jo_79
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Hi im looking for some advice for my DD whos 9 - 10 in march.
Basically she's a very shy girl, doesnt make friends easily but when she does she's very loyal and very caring.
A few years ago a girl joined her school, she's the opposite of DD, very outgoing, loud, really bossy and very forward which in my eyes often borders on being rude. Since joining she has been renowned for picking on girls in her class. DD has always tried to make friends with her inviting her to birthday parties and trying to get involved with the "cool" stuff this girl is interested in.
Now since about a year ago DD has come home saying this girl has been saying nasty things to her, i always say just ignore her if she's got nothing nice to say. Recently she's been screaming in her face calling her stupid, throwing water in her face (my mother caught her doing this), DD is growing boobs and this girl encourages others to take the mickey out of her when they change for games/swimming, she often butts in DD conversation and tells her she's doing stuff wrong seems like just to cause trouble, she says spiteful things to DD, like today she went in school and DD was telling her something and she said i dont care what i did and what im doing is far more important, reading that bit back doesnt sound so bad but its every day all day, DD is really feeling crap and that she's stupid and not worth anything. She has a couple of girl friends who also get picked on and tends to hang around with boys at lunchtime. Before xmas they had a rainy games day where they just played games and she had to play a board game with this girl and she wouldnt play by the rules (10yr old know how to play basic board games properly!) they were playing connect 4 and she put her counter in and saw that DD would get a row of 4 so said i want to change my mind DD said no thats cheating, she continued to get her counter back out and put it in another space where DD got a row of 4 anyway lol then the girl cos she didnt get her own way starting calling DD names and threw the game over!!!!!
I also have a feeling that DD's teacher doesnt really like her and because she is quiet and doesnt come forward quickly in class she's often looked over and brushed aside.
I have been into school this morning and named the nasty child to the headteacher who said she'll sort it out but knowing what this girl is like i wonder if it is only going to make things worse for DD. Her mother is also very forward and can be quite intimidating sometimes; i am far from quiet and shy and can definitely hold my own but even i take a step back when she starts.
For about 2 years DD has nagged me to let her move schools to one closer by us, currently her school is about 30 min drive to where we used to live. When she moves up to secondary school in Sept 2011 she'll be going to a school where we live where she will know nobody.
Now do i look into changing schools as of after half term, 1 is 5 mins walk from the house other is 10min drive on my way to work. Allow her to make friends before she moves up or leave her where she is then let her start secondary school on her own next year.
I remember starting secondary school was daunting enough without knowing absolutely no-one!
OH says leave her and let her move up next year.
DD father and step mum say move her if she's that unhappy.
Sorry for all the rambling i just hate her coming out from school crying and not wanting to go back in the next day.
Thanks and well done if you're still awake after my essay lol
Basically she's a very shy girl, doesnt make friends easily but when she does she's very loyal and very caring.
A few years ago a girl joined her school, she's the opposite of DD, very outgoing, loud, really bossy and very forward which in my eyes often borders on being rude. Since joining she has been renowned for picking on girls in her class. DD has always tried to make friends with her inviting her to birthday parties and trying to get involved with the "cool" stuff this girl is interested in.
Now since about a year ago DD has come home saying this girl has been saying nasty things to her, i always say just ignore her if she's got nothing nice to say. Recently she's been screaming in her face calling her stupid, throwing water in her face (my mother caught her doing this), DD is growing boobs and this girl encourages others to take the mickey out of her when they change for games/swimming, she often butts in DD conversation and tells her she's doing stuff wrong seems like just to cause trouble, she says spiteful things to DD, like today she went in school and DD was telling her something and she said i dont care what i did and what im doing is far more important, reading that bit back doesnt sound so bad but its every day all day, DD is really feeling crap and that she's stupid and not worth anything. She has a couple of girl friends who also get picked on and tends to hang around with boys at lunchtime. Before xmas they had a rainy games day where they just played games and she had to play a board game with this girl and she wouldnt play by the rules (10yr old know how to play basic board games properly!) they were playing connect 4 and she put her counter in and saw that DD would get a row of 4 so said i want to change my mind DD said no thats cheating, she continued to get her counter back out and put it in another space where DD got a row of 4 anyway lol then the girl cos she didnt get her own way starting calling DD names and threw the game over!!!!!
I also have a feeling that DD's teacher doesnt really like her and because she is quiet and doesnt come forward quickly in class she's often looked over and brushed aside.
I have been into school this morning and named the nasty child to the headteacher who said she'll sort it out but knowing what this girl is like i wonder if it is only going to make things worse for DD. Her mother is also very forward and can be quite intimidating sometimes; i am far from quiet and shy and can definitely hold my own but even i take a step back when she starts.
For about 2 years DD has nagged me to let her move schools to one closer by us, currently her school is about 30 min drive to where we used to live. When she moves up to secondary school in Sept 2011 she'll be going to a school where we live where she will know nobody.
Now do i look into changing schools as of after half term, 1 is 5 mins walk from the house other is 10min drive on my way to work. Allow her to make friends before she moves up or leave her where she is then let her start secondary school on her own next year.
I remember starting secondary school was daunting enough without knowing absolutely no-one!
OH says leave her and let her move up next year.
DD father and step mum say move her if she's that unhappy.
Sorry for all the rambling i just hate her coming out from school crying and not wanting to go back in the next day.
Thanks and well done if you're still awake after my essay lol