Help!

[babydue2011]

So if a guy takes a picture with a girl and holding her belly ... would that mean shes pregnant? i mean do guys really take pics like that. answers please before i loose my mind

i know i shouldnt have but i did... i looked at ex fb and he has a profile pic of him and his new gf.. he is holding her belly not from the back like the side position with his hand laying against her stomach.

 

[Laura2919]

I couldnt really say as I havent seen the picture. I think it all depends..

 

[babydue2011]

i dont know how to post pics on here. oh my goodness my heart is racing like crazy., i will really be hurt if she is and its his. i am still trying to get over him. and for him to say he doesnt want this child but will stay with her will just crush me. it really looks like. i mean its like he is behind her holding her ... like beside her leaning down and laying his hand right on her stomach. i cant see anything of hers or his really except the profile pic so idk. but i am freaking out and just feel like i cant breath just thinking of it being true..

 

[Laura2919]

You can put a link up, or you could just ask if he is expecting another baby..

 

[babydue2011]

he wont answer me. he will tell me to leave him alone or just ignore me.

i asked one of his friends but having a feeling they will ignore me to. i guess i shouldnt care. but gosh my heart feels like its breaking into a million pieces just thinking about it being true.

 

[Rhio92]

I know it hurts hun, I found out that FOB's got his new girlfriend pregnant, and it hurts so so so much
Hope you're ok, PM me at any time if you need to x

 

[Brionybaby]

Hope its not what it looks like xx

 

[babydue2011]

thanks girls. i hope so but idk just the way it looks. i just have this awful feeling it is... i am hoping his friend will write me back with an answer but he may just ignore me too.

 

[teal]

xx

 

[Laura2919]

The sinking feeling will happen all the time. I cant begin to tell you how many times I have felt it and I dont know why. Cos I cant really stand him. Maybe because I need to get out more.

 

[babydue2011]

its confirmed... his new gf is preg. they are moving in together and getting married! WTF! i am really about to have a freaking breakdown! how the hell does somebody do this to another person!

 

[Mally01]

Oh sweetheart I am so sorry to hear your news, really sorry. Lots of us understand what you are going through and we know how badly something like that hurts when you are pregnant. You MUST be strong about this though okay. He is not a nice person. Any man that posts a picture on facebook of his new girlfriend being pregnant whilst the other one is also expecting, is a big shit of the highest order. Look, you know what he is capable of (abandoning you and baby etc, etc) so his personality is deep down crappy okay? This means this poor other girl is gonna get his rubbish behaviour at some point but you are now free of that. Don't for one second think that you are any less of a person because of what he has done, because that's not true. If I was his girlfriend, I would be seriously questioning in the back of my mind why he left another girl pregnant and that would make me very uneasy. You are in a better position now as you are free of him and his selfishness.


You need to just get all the hurt and tears out first, eat buckets of ice cream, watch sad movies , whatever releases all the emotions and then quickly brush yourself off and think of all this as a fresh, new start and a great future with your baby and the man in the future who will love you loads and take care of you both. Gived yourself time, as time will truthfully heal all wounds and be good to yourself. You are well rid of a man like your ex and one day you will realise that, maybe not for a while as it's raw, but one day you will look back and be thankful you are not with someone like that anymore.

 

[babydue2011]

thank you Mally01 for your kind words. i know your right... there is this pain in my heart that has not gone away and now its just grown. i just want my LO here already. i feel like i am in nightmare that i cant wake up from. its just shocking. his new gf does not know about me being preg. i jusst need to get over this saddness and pick myself back up. i was with him for 3 years and since out break up been preg so havent got to really get out there and make friends. blahhh

 

[jessrabbit]

I really feel for you, I know that sinking feeling. My FOB story is a little different as we were never 'together' as such. But I can relate to the feeling of someone you love treating you like crap and then moving onto someone else (appearing to treat them better).

Like Mally01 says you need to do whatever it takes to get the emotions out so you can move on. Remember its ok to feel upset, its totally justified and you need to feel them to go through the grieving process of the end of a relationship.

Try to look after yourself and take life day by day.

He is one of the worst kinds of men to do this to you at the moment.

xxxx

 

[Mally01]

His girlfriend doesn't know you are pregnant!! gosh, well are you going to tell her? Others may disagree with me but I would just want to tell this woman, but then again, I suppose she is pregnant too and that might not be the best thing? .

Lets face it, he has already broken her heart as well, she just doesn't know it yet. Wow what a right asshole. I thought he would have at least told her. Shows you how long that relationship will last hun, when he's got a huge secret he is not telling her already. You are well out of it. You look after yourself okay and you are a way better person than that shmucky tool of a guy. xxx

 

[babydue2011]

its crazy when you think you know somebody but in the end really have no idea. He wanted me to have an abortion, i was preg 3 times before and each time said i needed an abortion since we were not ready ( had mc all 3 times )... i just dont see how with me he was not ready but with her he is. only been with her for maybe 5months... idk i just feel lied to about everything. like what was the truth? was it ever true or was i just the girl there till a new one came along.

Mally01.. no the new gf does not know about me. i want to tell her and there have been many times (like last night) that i almost have messaged her. but im going to wait. i want my LO here so she can see it is his. I have anger toward her and idk why. its not really her fault. but i will let him think he is living life happily and then shake it a little to show him not all secrets can be kept and the way he has treated me ... honestly why am i trying to cover up for his feelings.

everything inside me has been crushed...

 

[babydue2011]

a update.... so she is about 5 - 6 months preg! with a BOY! ... oh and they had been talking longer then i was told by him. As well when he slept with me after the break up he was sleeping with her as well..... WOWOWOWOW! i honestly feel... really i dont know how to feel. i am glad she has him now and not me. he thinks i still want him back but at this point i honestly do not. i just want my LO here and for his karma to hit. He has no excitment about my baby but her FB is covered in him being excited! i guess live and lean but gosh this was a harsh lesson.

 

[jessrabbit]

I dont know how you are biting your tongue and not telling her. I would tell her. She has a right to know the truth and decide whether or not she wants to continue to be with such a person.

But at the same time I understand you dont want to stir stuff, in his mind it will confirm to him that you want to get back with him when you dont and he definately wont thank you for it and she might not.

Really feel for you, its not fair for him to put you in this position. She doesnt know about you, but does his family?

xx

 

[babydue2011]

it is hard bitting my tongue! trust me last night my mom had to calm me down and keep from going to his house. No his family does not know about me either. The reason i am waiting for baby is because he will tell ppl it is not his... so when baby is here there will be NO denying it. its very hard to believe all of this. i really feel lied to and just wonder what was ever true. all i know is i will have my baby, the world (his family, his friends and her) will soon know the truth. but its so sad they will not be allowed in my babys life. His family could have reached out to me but never did. I want them to know what a horrible son they raised. goshhh i just want to scream haha

 

[Mally01]

Gosh, you have so much patience hun. After finding out she is 5-6 months gone I think that would have been the last straw for me and I would have told her straight. I get what you are saying though, once baby is physically here, you have something to show everyone. I hope you do let the cat out of the bag when the baby is born, because that ******* deserves EVERYONE knowing what he has done, he really does. I know we should probably sympathise with another pregnant woman and in all fairness she doesn't know about your condition but she really does need to know what a nasty piece of work he really is. I guess he will deffo deny it's his but like you said, a DNA test will prove otherwise.

I feel for you and give you all my hugs. It's bloody bad enough to be abandoned by your guy when pregnant but to find out that you are discarded like rubbish and he has got someone else pregnant and is happy about that baby is beyond cruel. I hope Karma hits him really bad and I hope you get tons of great karma coming your way as you deserve it after this.