, my husband improved his diet, took vitamins, etc, and I cut down on my exercise (was excessive at the time) and six months after the HSG we got out BFP. (After 3 years of trying).

We lost that baby at 13 weeks (MMC), thought we were through, but got pregnant again after only BD once, before my next cycle. I had my son right when I turned 35.

I got my cycle back January of 2010, (long term breastfeeder), and started trying again for #2. After six months of no luck, my doctor suggested the HSG dye test again. SIx months later, we got my BFP!

I will have this one when I am 38. So while we had no drugs or intervention other than tests, it did take some time. three years for #1, One month for #2, one year for #3. I guess you never can tell! But not bad for someone who though she might never be able to have kids.

Unfortunatly, it is not an easy, happy road always for those of us who have some trouble. But it is SO worth it!

 

[Michieb]

With my first @ 31 took us 9 months (with seriously trying all the time - what a rollercoaster every month - stressingout doesnt help)- now at 35 with #2 - was an unexpected gift from God! Wasn't trying but it happened! Best advice dont stress out and let it happen!!

 

[animalcracker]

Hello Jwalk!

First of all, forget what the doom-sayers say about your age - you are YOUNG! 36 is a great age to have a child!

After being on the pill for 17 years, I came off it last April and got pregnant 3 months later (naturally). I was 38 years old at the time. Unfortunately, I suffered a missed mc at 9 weeks and our baby girl passed away from chromosomal issues - which is common. She only measured 6 weeks and 3 days.

It took ages for my body to get back to normal after that. I think it was a combination of the pregnancy and still adjusting to coming off the pill, but I got pregnant again in May of this year and I'm just over 9 weeks.

The funny part about it is we went to see a fertility specialist in early May because it was taking so long to get pregnant. They started out by doing a scan (they found fibroids) and wanted to do something called an ovary stress test using clomid + some other tests on me. I had to wait for my period first as these tests are performed at a certain time during the cycle.

In the meantime, hubby had his tests done (everything normal) and I'm waiting for my period - nothing. Turns out I was already pregnant! Funny how that worked out !

I think it's great that you are being proactive and seeing a Dr. to get tested - it is good to know what you are dealing with, but chances are (fingers crossed) you will get pregnant naturally - you ARE still young!! Keep us posted and best of luck to you!!

 

[Storm1jet2]

Hi I'm 35 and it took just 4 cycles... I did use OPK and the month I got my bfp a CBFM!

 

[Lynw]

Hi
I'm 35 and pregnant for first time (11 weeks today).
We decided we wanted to try this year so before we started actively trying I charted my cycle for a couple of months using a chart and OPK sticks and saw that my cycle was pretty regular and my date of ovulation was the same each month.
The month we started trying I started the chart and OPK sticks and we BD two days before I knew the OPK stick would turn pink, day of ovulation and for both the 2 days after ovulation. Used pre-seed as a lubricant and afterwards put a pillow under my bottom and laid in bed for a while (sometimes with my legs in the air too - lol) and didn't shower until later in the day (sorry, sounds gross) and we got our BFP that first month of trying.
Good luck and I hope it happens for you soon too xx

 

[truly_blessed]

At 38 it took 18 months of NTNP but unfortunately that ended in missed miscarriage. I'm 41 now and it took 12 cycles of serious TTC with Clearblue monitor. Good luck, you'll get there when you least expect it.

 

[xxembobxx]

I have 3 older children and fell pregnant again when I was 34 which ended in MC.
We tried again but nothing happened. I very rarely have periods so just assumed my body had finished with the baby making. It was when me and OH decided to give up trying that I fell pregnant (2 years later).
I'v never used any methods or had any assistance but neither have I been diagnosed with any problems and obviously I have managed to have children previously.
I fell pregnant again after LO was born and although he was only 7 months old it still seemed to happen only when we had decided LO was a fluke and we should be happy with having one beautiful baby.
I know lots of people say it but in my case it really was when we stopped obsessing about getting pregnant!

 

[MummyMEE]

Hi Honey! I am 38 and fell pregnant after trying for 3 cycles and then giving up! I thought it was never going to happen due to my age. Gave up consciously trying in march and fell pregnant later in the month. Was getting so stressed TTC and then depressed and upset when AF came I am sure it wasn't helping! Good luck xx

 

[ciarhwyfar]

I got pregnant six weeks and two days (give or take) after I moved to NY to be with my OH. I had just turned 39. We weren't exactly trying yet but we weren't doing anything to prevent either.

With this one, we started trying in Nov/Dec 09, bfp in very late Jan 10, mc in Feb. Didn't get another bfp until mid-Jan 11 and I was 5 weeks when I tested because I thought I was going to get AF any day. No testing, no temping, no ovulation sticks, just regular intimacy. Don't often go more than two days at any time as I start to get grouchy.

For me, I think that regular sex is much better than trying to catch the timing right. It didn't cause any stress and we both enjoy it. You just have to figure out what works for you.

 

[jwalk16]

Thank you ladies for posting. It does give me hope. As of right now, everything seems regular (last 3 cycles of 27 days-times before that, had a cycle of 24 and a cycle of 26 days after coming off birth control in March). I am not aware of any health problems with myself. Might get DH checked if any tests for me look normal. Trying not to obsess with TTC. If it happens soon, it happens and I will be so happy. Going to see my doctor on Thursday and see if there will be any tests that the doctor chooses for me to do. I think I will be ovulating soon (maybe this coming week/weekend...my guess is the weekend). Hopefully I will be joining you wonderful ladies soon enough. Thanks again.