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[Jemma_x]

Well some of you may know my story of me giving birth to my little girl lauren at 21+3 and sadley she was only with us for 15 minutes, well now ive got a problem well not so much a problem more of a worry.

After losing my little girl i had a really light period about a week after and now just over a month on my period is late and i have been feeling really sickly these past couple of days and just not myself so it has crossed my mind i may be pregnant again and that in itself would not be a problem as me and my OH believe everything happens for a reason and if i was meant to get pregnant so soon then thats what was meant to happen.

The problem is im worried if i am pregnant people will think were trying to replace lauren, were not trying to do that, nothing could replace our little girl she will always be out first.

Im going out now to the local 24 shop to get a test and i will update you all with the result but has anyone got any advice for me, would be really grateful

Jemma
x


UPDATE : well i know that no-one has actually replied yet but thats because its silly o'clock in morning but just to let you know i have been and got a test and ive just got home and tested and i am pregnant.

Advice would be really appreciated x

 

[todteach]

I'm crying reading your post. Congratulations hun.

I know that you're not trying to replace Lauren; no one will ever think that. I am so happy for you.

Here's to a stressful and exciting next 9 months.

 

[alphatee]

i dont think many ppl will think ur replacing lauren, after reading many of ur previous posts i no ur not..congrations on ur pregnancy & hope a happy 9 months ahead xx

 

[Margerle]

I'm so happy for you! Congrats to you both!

I don't think you're trying to replace your first child either. Shame on anyone who does.

 

[Vickie]

Congratulations. I agree with the others, shame on anyone who thinks you are trying to replace the child you lost....she is irreplaceable.

 

[Marg_27]

Congratulations hunni
I dont think your trying to replace her, and any1 that does, well, their opinion doesnt matter. For them to think that will make them insensitive, non-friends and non-caring!
You will always love Lauren, as you will this next baby.
Forget any1 that says it! And enjoy your 9 months and time with your child!

 

[Loo]

Well I promise that as I was reading your post I actually said 'what???' out loud!! My DH asked me who I was talking to! lol

And by that, I mean that I meant 'what?? who on earth would ever think you are trying to replace her?' I certainly wasn't thinking that as I read your post - I was just thinking Wow!! congratulations!! And well done for getting pg so quickly and I hope this 9 months is a happier one.

I think there is probably a little bit of you that feels guilty for feeling happy. You shouldn't feel bad in anyway, this is fabulous news and you are allowed to bask in the joy of it! And I am sure that Lauren would want her mummy and daddy to be ahppy and will love her new brother or sister from where she is in heaven.

All the best and a big congratulations
xxx

 

[doctordeesmrs]

Congratulations hun. I'm a great believer that things happen for a reason. This was obviously meant to be. Lauren will never be replaced.

 

[Tishimouse]

Replacing baby Lauren ... no.

Replacing a space filled with hurt and anxiety in your heart ... yes.

Now this little miracle can fill that space and you can store all your love and devotion to your first little darling where it should be ... in that special place that belongs to only her, a warm secure loving space in your soul. Lauren will always be with you and she will no doubt be a special guardian angel to her new little brother or sister when they arrive.

What matters is how you both feel, it's not about anyone else and if anyone ever expresses a negative comment you just ask them how they think their words make you feel. Ask them if they have a right to comment and ask them if they believe they are helping by voicing their uninvited opinion. You just go ahead and ask them.

For now, I would like to say congratulations to you both and wish you a wonderful, healthy pregnancy. Your pregnancy is a gift, sent to you to make you happy

 

[Tasha]

Firstly congratulations to you and James hun. Secondly sadly you probably will get some stupid comments, but what other people say and think is so not important. You, James and Lauren know you are not replacing her, children are not replaceable and Lauren will always be part of your life.

The only thing I can really suggest is when people say are you okay, and how is the pregnancy going, be completely true, say well actually it is very stressful because I am scared as well as missing Lauren, if they say things along the lines of 1st pregnancy, gently remind this isnt your first pregnancy, I think in this case although it is tough just remind them of your little girl when ever you can.

Hope this helps xxx

 

[~KACI~]

What matters is how you both feel, it's not about anyone else and if anyone ever expresses a negative comment you just ask them how they think their words make you feel. Ask them if they have a right to comment and ask them if they believe they are helping by voicing their uninvited opinion. You just go ahead and ask them.

Agree totally!!
Lauren was your first born, no child can ever be replaced, hopefully people with a heart will see this!!
Everything happens for a reason so congratulations and have a great 9months!! x x

 

[MarieLou72]

Just wanted to say how happy I am for you - you so deserve this. I really can't believe anyone would think you were trying to replace Lauren - if they do they're not worth knowing.

Big congratulations to you sweetie.



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[SJK]

congrats chick, so pleased for you, dont be thinking like that, you will only upset yourself more, dont worry about others. You will never replace or forget lauren, it will help you to move forward, happy 9 nine months xxx

 

[Freya]

congratulations! What wonderful news. I truly believe the majority of the people around you will be very happy for you and wont be critical or 'judgey'.

I too believe everything happens for a reason, and remember that your soul, heart, mind and body were all ready for a pregnancy, so it's no suprise you were able to concieve without really 'planning' to.

After loosing Lauren, hopefully your doc and midwife will be taking super care of you for this pregnancy. Looking forward to seeing you on your 9 month journey and beyond on baby n bump!

xxxxx

 

[Barneyboo]

Just wanted to say I am so happy for you and your anyone who really knows you and your partner will know that this little one will not be a replacement for Lauren as said before she is your first baby... I wish you all the love and luck in the world x x x x x

 

[jonnanne3]

Congratulations! I am so happy for you. You little Lauren will never be replaced. She is you first born and anyone with a child or a heart knows that a child can never be replaced! Good luck and I hope and pray have a healthy and happy nine months!!!!!!!!!

 

[kelly86]

congratulations

 

[shmoo75]

Congratulations on your hun and, I don't think you are replacing your little daughter. Just make sure you get yourself to your GP first thing on Monday morning no doubt they will keep a very close eye on you with this pregnancy.

 

[v2007]

My daughter died last year, and last month i found out i was pregnant again.
Whether you got pregnant 6 weeks or 6 months or even 6 yrs later your are not replacing Lauren. She is and will always be your 1st born.
She will never be replaced.
You are giving her a sibling.
I have to be honest, you will get get sum quite frankly stoopid comments.

Congratulations on your

And have a very happy and healthy 8 n a bit months.

V x x x x

 

[6lilpigs]

This seems a strange section of bnb to be posting a congratulations but congratulations. I am so pleased for you both. I don't know the story of your daughter but nature has decided to bless you now with her lil brother or sister so I wish you luck with your continued journey.