GersPrincess
Mummy of 3, soon to be 4!
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Hiya everyone,
I really hope someone can help me. I have no experience of this and don't know what to do.
My 9yr old son and 8yr old daughter started a new school in January. My daughter has always been confident, bubbly and outgoing with a gaggle of friends, whereas my son has been a bit quieter and takes his time getting to know people and then has select group of friends.
To start with, every day they came home on a high, all excited about how great their new school was, and how much they loved everything about it. Right up until last Tuesday. Jessica started complaining of a belly ache just before the school bus came. She didnt seem unwell in any other sense, so I sent her along to school anyway. She was fine when she came home, quiet, but not unwell. On the wednesday, she suddenly lost her school bus pass right before leaving the house, we turned it upside down looking for it, and found it in time to catch the bus, she was far from amused.
Thursday she was fine about going to school, came home very quiet, had a long shower before bed and went to sleep without complaining. Usually she gets her lucnhbox out her bag herself, but she hadnt that night, so I got it out. I found a little diary she'd made out of paper tied together with string, and in it she'd written a lot of things about a girl called kara, and all these things she'd been saying to her. I didnt ask her about it, as I didnt want her to think I was snooping, but I called the school on friday morning.
They said as far as they were concerned, she was settling in fine, they hadnt witnessed anything with this girl, but they'd keep an eye on things.
Jess was fine all weekend. Sunday night, 4am, she comes into our room and says she'd been sick. She did feel a little warm, so gave her some calpol and a drink and sent her back to bed. She got up with hubby at 6am and he says she was fine, chatting away with him etc, up until I got out of bed at 7am, when she suddenly got ill again. She said she had tummy ache, all her legs hurt and that she just wanted to sleep. So, I gave her the benefit of the doubt and let her have the day off. By 10am she was her usual self, so I said, ooh maybe you should go into school now... and again her illness returned. Then she got better at lunch time and stayed that way until hubby came in from work.
This morning, she was right as rain, although said she still had a tummy ache. I sent her to school. School rang me at lunchtime and said she was ill with tummy ache and I had to go and collect her. I went down, and spoke to the office staff and mentioned about this kara girl again, and asked how Jess was settling in. They assured me everything was fine, she was always with at least one friend but again they would monitor things.
I kid you not, before we'd even got home, she was 100% herself again. Hubby is convinced she is making up these illnesses, but I just dont know.
It could be a bug which comes and goes, but on the other hand it could be a bit of bullying or simply not having settled in yet.. what do you think? what would you do in my situation? how would you handle this?
Thanks for reading!
I really hope someone can help me. I have no experience of this and don't know what to do.
My 9yr old son and 8yr old daughter started a new school in January. My daughter has always been confident, bubbly and outgoing with a gaggle of friends, whereas my son has been a bit quieter and takes his time getting to know people and then has select group of friends.
To start with, every day they came home on a high, all excited about how great their new school was, and how much they loved everything about it. Right up until last Tuesday. Jessica started complaining of a belly ache just before the school bus came. She didnt seem unwell in any other sense, so I sent her along to school anyway. She was fine when she came home, quiet, but not unwell. On the wednesday, she suddenly lost her school bus pass right before leaving the house, we turned it upside down looking for it, and found it in time to catch the bus, she was far from amused.
Thursday she was fine about going to school, came home very quiet, had a long shower before bed and went to sleep without complaining. Usually she gets her lucnhbox out her bag herself, but she hadnt that night, so I got it out. I found a little diary she'd made out of paper tied together with string, and in it she'd written a lot of things about a girl called kara, and all these things she'd been saying to her. I didnt ask her about it, as I didnt want her to think I was snooping, but I called the school on friday morning.
They said as far as they were concerned, she was settling in fine, they hadnt witnessed anything with this girl, but they'd keep an eye on things.
Jess was fine all weekend. Sunday night, 4am, she comes into our room and says she'd been sick. She did feel a little warm, so gave her some calpol and a drink and sent her back to bed. She got up with hubby at 6am and he says she was fine, chatting away with him etc, up until I got out of bed at 7am, when she suddenly got ill again. She said she had tummy ache, all her legs hurt and that she just wanted to sleep. So, I gave her the benefit of the doubt and let her have the day off. By 10am she was her usual self, so I said, ooh maybe you should go into school now... and again her illness returned. Then she got better at lunch time and stayed that way until hubby came in from work.
This morning, she was right as rain, although said she still had a tummy ache. I sent her to school. School rang me at lunchtime and said she was ill with tummy ache and I had to go and collect her. I went down, and spoke to the office staff and mentioned about this kara girl again, and asked how Jess was settling in. They assured me everything was fine, she was always with at least one friend but again they would monitor things.
I kid you not, before we'd even got home, she was 100% herself again. Hubby is convinced she is making up these illnesses, but I just dont know.
It could be a bug which comes and goes, but on the other hand it could be a bit of bullying or simply not having settled in yet.. what do you think? what would you do in my situation? how would you handle this?
Thanks for reading!