Hi ladies. I'm just leaving the hospital where I came because I had a question mark over some results for a swab taken for various reasons two weeks ago. I've just been told I have antibodies that indicate that I have had a herpes infection more than four weeks before the swab was taken.
This is an absolute bombshell to me. The doctor was so grave and serious while telling me this which scared me and made tears drip down my face although he then assured me this shouldn't affect my pregnancy and I'll be given treatment from 36 weeks till delivery to prevent transmission to the baby. I am reassured in terms of the baby and pregnancy but I am in absolute and total shock because I cannot understand how I've come to have this antibody.
I've had four sexual partners in my life and apart from two instances (fully protected) in the past 11 years I've only been with my husband. I realise I cant say with 100% certainty that my husband hasn't cheated on me, it's unbelievably unlikely for various reasons (what he's like + logistical reasons). However I can't tell him any of this or ask him anything about it because I think it will make him ask a lot of questions of me in return and I'm not prepared to set up any problems between us during my pregnancy. I just feel devastated as well as absolutely confused. I don't know what I'm looking for here because I refuse to start googling in case all I get is horror stories. Does anyone know if it is possible to catch herpes from manual stimulation or from a sex toy? The doctor has told me you can catch it from oral sex with someone who had an active cold sore at the time, but I am 99.9% sure this hasn't happened. I've also never had cold sores myself and never had any symptoms of genital herpes.
I asked the doctor if this was going to be brought up at any future appointments, for example at my next midwife appointment at 27 weeks, and he said he could put a note on the system telling them not to mention it. I said yes, which made me look terrible because it's basically me admitting that I don't want my husband to hear about this. I don't know what to do. He's waiting for me outside and knows there was something in my results that was queried, and I don't know what I'm going to tell him. One thing for sure is that I have had several swabs and a smear test since the last time I had intimate contact with anyone and this never showed up. I'm so confused and tearful right now. I don't know what to do.
This is an absolute bombshell to me. The doctor was so grave and serious while telling me this which scared me and made tears drip down my face although he then assured me this shouldn't affect my pregnancy and I'll be given treatment from 36 weeks till delivery to prevent transmission to the baby. I am reassured in terms of the baby and pregnancy but I am in absolute and total shock because I cannot understand how I've come to have this antibody.
I've had four sexual partners in my life and apart from two instances (fully protected) in the past 11 years I've only been with my husband. I realise I cant say with 100% certainty that my husband hasn't cheated on me, it's unbelievably unlikely for various reasons (what he's like + logistical reasons). However I can't tell him any of this or ask him anything about it because I think it will make him ask a lot of questions of me in return and I'm not prepared to set up any problems between us during my pregnancy. I just feel devastated as well as absolutely confused. I don't know what I'm looking for here because I refuse to start googling in case all I get is horror stories. Does anyone know if it is possible to catch herpes from manual stimulation or from a sex toy? The doctor has told me you can catch it from oral sex with someone who had an active cold sore at the time, but I am 99.9% sure this hasn't happened. I've also never had cold sores myself and never had any symptoms of genital herpes.
I asked the doctor if this was going to be brought up at any future appointments, for example at my next midwife appointment at 27 weeks, and he said he could put a note on the system telling them not to mention it. I said yes, which made me look terrible because it's basically me admitting that I don't want my husband to hear about this. I don't know what to do. He's waiting for me outside and knows there was something in my results that was queried, and I don't know what I'm going to tell him. One thing for sure is that I have had several swabs and a smear test since the last time I had intimate contact with anyone and this never showed up. I'm so confused and tearful right now. I don't know what to do.