wanna-b-mummy
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Hi all,
Really hoping someone has some advice. I'm absolutely desperate and exhausted and I just need something to change because I can't go on for much longer the way things are. Going to be an essay so apologies.
I have 6 month old twins and my boy twin is why I am writing this post. He has never ever ever slept. He suffers from silent reflux which is under control with anti reflux milk and Ranitidine. He's happy in the day that's why I know his reflux isn't bothering him. He was born at 37 weeks at 5lb, he is now on 50th centile and a big big bruiser of a boy. I started weaning him advised by doctor because of reflux a couple of weeks ago. He isn't keen but I'm persevering. He has something at 2pm most days.
My problem is that he hates sleep. He absolutely hates it and just doesn't sleep. at all. We went through a phase at about 8 weeks where he would sleep 6-11, have a feed, and then he would be up every 2 hours until morning. That's as good as it's ever been and I now miss those days desperately because at least I was getting a little sleep and the 6-11 sleep meant I could have a bath, eat dinner, and spend some time with my other little boy doing homework or reading or sometimes just sitting and watching a bit of tv for an hour or so. just normal stuff.
Now - and for weeks and weeks - he goes down at 6, (both he and his sister have naturally implemented this bed time) and his sister will then usually then be asleep until morning or until 3 when she sometimes has a feed. Logan though, will wake probably 3-4 times an hour. Sometimes more. Bad days it's every 5 minutes. Good, he may do an hour or two and then wake every 40 min.
Sometimes all it takes is for us to pat his bum and he goes back to sleep but really this doesn't work that often. He just tosses turns, screams out, cries, whinges, moans, all usually with his eyes closed and then gets hysterical, and this goes on all night long. He has been like this for about 3 months but it's getting worse every night. Every night he starts off in the cot, but I try anything to settle him. I co sleep eventually because I cannot keep getting out of bed every 10 minutes to settle him. Sleeping with me makes no difference.
We thought he was suffering with reflux again - doctors didnt seem so sure as all the symptoms he had with it before have gone. Nonetheless he they put him on max dose of Ranitidine. But I don't think it's illness - I think he just wants to get up. If in the middle of his screaming I put the lamp on, within a minute has stopped crying completely and is silent, or cooing, smiling, kicking his legs. DH has just had enough and taken him downstairs so I can sleep and I can hear him cooing and babbling down there with him. Before, he was shouting and screaming the house down. Naps are pretty much the same unless he falls asleep in the car seat or buggy but naps never last longer than 40 minutes on a good day.
He is teething, he chews and dribbles constantly. They both do. I use Calpol, ibuprofen and teething gel when appropriate. I have wave sounds on at night. The room is perfect temp. They are still in our room. His sister is so used to him she sleeps through it. He won't take a dummy, I've tried. He a lot of the time will settle on a bottle even if it's just one or two sucks. But then that's never for longer than 30-40 min.
I just don't know what to do. I have no life. I am with them all day, I then am upstairs from 6pm-6am in a bedroom. I am so tired that I have constant headaches and I'm dizzy and light headed a lot of the time. I have also just been diagnosed with postnatal depression which the doctor is sure is mostly due to exhaustion.
What can I do? Does anybody have any advice at all? I'm desperate. My mum takes him overnight when she can but getting one night of good sleep a fortnight doesn't make a dent in the exhauation I feel. Doctors keep saying I need to rest and have me time. And Dh is amazing, but it's easy telling me I need sleep to get better. Getting it is impossible.
I just worry that the weeks of undiagnosed reflux in the beginning and the screaming through the night has just given him the worst sleep associations. He just associates it with pain and horribleness. He falls asleep before bed on the bottle or in my arms but stirs as I lay him down but still goes back off usually.
Any advice is welcome. I am open to anything. Thank you.
Really hoping someone has some advice. I'm absolutely desperate and exhausted and I just need something to change because I can't go on for much longer the way things are. Going to be an essay so apologies.
I have 6 month old twins and my boy twin is why I am writing this post. He has never ever ever slept. He suffers from silent reflux which is under control with anti reflux milk and Ranitidine. He's happy in the day that's why I know his reflux isn't bothering him. He was born at 37 weeks at 5lb, he is now on 50th centile and a big big bruiser of a boy. I started weaning him advised by doctor because of reflux a couple of weeks ago. He isn't keen but I'm persevering. He has something at 2pm most days.
My problem is that he hates sleep. He absolutely hates it and just doesn't sleep. at all. We went through a phase at about 8 weeks where he would sleep 6-11, have a feed, and then he would be up every 2 hours until morning. That's as good as it's ever been and I now miss those days desperately because at least I was getting a little sleep and the 6-11 sleep meant I could have a bath, eat dinner, and spend some time with my other little boy doing homework or reading or sometimes just sitting and watching a bit of tv for an hour or so. just normal stuff.
Now - and for weeks and weeks - he goes down at 6, (both he and his sister have naturally implemented this bed time) and his sister will then usually then be asleep until morning or until 3 when she sometimes has a feed. Logan though, will wake probably 3-4 times an hour. Sometimes more. Bad days it's every 5 minutes. Good, he may do an hour or two and then wake every 40 min.
Sometimes all it takes is for us to pat his bum and he goes back to sleep but really this doesn't work that often. He just tosses turns, screams out, cries, whinges, moans, all usually with his eyes closed and then gets hysterical, and this goes on all night long. He has been like this for about 3 months but it's getting worse every night. Every night he starts off in the cot, but I try anything to settle him. I co sleep eventually because I cannot keep getting out of bed every 10 minutes to settle him. Sleeping with me makes no difference.
We thought he was suffering with reflux again - doctors didnt seem so sure as all the symptoms he had with it before have gone. Nonetheless he they put him on max dose of Ranitidine. But I don't think it's illness - I think he just wants to get up. If in the middle of his screaming I put the lamp on, within a minute has stopped crying completely and is silent, or cooing, smiling, kicking his legs. DH has just had enough and taken him downstairs so I can sleep and I can hear him cooing and babbling down there with him. Before, he was shouting and screaming the house down. Naps are pretty much the same unless he falls asleep in the car seat or buggy but naps never last longer than 40 minutes on a good day.
He is teething, he chews and dribbles constantly. They both do. I use Calpol, ibuprofen and teething gel when appropriate. I have wave sounds on at night. The room is perfect temp. They are still in our room. His sister is so used to him she sleeps through it. He won't take a dummy, I've tried. He a lot of the time will settle on a bottle even if it's just one or two sucks. But then that's never for longer than 30-40 min.
I just don't know what to do. I have no life. I am with them all day, I then am upstairs from 6pm-6am in a bedroom. I am so tired that I have constant headaches and I'm dizzy and light headed a lot of the time. I have also just been diagnosed with postnatal depression which the doctor is sure is mostly due to exhaustion.
What can I do? Does anybody have any advice at all? I'm desperate. My mum takes him overnight when she can but getting one night of good sleep a fortnight doesn't make a dent in the exhauation I feel. Doctors keep saying I need to rest and have me time. And Dh is amazing, but it's easy telling me I need sleep to get better. Getting it is impossible.
I just worry that the weeks of undiagnosed reflux in the beginning and the screaming through the night has just given him the worst sleep associations. He just associates it with pain and horribleness. He falls asleep before bed on the bottle or in my arms but stirs as I lay him down but still goes back off usually.
Any advice is welcome. I am open to anything. Thank you.
