He's grossed out. TMI

[jaytee146]

So I finally made it to 16 weeks! I've finally come around to wanting to have sex as because I've been so high risk it wasn't on the radar. Well, after holding a conversation with my partner today, we conversed about my growing tummy and intercourse. He told me that he's grossed out at the thought of sex, especially oral sex. He feels that because there is a life in there he urged me to wait until after I'm clearly healed and well into my postpartum journey before oral sex was mentioned. He told me that sex can happen but if I spot for any reason that's it for that too........ He only wants to attempt it from one angle. Now why am I sitting here crying?????!? Am I really gross? Is oral sex a no go whilst pregnant? Would I be Petty to tell him he should wait to get oral sex too

 

[Cewsbaby]

Im so sorry. My DH wasn't into sex at all with either of my pregnancy's. He just said that it made him feel so awkward that he didn't even want to attempt it. It actually hurt my feelings like you but he later said it wasn't that he wasn't attracted to me it was just weird knowing that there was a person in me and that he just couldn't get that out of his head. Maybe thats what is going on with your OH.

 

[noon_child]

I totally understand why you are upset. Unfortunately we can’t really change what makes us feel uncomfortable and turned off (although when it comes to things like periods etc. as a society we could do more to expose people and educate them - no-one should be made to feel that their completely normal body is gross). Has he mentioned any other ways of meeting your sexual needs? If he doesn’t want to get involved with body fluids there are still things you can do - sex toys for example. I think it is really important that you keep the sensuality going and kisses and cuddles are great for our mental health.

 

[Babybump87]

I agree with the other ladies . My DH finds it awkward once i get a bigger tummy and can feel baby moving and doesn’t like the thought of it . I just think it’s one of those things. It’s hurtful though as some ladies still seek that intimacy ! I’ve totally gone off sex and found it uncomfortable last time we did it !

You can still snuggle , kiss and things to keep that intimacy between you !

 

[Chezzer]

Well my ex from a previous made me feel pretty shit about not wanting sex.he did because I brought him to the brink of no return with a bj I'd just turn round and get him to do me doggy lol. And then that stopped, so I said in a pub not in a quiet voice, that I needed to go to Ann summers, (UK it's a shop that sells sexi undies and big girls toys) to get a vibe (in these exact words ) cos of if u won't fuck me il fuck myself, he told me where he kept his stash of porn dvds I filled my boots .

 

[jaytee146]

Thanks for the responses ladies! He is a truck driver so we only get to see him every 3 to 6 weeks. I totally understand his sacrifice but I will admit I get a bit lonely. Maybe I should visit the sex shop until things get back to our version of normal, but until then I don't want his hugs lol! He hugs me too well, don't want to be reminded of the stuff I'm not getting LOL

 

[Chezzer]

Thanks for the responses ladies! He is a truck driver so we only get to see him every 3 to 6 weeks. I totally understand his sacrifice but I will admit I get a bit lonely. Maybe I should visit the sex shop until things get back to our version of normal, but until then I don't want his hugs lol! He hugs me too well, don't want to be reminded of the stuff I'm not getting LOL

Yeah get on down to the sex shop and gets some batteries to, if it's been a while it won't take long for u to get there.
Have your 5 a day girl lol.x