General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[DobbyForever]

Oh yeah I did Shae haha my bad. That's awesome! I'm glad you have help. Even if things are boxed up already, moving is such a big task. Hope it all goes smoothly!

So "date" #2 was lovely. He left work early and we met at the park by a manmade lake. Had fun making out and people watching. I have no anxiety with him. Just feel super safe. He's obsessed with me. Who can blame him He is going on a work trip then to visit his fam in Chicago so I won't see him until he's back which is after the 4th.

 

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Autumnal sorry about the early pregnancy discomfort! Hummph had to bring up the age thing, eh. Honestly I think my 3rd pregnancy was more miserable than this last one. I mean the end was rough but isn’t it always? Anywho do people at your work know yet??

Shae you must be moved by now! How did it go?

Dobs oooooh you better not go anywhere, I am so invested in how this turns out!! He sounds like a nice dude. Honestly you deserve to be treated nicely by someone so I am really rooting for this to be the start of something wonderful! Even if it’s just a short term NSA fling. But that’s a lot of vacationing for a fling……bummer foe the forced break but hope you make up for it when he gets back

So to answers BIL is moving for a better paying position, however it’s only 8k more a year and evidently more because the lack of income tax. I still think states with no income tax get you elsewhere but what do I know. Honestly I think it’s more out of spite towards his current supervisor (who he hates) and an excuse to live closer to his favorite cousin. His best fried plans to move down there in a couple years as well so bonus for him I guess. Also SIL will be closer to her own family.

So last night hubby ended up in the ER and it really felt like our first taste of family emergencies if we’re alone in the area. I stayed with the kids and he drove himself. I could have had MIL watch the kids but to be honest I don’t trust anyone with the baby overnight. Fortunately he wasn’t there too long and nothing major, he just had a freak incident happen. In a nut shell he has had ab on again, off again sore throat the oast couple weeks and found that massaging it has helped relieve the discomfort. Well I guess he was really pushing hard and he said he felt a crack, and the pain was suddenly much worse…..he ended up fracturing his cartilage 0_0 it can be life-threatening so thank God it isn’t as bad as it could have been. Anyway he is in discomfort but fine.

As for me…I’m 8 weeks postpartum and still bleeding so they’re investigating that on Friday. I’m hoping it’s nothing that requires intervention but we’ll see….my fear is it’s residual tissue and I have to get a d&c or something but hopefully not and I just need to stay off google.

 

[shaescott]

Gigs oh my Lord. Note to self, no throat massages. I wonder how hard he had to be massaging it to actually fracture the cartilage… ouch sorry about the bleeding. I really don’t know much about postpartum bleeding (I’ll have to add that to my research list lol) so I have no advice or knowledge there. Hopefully it’s no big deal.

We are moved, unpacking is going quite slowly lol, still don’t know where the plates or utensils are lmao, but the bed is together, and I know where my work clothes are, so ya know, priorities. The apartment is by no means perfect, but we’re just so glad to have our own place just the two of us. The cats are adjusting differently, but exactly as I would have expected honestly. The extroverted loud one adjusted by the next morning and was back to yelling at me for pets and food. The shy terrified one is hiding a lot, but he did come up for pets once when I got up at 1:30 am and caught both of them out and about, after the loud one came for pets and reminded the shy one that he likes those that tends to be how it happens normally, the loud one models the human interaction behavior and the shy one goes “oh okay, he didn’t get hurt and he looked happy, maybe I can do that too”.

 

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That’s actually nice you have the two cats then, at least in the case of the shy one. In the pet fish world people sometimes use the more active, less shy fish to get shy fish out if hiding. The theory is if the scared one see the others swimming and they’re fine, then the water must be ok to explore, and they come out. They active fish are called “dithers” or “dither fish”….so yeah you have a dither cat lol

Glad you’re all moved! How did the actual move process go?

 

[autumnal]

Oh my gosh Gigs so sorry about your hubby. What an insane thing to have happen!! Hope he is recovering well

Congrats on the move Shae!

 

[DobbyForever]

Shae hahah yes priorities. Glad the kitties are adjusting. I’m sure as you get everything unpacked and the place set up with your personal things it’ll be perfect. Home is where the heart is.

Gigs OMG that’s terrifying! I’m glad he’s ok and was able to drive himself to the ER. Did they say anything about what might have been causing that level of discomfort? I can see that though. I used to have an ex massage my ankle/scar tissue every night and it felt so good but quickly started to develop a bad bruise. But yikes the throat! I’m so glad he got to the ER in time.

Yes stay off Google! It’s the worst haha. Ask ChatGPT instead jk. Sorry you have to wait until Friday to get answers.

lol yeah I’m in a good headspace mentally now that everything is squared away with A’s school and I’m on meds I’ll be around until the next catastrophe.

Okay the super long tea on the Engineer. Grab your popcorn.
He just wrapped up his week in TX and he’s off to his parents this morning. We had CTJ talk a few nights ago because he really texts me with the intensity of a guy who is pursuing me to date me rather than short term/casual. He basically started spiraling because he likes me, so I called him to tell him to chill out and go to bed and it turned into a 7 hour conversation. The key take aways being:

1. I’m right. He wants to date me but is insecure and scared of hurting me/A or of losing himself in a relationship (he stopped pursuing all of his passions and stopped hanging out with his friends with his last gf)
2. Apparently we had very different versions of what the Carmel sleep away meant. I thought it was casual. Apparently, in his mind, once he takes me that’s him committing to me. And I was like how in the eff did you get that idea in your head
3. There’s only a week between when he gets back and I go to FL, so we’ll do 1-3 g rated dates then and another g rated date when I get back and make a plan for Carmel then.

So anyway I broke him for about a day and half but we needed to have that convo and now he’s back to his adorable self. My only concern is that I get self sabotage vibes as his default. Like I don’t know if over a long period of time he’ll chill the eff out or not lol.

I was telling my cousin like there’s a lot about him that reminds me of my dad. Which I can’t really say about most of my exes. So I am curious to see how this goes. But he’s made it very clear in actions and words that I’ll be getting the princess treatment with him. So he’s going to be around for a minute and the roster is closed and all the players kicked off the bench.

 

[autumnal]

He sounds like such a sweet guy, I hope that he is able to keep it casual with you but it kind of sounds like he won't be able to? He sounds completely smitten!

 

[shaescott]

Dobs I think this guy is doomed to fall in love with you tbh. Are you just not at all open to a long term relationship right now? Or is it more that you don’t want to get too serious too fast?

Gigs moving wasn’t terrible because DH’s friends all showed up to help load and unload the moving truck. Unpacking is another story, but we’re getting there lol. Maybe when it’s finally all put together and pretty, I’ll share some photos. That’s funny about dither fish, definitely the same principle. My dither cat is snuggled up to me in bed at the moment, we didn’t used to let them in our room because there was once an incident where Toby peed on DH’s shirt. It was not able to be saved. But a few months ago we started letting them in our room while we were there, and turns out Billy Bob loves to curl up on the bed with us.
How is your DH’s throat doing?

AFM I started trying to be consistent with a vitamin regimen, I’ve been really bad about that and I don’t want to have an oopsie and have crap folate and choline levels. So I got the ritual prenatal, ritual choline (but taking 1 instead of 2 until actually pregnant, I get some choline from food sources), and a COQ10 and NAC fertility supplement to boost those eggos. Unfortunately, vitamins are the easy part of being healthy exercise and eating well, that’s the hard part.

 

[DobbyForever]

Shae love that you’re taking vitamins! I agree, better to be prepared should an oops happen. Especially with the way DH is playing a little more fast and loose lately hehe. Awww that’s too bad about the shirt but just shows how far he’s come.

Gigs ditto hope DH is healing and the mystery pain is gone

Hope everyone else is doing well! And Happy Independence Day! Or just another day around here because I’ve no grill and no babysitter and no life lol

Yeah so we’ve continued to text. He’s now told his family we’re talking. We have two dates planned next week before I head to FL. He’s made it very clear that I mean more to him than the initial casual plan.

I’m not opposed to dating him. I just had created the profile with the intention of having a hot girl garden tool summer with a bunch (ok not bunch lol) of 25-30 year olds. Just needed the pipes cleaned. I’ve been working towards a headspace of being ok dating. He’s honestly scarily everything I manifested. Which, to be fair, wasn’t a whole lot. On the shallow side: he’s 6’2, he’s my white guy type (that reads so racist lol but idk how else to describe it), he’s definitely packing (we made out and I may have checked), he has a great smile and body, and he makes great money at a great job. For his personality: he’s so intentional and attentive, he doesn’t judge me for my past but learns from it to help me heal, we have amazing communication when one of us starts to spiral, he’s funny, he’s sexy, he’s also a serial monogamist, he’s really into his family, he’s adorably shy, he’s ambitious and smart, he doesn’t just ask/think about me but fully embraces that I’m a mom, he’s adventurous, and (this is the crazy one because ChatGPT created this whole persona of a fake bf for me *don’t ask lol that’s a whole story for another day lol*) he builds stuff. Like he can demo/remodel or build things from scratch. A broke the couch and he’s going to fix it for me so I don’t have to buy a new one. And he gets a million cool points because I have made it abundantly clear he can get it, and he is insisting we do things right and our first time shouldn’t be because we’re both hot dogs. Even though that was the original plan when we both made our profiles.

So he’s not the only one who is smitten haha.

 

[gigglebox]

Awww Dobby I am so happy for you!! He actually sounds like quite decent dating material. And being capable with his hands is an enormous plus in my book. That’s a self-sufficient man right there. But most importantly it sounds like your communication is stellar which is so important!! I’m giving this one the green light go! I really hope this is the start of a good thing sometimes they come long when we aren’t looking!

More later….baby fuss

 

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shae we’ll have to support each other on health journeys! I’m starting back up since things got derailed from pregnancy. I’m not crazy about the now additional 20-25lbs I have to work off but here we are!

Thanks all for your kind words! Hubby is still healing but better, and now the joke in our friends group is I choked him too hard during sex we hosted a 4th party and that was the group’s consensus and we were all cracking up about it. Good times.

In not so fun news, baby was diagnosed with lyrngomalacia it’s nothing major but in a nutshell he has a structural issue in his throat that causes him to squeak when he breathes in laying down (he sounds like a party horn—lots of fun at night when you’re trying to sleep with the baby by your head). There’s a spectrum of how bad it can be but fortunately his is on the milder side, and now we just wait for him to grow out of it.

 

[RedRose19]

Posting in here for more eyes.. 3 different name brands all positive with different levels of darkness, but frer and clearblue are neg well they have squinter lines. What are the chances of this being false positives? Also can you see the lines