Ninagrrl
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I am a mother of a 4 year old special needs child. He has hypotonia, skeletal dysmorphia, a severe developmental delay and a bunch of behavioral issues. Because of this and some soft markers they decided to go ahead and give my newborn daughter a micro array test.
The good news is they think it's unlikely that she will have the same issues as my son. The bad news is they found a chromosome deletion that causes a condition called hereditary multiple exostoses. Basically it causes bone spurs to grow primarily on the long bones of the arms and legs. It can also cause short stature, bowing of the limbs and non symetrical bone growth. She also has a 1 - 20% chance of developing a cancer called chondrosarcoma.
Really I was fine at the doctors office which is normal because I don't show my emotions publicly and will hold it together until behind closed doors but I didn't think this was going to be one of those cases. My dad has been diagnosed with "calcified spikes" on his neck and although they cause him pain, I can't physically see them. I know I shouldn't care about the physical deformity as long as my daughter is healthy and free from pain but I figured these bone spurs were small. Until I looked it up and saw some pictures. I'm hoping I saw extreme cases and that my daughter won't have those issues because this world is extremely visual and I would hate to have her go through this, especially since they typically present themselves in early adolescence.
I was really hoping for good news, that this was just a formality. The soft markers that she was there for turned up with nothing so this was really just found because of the micro array. I'm having a very bad day and it's one of those days where you wonder if you really should have had kids. I love my kids but I would hate for them to go through life miserable. What are the chances of having two kids with separate physical deformities caused by genetics?
Has anyone here heard of this mutation? I'm hoping that someone can tell me they know someone with this and can tell me that the severity can be extremely mild. However, it's pretty rare and only happens 1 in 50,000 people so I won't hold my breath. I guess mostly this will end up being a rant. I don't know where to go since no one else in my life other then OH could possibly understand what it's like to feel like you possibly destroyed your children's lives simply by having them.
The good news is they think it's unlikely that she will have the same issues as my son. The bad news is they found a chromosome deletion that causes a condition called hereditary multiple exostoses. Basically it causes bone spurs to grow primarily on the long bones of the arms and legs. It can also cause short stature, bowing of the limbs and non symetrical bone growth. She also has a 1 - 20% chance of developing a cancer called chondrosarcoma.
Really I was fine at the doctors office which is normal because I don't show my emotions publicly and will hold it together until behind closed doors but I didn't think this was going to be one of those cases. My dad has been diagnosed with "calcified spikes" on his neck and although they cause him pain, I can't physically see them. I know I shouldn't care about the physical deformity as long as my daughter is healthy and free from pain but I figured these bone spurs were small. Until I looked it up and saw some pictures. I'm hoping I saw extreme cases and that my daughter won't have those issues because this world is extremely visual and I would hate to have her go through this, especially since they typically present themselves in early adolescence.
I was really hoping for good news, that this was just a formality. The soft markers that she was there for turned up with nothing so this was really just found because of the micro array. I'm having a very bad day and it's one of those days where you wonder if you really should have had kids. I love my kids but I would hate for them to go through life miserable. What are the chances of having two kids with separate physical deformities caused by genetics?
Has anyone here heard of this mutation? I'm hoping that someone can tell me they know someone with this and can tell me that the severity can be extremely mild. However, it's pretty rare and only happens 1 in 50,000 people so I won't hold my breath. I guess mostly this will end up being a rant. I don't know where to go since no one else in my life other then OH could possibly understand what it's like to feel like you possibly destroyed your children's lives simply by having them.