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grneyednurse
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I have pasted from my journal and added some more here.
I need advice from others who have went to their 1st fertility workup appointments!
We have been TTC for 8 months now (see my journal I just started for the full story) as I will be 35 in 2 weeks so thought I would get a head start on the workup and had an appt with a doc that was a quack and a half, kinda like that madwoman from Misery. She even had a sliding type wood door-same like in Texas Chainsaw Massacre-which I didn't know was a door, but part of the wall as I expected her to come through the normal door as I sat naked on the table!...I was freaked.
First off, I was the only patient there and I was there from 10am until 1pm which tells you she isn't exactly booming in business. She talked for two hours and was very thorough, so thorough I wanted up and run as she was driving me crazy with seemingly unrelated questioning! She went on about the depression/anxiety that was setting in because of TTC and she said depressed/anxious people shouldn't have kids and most docs won't help you TTC if you have this problem-she made it sound like I was abnormal and unfit for getting this way because of TTC! I don't get it, isn't this normal if you are suffering from infertility?
Then she went on about how fat I was (true) and how I need to lose weight before any of the town RE docs will see me should I need to go that far! Also, how I will need to have my non-problematic fibroids removed (had them last two pregnancies without issue and remain that way) because RE docs won't mess with me if I have them either!
Let's see, she didn't do any labs, but wanted me to collect my other medical records to prevent "doing anything twice" and also went on to a spur of the moment endometrial biopsy! I was in shock! Ouch.
Lucky I took those HPTs this am (BFNs) or otherwise she would have went ahead and poked right into an embryo without testing first! She is only one of three REs in town, but she doesn't do any IVF, ICSI etc, but refers you should we need it. She just does the workup and medications like clomid, etc.
So I guess I will go on ahead with the remainder of the tests (HSG and myomectomy) that were "in my future" out of desperation. She did give a referral for a SA for DH, so that is good, but otherwise she made me feel like this will be a near impossible struggle and we've only just begun! She didn't even care about my bleed or much of anything about my cycle! She seemed to try to ask certain questions to as she said "bend insurance so that we can cover some of this infertility workup" but admitted to not even knowing if my insurance does or does not!! I don't know about all this. I am so scared and even more depressed and feel I should get on the ball about my fat arse and somehow muddle through my depression without even knowing if we will be successful! I am so sad and I hven't even been diagnosed with anything.
Please tell me what your experiences were or just what are they "supposed" to do here. I am so afraid.
I need advice from others who have went to their 1st fertility workup appointments!
We have been TTC for 8 months now (see my journal I just started for the full story) as I will be 35 in 2 weeks so thought I would get a head start on the workup and had an appt with a doc that was a quack and a half, kinda like that madwoman from Misery. She even had a sliding type wood door-same like in Texas Chainsaw Massacre-which I didn't know was a door, but part of the wall as I expected her to come through the normal door as I sat naked on the table!...I was freaked.
First off, I was the only patient there and I was there from 10am until 1pm which tells you she isn't exactly booming in business. She talked for two hours and was very thorough, so thorough I wanted up and run as she was driving me crazy with seemingly unrelated questioning! She went on about the depression/anxiety that was setting in because of TTC and she said depressed/anxious people shouldn't have kids and most docs won't help you TTC if you have this problem-she made it sound like I was abnormal and unfit for getting this way because of TTC! I don't get it, isn't this normal if you are suffering from infertility?
Then she went on about how fat I was (true) and how I need to lose weight before any of the town RE docs will see me should I need to go that far! Also, how I will need to have my non-problematic fibroids removed (had them last two pregnancies without issue and remain that way) because RE docs won't mess with me if I have them either!
Let's see, she didn't do any labs, but wanted me to collect my other medical records to prevent "doing anything twice" and also went on to a spur of the moment endometrial biopsy! I was in shock! Ouch.
Lucky I took those HPTs this am (BFNs) or otherwise she would have went ahead and poked right into an embryo without testing first! She is only one of three REs in town, but she doesn't do any IVF, ICSI etc, but refers you should we need it. She just does the workup and medications like clomid, etc.
So I guess I will go on ahead with the remainder of the tests (HSG and myomectomy) that were "in my future" out of desperation. She did give a referral for a SA for DH, so that is good, but otherwise she made me feel like this will be a near impossible struggle and we've only just begun! She didn't even care about my bleed or much of anything about my cycle! She seemed to try to ask certain questions to as she said "bend insurance so that we can cover some of this infertility workup" but admitted to not even knowing if my insurance does or does not!! I don't know about all this. I am so scared and even more depressed and feel I should get on the ball about my fat arse and somehow muddle through my depression without even knowing if we will be successful! I am so sad and I hven't even been diagnosed with anything.
Please tell me what your experiences were or just what are they "supposed" to do here. I am so afraid.
