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millymolly

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Hi everyone
I'm totally new to all this but I am finding this website so helpful. At last I can identify with so many of you and I am starting to realise that I am not alone...I have found it so difficult recently.

Apologies in advance.. I can talk and talk!

A brief introduction...I have been TTC for 2 yrs since getting re-married and coming off the pill. I have had a history of spotting but was told last year that hormones ok so prob just my body taking time to get back to normal after the pill. DH and I were thrilled when we had :bfn: last summer but were devastated when we had a 10 week scan to be told baby had died at 7 weeks :cry: I hadnt had any bleeding or pain at all and although I knew I was at risk of mc due to age, I was trying to remain positive as I really felt pregnant. (ERPC followed).

I was fortunate to fall pregnant again in March this year but was so scared. This time I didnt have as strong pregnancy symptoms so was naturally worried but everyone said all pregnancies different! I then started spotting so was really stressed. Scan at 7 weeks showed all ok and spotting stopped but at 9 weeks resumed and a scan showed baby died at 8 weeks + 2 days (Medical management followed) :cry:

Since then my body has gone haywire :wacko:.... I bled for 2 wks after mc then only had 3 dry days before starting to bleed again on 25 May... really confused.... nurse said too early for :witch: but I had had ov pain. A rescan that week (to check for retained products) showed I had actually ov so it was my first :witch: since mc. This lasted 2 weeks then I had only 5 dry days before spotting for two weeks! I then had one dry day before my 2nd :witch: (since mc) started last week on 2 July but thankfully this only lasted 5 days and now I'm CD 8. Apparently, the last scan also showed a small polyp so yet another hurdle to overcome! (My GP has referred me to Gynae)

There hasn't been many days for my DH and I to :sex: so odds are against us! TMI :blush:

So... with my age, 2 x mc's, spotting and now polyp , we need a miracle. (no money for private care)

Please forgive me, I know I'm very fortunate to have 2 sons' from previous marriage but hope you understand that as a female I cannot help the female hormones making me broody and making me long for a baby with my wonderful new husband (he's a great step dad but younger than me with no children of his own).

Apologies for all the waffle but I needed to sound off as my head has been spinning for weeks now! :headspin:

Take care and :hugs: to you all x
 
Well welcome to the board!! Wish it were on better circumstances though. I'm so sorry to hear of your losses, and not a single one of us will ever think you ungreatful. Girls here are ultra supportive and so genuinly sweet. I know that you'll love it here.
Sounds like you've had a bit of a ride with :witch: lately. I hope that your new doc can help you get it all sorted very soon. Lots of :hugs: hun.
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Hi and welcome millymolly.

Im so sorry for your losses.

Hope that the :witch: sorts herself out for you. I found that this site has been a god send. The girls here are wonderful!! I couldn't have done without them after my MC.

Take care and don't forget we're here to listen if you need to rant!!

:hug:

Kerry
 
I'm so sorry for your losses :(

Lots and lots of luck and babydust coming your way!

:hug::hugs:
 
First let me say that I am so sorry for your losses. I can completely relate. I have 3 children from a previous marriage and my husband is a wonderful stepdad to my children. I had my tubes tied in 1999 and then had a tubal reversal in 2007. We got pregnant in Jan this year and had a mc in March. then we got pregnant again in June and just mc on July 5th. I am 36 and my husband is 31 with no children of his own. I believe with a little patience and prayer we will have our baby. I wish you all the luck and I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. If you ever want to talk, please feel free to pm me. Take care..... :hug:
 
:hi: Hi All

'BIG THANKS' to you all for reading my thread, I know I went on a bit but it has helped me tremendously by being able to 'sound off' to people that understand. My head has finally stopped spinning!!! :yipee: Its so nice to chat to you all and make so many new friends. :friends:

:hug: x
 
So sorry Jonnanne3 to hear of your recent mc...thoughts and prayers are with you and your hubby at this difficult time!


We both have 2 baby angels now

:hug: xxx
 
I know someone who had a polyp too. They just removed it and all her spotting stopped. So hopefully once that's gone - you'll feel better and have more time for Bd'ing!!

Sorry to hear of your loss and good luck.

x
 
First of all let me say I am sorry for your losses hun and I know what you mean about wanting a baby so badly hun. We decided to try for another baby in Dec and in Jan we got pregnant and lost that baby in Feb then we got pregnant again straight away in Feb and lost that baby in May.

People assume that because I have 3 already that it shouldn't affect me as much but it does. The baby was still part of me and my husband and it died that same as anyone else who has suffered this kind of loss. It doesn't matter how many you already have or you life choices so I wanna give you huge :hugs::hug:
 
sending hugs and some extra strength to keep you going.

I personally believe anything is possible, so dont let go of your dream just yet!!!

xxxx
 
I am so sorry for your losses hun. I found out I was pg begining of may and before the mth was out I had m/c. I got pg 1st cycle of trying and am hoping we do again. You will have your baby with your OH and, if anyone says stupid things that you already have children its ok just ignore them as they are talking out of their bums! My bestfriend m/c her 2nd pg and she says in some ways its worse than m/c your 1st as, you have had a happy and healthy pg b4 why can't you now? With me I am begining to think ok I know I can get pg but, can I keep it for the full 9mths or, am I doomed to lose all the time? It is so hard for us and, people who have never experianced this cannot understand what we are going through. We are all here for you if you need us. Sending you :hugs::hugs::hug:
 
Thanks shmoo75 for your message and words of support....much appreciated!

We have to remain positive, I know...but it's hard, I desperately would love to be pg again but would be really scared of going through a mc again!

P.S. I lived in Essex for 10 years and my 2 sons' were born there!

:hug:
Take care xxx
 
You are more than welcome hun. Me and the other girls are always here for you when ever you need us.

I know what you mean about being scared. I keep telling myself I got pg b4 I can do it again and, then another little voice is saying yes but you m/c b4 and that could happen again as well!!!! Me and OH have decided as soon as I get another :bfp: I will go to my GP the following wk not straight away as I did b4, only tell our respective bosses and a few very close work collegues, once we have had an early scan to make sure all is ok then we will tell our parents, my brother and a couple of very close friends then, after the 12wk scan tell everyone else. Fingers crossed that we can get that far nxt time and end up with a healthy baby at the end. It is going to be so hard nxt time for us.

I was born and brought up in Southend and I now live in Thurrock with my OH
 
I wish you all the best with your TTC

We told everyone about our PG straight away last year and when we mc, we then had to let everyone know the bad news. This year's PG, we decided not to tell anyone until 12 weeks and were getting excited about showing the scan pics to announce the good news but it wasnt to be as we only got to 8 week. We then still ended up telling everyone the bad news cos we were grieving and wanted people to know why we were not our normal cheerful, bubbly selves. Part of me was superstitious about telling people about the PG second time around but now I think it doesn matter whether you tell or not, you just have to do with what feels best for you and you OH!

I lived in Chelmsford and South Woodham Ferrers

Stay positive xxx
 
Shmoo75 I know exactly how you feel...I m/c on first pregnancy and now I wonder whether I can ever sustain a pregnancy full term. (let alone whether I will ever get pregnant again!)

Although I am sorry others have gone throught the same pain as us, I am grateful someone else understands what we are going through.

Good luck to us all next time
x
 

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