Help: Paranoid:

[LovedTeen121]

Hi,

I don't think this post is ment to be in this section due to the other threads I have seen, sorry for the sudden urge, I am just in need of desperate advice and I need to re-build my confidence.

Me and my Girlfriend had protected sex (Condom) a while back just before Christmas, just after her regular period had ended. (When I was about to ejactulate I had pulled out properly and correctly in using extra caution).

My girlfriend has very heavy periods which last 5+ days but are part of her regular life in her life and normal. She is not on the pill just yet. I am briefly going to explain the steps we had taken. I had been worried about pregnancy from then onwards and have learned a very valuable lesson that I am clearly not ready for sex yet.

We had first of all taken 2 pregnancy tests. Taken simultaniously, about 2-3 weeks after Christmas. Both tests where used correct and properly: BOTH NEGATIVE; these tests where taken when we had our first paranoid instincts about being pregnant.

After we had taken both tests my girlfriends periods was about 5-7 days late (with alot of NORMAL White discharge each day until she recieved her period which was a sign her period was comming during these 5-7 days and maybe a few days before I think yes). She then recieved her period which had a regular duration of about 5+ days and was heavy and normal.

NOTE: The periods did not contain symtoms of pregnancy, such as light, pinkish blood or spotting.

I think her period may have been late due to a stress period between us. We was both paranoid about being pregnant and what could happen to both our futures which had resulted in alot of emotion and deep paranoia, is this true? From my research it is possible, but I need a personal opinions.

My girlfriends period cycle had started again a few days ago on the 16/2/08, (Just after the January Cycle) which was not late, and was heavy and normal and is just about to end.

NOTE: The periods again did not contain symtoms of pregnancy.

She has not recieved any symptoms of pregnancy at all or atleast from my or her knowledge.

Has anyone got any advice in giving me, or am I simpily paranoid? I am only being paranoid, due to the fact of the answerboards of people saying that its possible you can have your periods whilst being pregnant.

I forgot to mention, we both lost our Virginity and I had not 'broken through' (Blood, due to first time intercorse) her, sorry for not using the correct medical term. I thought it may be nessicary.


Regards.

 

[Samo]

hard to tell really what you're being paranoid about? if she got her period, then she is not pregnant. and you say she's gotten both January and February's cycle...so what are you afraid of exactly?

use a condom next time, sweet. Or if you're going to continue being paranoid and scared each time you two get intimate, then i'm sorry to say, but it may not be a right time for you to be sexually active as you are clearly not ready yet.

 

[LovedTeen121]

I can see the advice you're given, I appriciate that, I am unready for sex that is my lesson I have learned I am afraid and that I will take it onboard in the near future.

However, I am just simpily reading on general forums and notice boards that you can be pregnant whilst having your periods which has caused this paranoia I'm afraid, sorry for being 'so petty' in this thread, its just I am a very cautious and paranoid when it comes to these type of things

 

[LovedTeen121]

use a condom next time, sweet.

We had used a condom, sorry for pointing this out, just incase you where mistaken sorry.

 

[miel]

i do agree with samo...you also have the option to ask your girlfriend to go with birth control option before you have intercourse again together.
take you time togehter and think of all the options available to you guys before you become sexually intimate again.
good luck and relax i think you safe for this month ...

 

[sleepinbeauty]

she's not pregnant, don't worry. Even if ou're not comfortable with intercorse anymore there are still other ways to interact sexually with each other if you both want to though.

 

[TashaAndBump]

If you used a condom and your girlfriend has come on normally for the last few cycles of her period it is safe to say that she is not pregnant from your experience of intercourse before christmas. Especially with the negative pregnancy tests after christmas. So if you're telling us the full story you have nothing to worry about in that respect.

Some women do bleed during pregnancy - but they don't test negative on pregnancy tests and have usually had unprotected sex rather than safe sex in order to get into that predicament.

I think it's positive that you have learned from this experience and know now that you are not ready for this kind of intimate relationship. There are other ways that you and your girlfriend can have fun and share your affection and maybe you should explore these more until you both feel more ready and clued up about full sex.

Perhaps you two could go together to your local family planning / drop in clinic to discuss the different methods of contraception and their reliability. This could give you greater confidence in the method of birth control that you chose to use in the future, preventing scares like this reoccuring.

If you have any more concerns or questions, don't hesitate to ask.

Best wishes,

 

[coccyx]

Making love should be a stressfree, enjoyable time for both of you, not full of worries. Get some advice on contraception, take necessary pills, wear a condom etc, . When you know you have taken the necessary precautions sex is more enjoyable